My girls are 25 months apart and I didn't cope well at all. The biggest thing I learned was to just relax and take your time. Don't rush back into things after the baby. It takes a good month or two to get used to the changes and your son is going to look huge next to the baby. The weird thing is I had a hard time changing Meike. I was so used to Maddie helping me dress her that having to manipulate Meike was weird. Plus, at that time I had Maddie stand up to pull her pants on after a changing, can't do that with a newborn. I still try this with babies. I put pants on my friend's 9-month-old son and it was really strange, he kept crawling away from me and he was laughing at me.
Another thing, your children will be so different. Try not to expect the same behaviors and mannerisms that can be frustrating. Maddie was a great baby, quiet crier, content, loved to be around everyone. Meike cry was more like screaming, she fell asleep when I nursed and didn't get enough to eat and she cried for six weeks almost all the time. At night she slept only when she was in bed with me. I finally realized she was cold and need to be warmed, so we warmed her bed before putting her down and wrapped her up tight. Maddie didn't like to be wrapped. I don't mean to scare you because like I said they are all different. Meike was difficult from pregnancy. She used to kick me when I laid on my side until I moved. She did this every single night during the last trimester. It is amazing what you can learn from the way they move in the womb. My sister said the sweetest thing to me today. She told me God gave me her because I have the patients. What she didn't know is during Meike's first year, I prayed daily to love her and have patience with her. She is now our little comedian and she is the smartest thing I have ever seen. She walked at nine months, talked in complete sentences early (not sure when but compared to the others her age it was early) and she knew her ABC before she was 18 months. Amazing the differences. Maddie is compassionate and creative. She has lots of friends and cries at the drop of the hat. Meike likes to talk back and is so sneaky. We were shopping today and started yelling at a lady because she was standing in front of something she wanted to see. I was embarrassed and I wanted to laugh. She thinks saying we are onions in a snippy voice is funny and she likes to hide in her room with Maddie's juice cup everyday drinking it until Maddie gets mad and cries. Too bad I knew what she is doing.
I enjoy them so much when I relax and accept them for who they are.
Don't ask me about my kids, you can't shut me up. Thanks for asking because that is something that scared me was the postpartum depression I experienced after Meike. I don't want to experience that again. I feel better now.
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