OK...well I recently made a friend and being 28...this is rare as I don't have any others. So naturally I am going to be very nervous about exposing specifics on IBS out of fear it will make me appear difficult, weird, high maintenance. I want friends and it is very hard for me.
Same time, this past weekend I was over and am still dealing with a reaction. My stomach is bloated and it feels like it came from hidden dairy. I did drink, had food with HFCS, and some things (Mustard) had garlic...but that type of stuff would not cause me to have a reaction of bloating and BMs three days out.
Hidden dairy usually will not strike me at once, but gradually, will linger with a lot of bloating. Thing is I checked, nothing had dairy. The only food which MAY contain is was my grilled chicken seasoning, but again I didn't feel instantly bad after.
The pancakes were made with no dairy...after that I felt a reaction but it felt more like eating too much bread.
How do I handle this? My friend knows I have IBS, knows I can't eat whole grains, dairy, or fats. He asks and shows genuine concern about it...but I have not communicated in detail.
I have not told him that dairy can be hidden in everything, or that HFCS is really bad for me, as are sauces, and garlic. Nor have I told him about the 25% calorie rule.
Why? I don't know how to without coming off as high maintenance. I am not sure how to explain IBS no-nos for me in this much detail....somebody can be overwhelmed.
How I can handle this so it is not a point where going out=IBS problems but me explaining=me being sought out less? I have AS (aspergers) so making friends is rare and communication is hard.
I was thinking maybe having a brief 5 minute chat to explain details; or sending him an email/list; being more specific when he or his wife cook; bringing my own groceries.
I just do not want to impose or come off as difficult because people might be worn out.
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Question....how to tell friends about IBS and food?
