Sorry you feel so trapped and frustrated by your IBS. Even with IBS, there are many, MANY varieties of foods and meals that you can prepare. Please read Sand's great post on Exuberant Eating . It really motivated me to try some new dishes.
If you feel that nothing's helping your IBS, have you considered hypnotherapy and medications? I think there's a misconception that for everyone diet alone will help your IBS. That's not true for everyone. Diet is only one part of a larger way to manage this disorder.
I really hope you hang in there. I think the boards can be more stressful and confusing for someone who's not yet stable or doesn't fully grasp the EFI diet. Myabe your husband should sit with you and help you plan the meals. Maybe there's a way to make something you can both enjoy or take a favorite dish and make it IBS friendly. THere's no reason why your meals have to be so boring or repetitive.