I think, to some degree, we are culturally stigmatized and "trained" to feel "shame" re: bodily functions, even more when
that seemingly normal, natural function is taken for granted.
Do you think that you may be doing yourself a disservice with this charade? I appreciate/understand your silence and facade, but do you really want it to negatively interfere with your relationship? If he doesn't "get it" or is unwilling to learn understanding/sensitivity then he's just not worth it. I don't understand why you are tormenting yourself with this game?
You're both adults. How is it that we can share sexual communication through other orfices but when it comes to one's g.i. tract and everything associated with it we get embarrassed?
In my last live-in relationship, I couldn't hide my IBS if I tried!!! You wouldn't believe how beyond nice and understanding the ex was! Most people have their own something or set of something that is chronic, not necessarily physical, but psychological.
You'll probably sleep alot better and s**t alot better if you just open up about your IBS. He's as human as you are!
You'd be surprised!
Kate, IBS-D.
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