The reason I did research on books was to understand what my Girlfriend was, is, and will be for some time going through. With me doing the cooking most of the time I simply *had* to know some things, and *had* to understand them better for her sake.
The best way for me was through understanding IBS, learning how to help, and sympathy. All of those are things I was trying to do and Heather's book helped just as much as feedback from my better half and observing flare-ups etc.
Eating for IBS in my option would be a great way to start the conversations again with your husband. A refresher course of sorts maybe…If he feels frustrated with canceled plans, overtime, or eating oats and blueberries for breakfast with you perhaps reiterating how frustrating it is for you to him would help.
I can only speak form my limited perspective, when my s/o's IBS flares up I know it frustrates her to no end and its painful as all hell at times. I have go into pamper mode. No matter how much it may suck for us as a pair, it sucks for her worse. By me taking care of canceling plans if needed, hand off play, movies, or ball tickets to friends, make some hot tea, pick up a handful of movies on the way home, and rethink what is in the fridge and in the pantry to make sure we can make her something to help.
Perspective for me is what helped. When I change my perspective to hers IBS is easy to live with as a s/o.
Him knowing the facts again may help, and maybe you'll find things to help you in the book.
IBS for Mike = I get to cook more, there is some unscheduled quality time on the couch with the s/o.
-Mike
*edit* Since I did not sign the post...and I spell like a 3rd grader 
Edited by MikeC (07/03/03 08:03 AM)
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