I hate to complain about my mom, but I know she is a trigger for my IBS. She means well and I know she loves me. She and I get along and enjoy doing things together. There is a tendency, however, to make me feel extremely guilty for not taking part in family get-togethers, holidays, etc. I feel guilty when my husband and I are invited to my parents house for dinner on special occasions and we can't make it because we've got other plans. You see, my husband's family and my family and us all live in the same town. We have to either divide our time up between the two families or include both together. Both families get along great. But, it's makes it hard to try and make sure nobody's feelings get hurt that we didn't spend time with them. You know what I mean?
Let me give you an idea what it's like......this past weekend was Father's Day and I have told my mom all along that we would plan on getting together with her and dad on the 21st because we were going to have company this past weekend on my husband's side of the family and his mom had already made plans for us to be with her and the company. Well, the company didn't make it and I told my mom that since we didn't know whether my dad would be in town or not we go with our original plan to spend the day with my husband's mom and spend next weekend with my parents. Fine? Evidently not. She once again invited us to dinner at their house and when I politely said "Thank you but we already have plans.", she said sarcastically "I know, I just thought I'd ask again!" and then abruptly ended the conversation. Needless to say, I felt extremely guilty. It's that way all the time. I feel like I constantly disappoint her. I know I've also disappointed her by not being able to have kids. Just her tone of voice when she reacts to things I tell her, makes me feel like a disappointment. My stomach gets in knots every time I have to tell her we aren't going to be able to do something she wants us to. Does this make sense to anyone. Sorry for rambling.
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Does anyone else have a family member who is a trigger for your IBS?
