Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Date day with husband ruined by IBS

I am so so sorry for you and totally understand everything you are going through. everything. nobody gets the true impact of ibs but the sufferers themselves. nobody. there are so many phases psychologically in dealing with ibs, and you are going through the 'f**k this, i am going to suffer anyway so I might aswell just eat what i want'. its not always going to be this way.
listen, the problem with this disease is that if we only stick to the diet 95%, that 5% may just still ruin us...so we feel like we are doing so much and nothing seems enough. it takes total utter antisocial bloody commitment to stick through the first few months of finding out what you can and cannot eat, what works for you etc...and rewards will come, slowly but surely, but also possibly rapidly too!!! I KNOW its easier said then done (I have had this since I was 15...I am now 25)...but you HAVE to totally committ.
My ibs has recently deterioated following a virus and I am currently eating only 11 different things and slowly but surely reintroducing foods, with good and bad results. I just got married so can relate on the romantic front.
I keep a food, time and symptom diary and it helps me feel and actually GAIN control over this bugger disease. I AM achieving some truths here. Its two steps forward and one back but I WILL get there and so will you. You just have to start.
Have you tried going back to complete basics, like a baby and re weaning yourself onto food??? Maybe you have and I have just written that whole paragraph on relearning how to eat!!!
Let yourself have a good cry, put your fist through the pillow, hug your husband and you WILL get better. There is no choice but to do everything possible to minimise symptoms through food management.Ultimately you are the only one that suffers if you eat whatever and you are only going to go on a downward spiral.
I hope I helped. I know what I am saying makes it sound like a piece of cake...believe me, I KNOW its not...I cry often about this. Its incredibly hard and challenging.
Good luck XXXXX

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