Nothingness day
#99687 - 08/20/04 09:48 AM
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Linz
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Does anyone else ever just do NOTHING and then realise the day's nearly over? I went to the bank this morning, but that's ALL I have done. I've been sitting at the kitchen table in a stupor reading a book. And there is SO much to do. Crappy. My head feels like it's full of fog.
I've been bad and had a coffee (eek!) so at least now I'm moving. Don't know whether it's Fibro, or not having taken my SSRIs regularly enough recently, or coming down with something or feeling a bit depressed cos I'm not pregnant, or everything all together. Oh, and add that my house and garden still look like I've just moved in even though we've been here since MAy. It's a disaster. 
Please, someone, tell me I'm not the only hopelessly lazy creature here?!
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Linzy, why beat yourself up over what sounds like a perfectly lovely day? I know we all feel like we must justify our existence every single minute, but why? Why can't we just sit and exist every once in a while?
I'll bet that if something really needed to be done this instant, you'd do it. But housework? Girl, that stuff is neverending and doesn't really matter in the long run. Don't get me wrong - I can get into a tizzy due to clutter and dirt around the house, but is that really how I want to spend my time?
IMHO, sometimes you just have to relax and live your life. You can't housework your fibro away, after all.
--AC, terminally lazy
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I have them all the time. Iwas trying to get pregnant to before all this started now I am going back on the pill till I get stable and have the rest of my test but anyway we had been trying for a year with no luck. I got pregnant with my first within three months. So I know how frustrating it can be.
I have days where I get up with every intention of geting all housework and errands done then start reading a book and before you know it your rushing to get dinner done on time.
I have lived in my new house scince Nov and still have a basement full of boxes and a gareden over grown with weeds. I figure i got the next 30 years in this house so what's the rush  .
I know messing up your meds can make a differace though. Good Luck and enjoy your lazy day don't stress about it.
God Bless
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I have days like that a lot. I woke up at 8, and I just looked at the clock, and it's 1:30. I somehow just blew 5 1/2 hours, but the only thing I actually DID was dishes. The rest of the time, I've been frittering around online, here and on other sites, and... well, ok, that's really about it.
Whatever the reason, don't be too hard on yourself. I've always believed that lazy days are necessary for our mental health. (Actually, I usually refer to them as 'mental health days'.) The things you "had" to do can easily wait till tomorrow. Hope you enjoyed your book! 
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Hey Linz
#99709 - 08/20/04 10:53 AM
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I have been feeling like that for a few weeks now. I think its because it's almost the end of summer and school is about to start. I keep on telling myself once the kids are back in school I'll have LOTS of time to clean and what not. I hope that's true!!! I've had so many days where all I can think about is the things I need to be doing and how messy or clutered things are!!!  makes ya nuts!!!!
I need to get out of this house!!! Right now I'm just waiting on my stomach....it's not ready to go out and about yet....but the rest of my body is! 
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Hell no hun. I am at work and I have pretty much zilch while I have been here. With the week I have had, I deserve to do nothing today at work. The most exciting thing today were the cops in fron of our building in full battle gear and M-16's in hand. Guess they were prepping for the Republican Convention in less than 2 weeks.
But, hey, its fine to do just nothing sometimes. Its good for the brain and stress level.
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I have several bags of baby clothes I have to go through and I have no desire to start. It's so nice that people want to help out but let's face it, they are just giving me their old clutter. The baby's room isn't the neatest but it isn't horrible but once I start it will be a mess. The job is just something I don't want to do. Too bad the nesting I was experiencing last week has gone. I get very lazy when I'm overwhelmed by a project, like all the messes my kids and dh make. And then of course the normal distractions don't help. Unfortuantly for me, laziness and procrastination is a daily occurance for me. 
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the beast (what I call "depression") is visiting me again.. ..i just wanna crawl in a hole....and my in-laws are coming to visit and will be here soon.....
i'm feeling so down that when i went to the eye doctor today, his assistant said something to me and i almost started crying. she saw the tears in my eyes and left the room. i know she thinks i'm nutty for crying over my stupid contacts!
i am taking my medicine, but haven't had a mood swing in a long time, but i feel it breaking thru.......
i don't want to do anything, talk to anyone, go anywhere .....
i feel like i'm drowning ..............
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Linzy, sweetie, of course you're not hopelessly lazy! Don't "should" all over yourself! However, young lady, I am going to scold you about not taking your SSRI's regularly. They MUST be taken as prescribed or 1) they won't help and 2) you'll have all sorts of weird side effects like low blood pressure and feeling woozy and stuff. PLEASE promise me you'll take them exactly on schedule every single day. They're not something to f%%% around with.
Okay, done scolding! Hope you feel better and here's a {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{BIG HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}. Remember, we are human beings not human doings! You were just being!! Good for you.
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Beaglelover, I'm so sorry to hear the beast has you by the throat again. I haved battled depression all my life, my sister and brother and mom, too. I'm glad you're taking your medicine. Maybe it's time to adjust the dosage upwards a teensy bit. We can't have you feeling like you're drowning, we need you here too much!
Feel better, sweetie.
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I can't take more of it---if it do, it makes my vision blurry. I need a beer. Gosh, it's olyn 4:20 in the afternoon.
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I'll drink to that, BL!!
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Thank you everyone! You make me feel so normal! I always feel I need to explain what I've been up to - silly, huh?
Anyway, after a very naughty coffee yesterday, I got off my butt and tidied up our bedroom which now looks great, so I did SOMETHING!
Today is better- my frog has gone away for now. And yes, LauraSue, I will take my meds. It's very dumb I know and so not worth it. I've now taken it at the right time 4 days running, so I'm getting back into the swing of things. Going away just always throws me out.
BeagleLover, could you change to another drug? Sounds like that is NOT doing enough and of course you don't want to f**k your eyesight (sorry!). Drowning is NOT a good feeling. You go drag yourself out and pester your doctor. It's not good enough. In the meantime, I always find a walk and some chocolate (plain for me!) cheering. [[[[[[[[[[HUGS]]]]]]]]]]!!!
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Growing up in somewhat rural Indiana and being close to my Grandfather one of the key things that he taught me was "I never heard of a man dying from to much sleep". I used to take a day every week and do stuff around the house in the am then lounge in the afternoon. But I just stopped. Now I have spent the last three days just lying around and it feels so good. I watched old star-trek shows, Mtv and oprah. I had a lot of time doing nothing. But work will be calling me Monday. My new no stress job awaits. It's just more physical now. More time to daydream and thank back about my Grandpa and the memories from my childhood.
"A day is not wasted if you enjoyed it" Derek
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must have been something going around yesterday - the only thing I did was bake a peppermint fudge cake (without peppermint since I was out- but yummy) and get laundry thought the machines (barely ran 3 loads) and watch the contractors some... of course today I'm back at work
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...is really refreshing. It seems like our society in general now is all about *doing*, constantly, non-stop, rush rush rush - it's no wonder our bodies are falling apart, eh? Thank you for sharing your Grandpa's words of wisdom; I'm going to try to remember that.
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Growing up in somewhat rural Indiana and being close to my Grandfather one of the key things that he taught me was "I never heard of a man dying from to much sleep". I used to take a day every week and do stuff around the house in the am then lounge in the afternoon. But I just stopped. Now I have spent the last three days just lying around and it feels so good. I watched old star-trek shows, Mtv and oprah. I had a lot of time doing nothing. But work will be calling me Monday. My new no stress job awaits. It's just more physical now. More time to daydream and thank back about my Grandpa and the memories from my childhood.
"A day is not wasted if you enjoyed it" Derek
Derek, what a COOL post!! I love the quote from your grandfather and from your signature!! Welcome aboard, I saw your post on the Diet board last night but was too tired to reply. Good to have you here!
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Good job, Linz!! 4 days on schedule is excellent! I bet you're feeling better already. Congrats on tidying the bedroom! That counts as a major accomplishment in FibroWorld!! Like a gold medal in the FibroOlympics!!
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We all need to have some "do-nothing" days. We always feel guilty if we didn't accomplish some chore for the day but our bodies & minds need time to just "veg" occasionally. So don't feel guilty and just enjoy! 
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It sounds Like you had a great grandfather. It seems now if your not always doing somthing or your house isn't prefectly clean then you are lazy. I used to worry about my house all the time and what people would think if it wasn't perfect but for the last month forget about. If are clothes are clean and the dishes done were good to go. Besides Clutter gives a house a good lived in look right? Right someone tell me I am right Good luck and Welcome
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Clutter gives a house a good lived in look right? Right someone tell me I am right
Works for me!!
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Actually, Mom had, for the longest time, a little cross-stitched picture hanging in our house that said:
"My house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy."
I live that now because I'm really a lousy housekeeper. But it's true. I've been in a couple houses that were so clean and "perfect" that I was afraid to sit on the couch or touch anything! How can anyone really *live* in a sterile-clean house? I think clutter makes it feel like home... and if anyone doesn't agree, they can just not come over to my place! Haha.
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Hey Linzy!
I prescribe gardening for you. Just do it. I guarantee you'll feel much better, out there digging in the worms. Fun stuff.
You're just in a funk right now, but you can break out of it. We've all been there. I think in my case it stems from having too much to do. It's a little overwhelming, and I sit with my Soyfee and wonder how I'll ever get through it all. But then I just say to myself, "Self, unpack only that one box right there and put it all away. Just the ONE box. Then at least you can say you did something." But after the one box, I'm "into it," and one leads to two, which in turn leads to twenty. Pretty soon, I have an entire room organized. Tomorrow, I'll worry about the next room -- not today.
Let the house go for now. Get out in that garden and dig. Just sit in the dirt and get your toes all muddy. You'll feel SOOOOO much better, I guarantee it!
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Wow, so I'm allowed to be lazy - fantastic. My mum keeps saying I should get into a routine and do lots of jobs while I am signed off work, but some days I find myself just zonking on the couch doing the occasional bit of sewing. Also, the olympics is on which is a great excuse to watch telly. I know its probably a good thing as I have been so hyper for the last month, but I still feel guilty and seem to have this little voice inside me saying I'm not doing enough and I'm not good enough etc. Very annoying when all you are doing is dusting and you have this nagging voice in your head saying you have not done it properly - personally I tend to ignore it as I know I'm being daft, but I need to learn the art of relaxation I think!!!!
On a high note - I slept for 5 hours solid last night (unheard for me at the moment). Go it felt good - if I could just get rid of the restless legs. Does anyone else get these - whole body is relaxed apart from legs which keep tingling. Not sure how to get rid of them without going for a run, but the rest of me is too knackered to do that. Any suggestions much appreciated!
Right, on the theme of these posts I'm now going to spend the evening doing nothing more energetic than a nice hot bath!!
Catherine
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Cath, yes, you are allowed to and even required to be lazy!! And that voice inside, it's living rent free in your head and you need to EVICT it!!
Restless leg syndrome is something I get too, and Kandee just posted about it on the Vegas board. The easiest home remedy to try first is eating potassium rich foods before bed or taking potassium supplements. Foods include potatoes, peanuts, peanut butter, and orange juice. I take two potassium capsules and it helps tremendously. There are also prescription meds but so far I haven't needed them. And I've definitely noticed the difference when I forgot to take it. So it works for me.
Sweet dreams, see ya tomorrow!
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Thanks for the suggestions - unfortunately all of those foods apart from peanut butter make me ill, so I'll investigate the tablets. I actually slept OK last night so HURRAH!
Yes I'm trying to get rid of that voice! Today should be quite lazy as we are just going to a big craft fair at Knebworth (a stately house type thingy) which has loads of traditional and rare crafts on display. Falconry and archery also sound like fun!
See you all later .... have a nice weekend.
C
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When I was in the service they called them Mental Holidays. Yesterday I went to a party knowing my colon was still not working correctly. I avoided drinking. Not even soda. I had juice. Than last night the churning started and the new hemmoroids started and I layed in bed hurting. I woke this morning and ran for a soak in the hot tub. Now I fear a BM coming on. It is sad to be afraid to go to the bathroom. I have bulked up the last couple days. Bottem feels better now , but I am skipping church and will most likely lay around all day again. There are a couple piles of paper to sort and dinner to make. I really do not care. My wife I think is becoming less patient with my new extra laziness. She is a working dog and loves her job. But I know she loves me anyway. 18 years worth.
torbetta, StephS and atomic maybe we could start a club? The only requirment to join is NOTHING! No duties or fees, no meetings to attend!
Hopefully me colon will get back into shape and I will be able to return to normelness. It is so nice to find all of you and read your stories. I do feel somewhat better knowing there are so many people who know what I mean when I say "Uh no colon issues".
Everyone have a nice day! Derek
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Derek, is that picture of you as a kid??!! Adorable! Congrats on 18 years of marriage -- gotcha beat tho, we're coming up on 24!! And yeah, spouses don't always get it all the time. It's just great when they get it some of the time!!
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Cath, the craft fair sounds like fun! Have a good time.
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I am now forty and I guess I was 6 or 7 when that picture was taken. My day was good lounge around a lot. The Doc got me a new prescription for the Hemmoroids. They are not as swollen today. Now I am feeling like cooking a nice dinner. Ahhhhhhh.
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You sure were a cutie, Derek! If you're half as cute now as you were then, your wife's a lucky woman!!
Glad to hear you're feeling better. Now just make sure that nice dinner is IBS safe, okay??!!
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Hey Bev! I did that yesterday! And I felt so satisfied that I'd got something done. My front garden now looks heaps better (it was a jungle). Today I want to tackle a shrub that's threatening to take over the world...okay, my driveway!
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Grrr didn't go. I got the shakes, really depressed and turned into an energyless zombie. I hate feeling this ill! It seems as soon as the anxiety simmers down the depression hits with a bang. Not really sure what to do with myself today as everything aches, my bodys fizzing and I'm exhausted. Yuck, yuck, yuck. And there's a pile of washing up to do - again!!!!!
Grrr ... a very grumpy Catherine
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Have something to eat, have a bath and take an hour just for chilling out.
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Grrr didn't go. I got the shakes, really depressed and turned into an energyless zombie. I hate feeling this ill! It seems as soon as the anxiety simmers down the depression hits with a bang. Not really sure what to do with myself today as everything aches, my bodys fizzing and I'm exhausted. Yuck, yuck, yuck. And there's a pile of washing up to do - again!!!!!
Grrr ... a very grumpy Catherine
Sweetie pie, sweetie pie, sweetie pie!! You're physically ill! Depression is not just a "mental" illness, it's a bona fide physical illness too that affects every system in the body! I describe it as having the brain flu, except that it lasts so much longer. Now if you had pneumonia and felt weak and shaky, would you get mad at yourself and think you were lazy?? I certainly hope not. So why is this any different?! You're allowed to have bad days. OKAY????
Remember, it's a long slow convalescence with three steps forward, one step back. You just too a step back is all, because your body NEEDED TO. Now quit beating up on yourself or I shall have to come over there and get very strict with you!!
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#100775 - 08/24/04 01:34 AM
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CathUK
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LauraSue you always put a smile on my face and get me laughing at myself again! Thank you.
It would be easier to have a broken leg - at least I and other people could see it. Being a hugely optimistic person I'm not really used to this depression and don't know the best way to deal with it - do you keep fighting it, do you rest, do you do lots of activities?
Hmm anyway, looks like I'm going to be very busy training that fish catching dog ... although I think the cats would be quite keen to do that too, especally with the fish in the pond I'm inheriting!!!!
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#100779 - 08/24/04 04:31 AM
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Linz
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Fish catching dog? What've I missed? Sounds funny, anyway.
Take it easy Cath, LauraSue is right, recovering from depression is a SLOW process. I forget...are you on meds for it? Sorry! Very fibroed out today - I'm lucky I can remember my password on automatic pilot!
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#100803 - 08/24/04 06:45 AM
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CathUK
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Sorry - it's a bizarre reference to a post I made on another thread (what's your favourite luxury). Yes I am on meds, and they are sort of working, but mainly leave me tired and shakey. Hope your fibro gets better soon.
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LauraSue you always put a smile on my face and get me laughing at myself again! Thank you.
It would be easier to have a broken leg - at least I and other people could see it. Being a hugely optimistic person I'm not really used to this depression and don't know the best way to deal with it - do you keep fighting it, do you rest, do you do lots of activities?
Hmm anyway, looks like I'm going to be very busy training that fish catching dog ... although I think the cats would be quite keen to do that too, especally with the fish in the pond I'm inheriting!!!!
Well, Cath, I could write books on how I dealt with it, but here's one example that just came to mind. I used to manage my time in one hour chunks, an hour of mindlessness and immobility (for me usually reading a novel) then an hour to do one odious chore, even if it only took 15 minutes to do!! That way I wasn't completely fighting it or completely giving in to it.
Also there's a type of therapy called cognitive therapy that you can do on your own at home with workbooks and things. You identify the negative thoughts that are adding to your depression and counter them with rational responses. I found it quite helpful, again when I was too depressed to do anything else, I'd force myselt to spend 15 minutes on my cognitive therapy exercises. Do a web search or check Amazon.com. There's tons of info.
And yes, I think the cats would be quite keen to catch fish. Maybe they could teach the dog??!!
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#100943 - 08/24/04 10:57 AM
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Linz
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What time of day do you take your meds? Maybe you should change that or change meds altogether. Sounds like you could do with a higher dose.
PS. Have you lived in Cambridge long? I've got friends and cousins there and my parents-in-law live down the M1 in Bishops Stortord.
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Thanks. I pretty much found that out today. I did a job, then relaxed and did something I enjoyed for a bit without just zonking out completly, then did another little job. Normally I seem to put pressure on myself to do everything perfectly NOW, which really doesn't help! I also seem to get low at the same times each day, so if do some exercise just before it hits I can stave it off slightly. It's an odd thing this depression isn't it, I can't even think about going to work at the moment - like you said you have to deal with the next moment and hour only. I wish I was the kind of person that could sleep all day and feel fine, but the less I do the crappier I feel, however tired I am. I guess I've just got to find a happy medium. Oh and I can eat dairy free chocolate and soya ice cream now, so that really helps. I'm probably going to end up twice the size I am now - but for the short term it's fantastic!!
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CathUK
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I take them in the evening about eightish, as I found if I take them in the morning they zonk me out too much and then I can't sleep at night. I've only been taking these around 12 days, as I've tried two other kinds! These are supposed to be slightly stronger than the last ones (I've gone from Prozac to Paxil) but I'm not sure if they have kicked in properly yet.
I've lived in Cambridge for about three years and love it here (apart from the stupid fens - I miss the hills from the North West where I grew up). I'm moving to Ely soon, so I hope to explore the Norfolk broads, hopefully with the new dog if we ever get this house!
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Ugh, I had one of these on Sunday, in the company of my DH. He's a restless sort and I was tired from being pg and didn't want to move. But not doing anything made me more tired. But there was no way you could get me out of the house.
When DH started poking me I sent him away to the driving range (golf). He was getting on my nerves.........
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Jules, that new hubby can't be getting on your nerves already, can he? You've only been married several months, right? Wait til you've been together 24 years!!!!!!! Then he really starts bugging you! HA!
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Hey beagle! Yep, he was getting on my nerves! I think it was the combo of my raging prego hormones and the fact that he was literally poking me with his finger while I was watching tv. All in good fun, but I knew that he needed to get out the house. So I sent him away!! 
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