If you could.......
#89981 - 07/14/04 01:16 PM
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StephS
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What would you change about your personality? Or the way you think?
I would love to change the way I feel about my body. I would love to not be jelous of other peoples bodies. Its really shallow...I know! I wish I could let it go!!! I started feeling this way once I had kids and my body started to change!!!
I know if I just worked out I could get back part of what I had....but I will never have the same body.....I know......everyones body changes with time!!! But I'm too young!!!  OK...annyways this is what I would change about myself!!!! I would love to not care!!!!
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I worry about everything. I worry about things that have happened in the past coming back to bite me on the butt. I worry about things happening in the future that will probably never happen. I even worry when things are going *fantastic*, because I figure that my luck is such that GOOD never lasts - so what's going to go wrong next??
I've been like this since I was 7 or so - yes, that young - and I've made so many attempts at chilling out, but I guess this is me. I can't even imagine a day where I don't worry. I don't think I'd know what to do with myself!!
That's what I'd change.
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#90002 - 07/14/04 01:52 PM
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Bevvy
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If I could change anything about my personality?
Easy. I'd not care what people thought of me. I'd stop worrying whether they liked me or not and start focusing more on being my true self -- because I never used to like me, and now, the older I get, the more I like me, and if I were someone else I think I'd like me a lot.
Bev
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That's one of mine too Casey. But mine is about my kids! I still have to go in every night and make sure they are breathing.....they are 6 and 3! Not even babies anymore...I worry about every little ache and pain they get....thinking do they have cancer or something horrible??? It makes me nuts. I pray every night that my kids live to be very old and die of natural causes.....such as ...... VERY old age!!!!
I hate to worry. I think my other thing I worry about is if something were to happen to any of my other family members! I don't know what I would do with out my mom. She is my bestfriend. I cant stand thinking about if a family member were to die. I just want everyone to grow really, really old!!!!! I think thats my biggest fear, loosing someone I love!!!
OK.....sorry! I really went off!!!!
Its hard to turn worry off too. That sucks that you have been like that your whole life. I feel like I worried a lot when I was little. I hated going to school. That all started when my mom had to go back to work. Thats also when my IBS started!
OH...no fun!!!!
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not be so self concious about wearing shorts or a bathing suit. I've always hated my legs.....thick ankles and big calves....and I only weigh 127!
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Good for you Bev! Yep your a very easy person to like!!! Its really nice when you can say....I don't care what people think!!!! Wouldn't that be nice!!!!!
Bev, your GREAT!!
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I think I would like to not worry about everything. I worry about things that I have no control over, so although I shouldn't stress, we all know its easier said than done!
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I'm with ya on that on Nugget! I wish I didn't care how I looked in a swimsuit. But that takes me back to what I would change about myself!!!
Wow 127! Thats great! I bet you look great in shorts!!! Or even a swimsuit!!!! 
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I would like to become more carefree and spontaneous. I used to be pretty spontaneous pre-IBS, but even though I'm doing sooo much better I still don't feel "normal" a lot of the time, especially at night... so I end up staying home a lot of the time and missing out on some fun opportunities. I'd love to get back that ability to just get up and do things without worrying about how I'm going to feel.
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I worry about everything. I don't want to be like that but I can't turn my mind off. Wish there was an on-off button. Too bad I can't be more like my hubby.....he sleeps so good and I am tossing and turning worrying about something....anything...that I don't even have any control over.
Footloose and fancy free.....wish that could be me.
Guess things could be a lot worse, though, so I am thankful for the other good things in my life.
Barbie
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I would change the way I speak. I don't speak like a normal person. I don't use enough filler words (like, umms), I don't know how to phrase things tentatively enough. I use odd word choices. All of this leads people to make assumptions about me (I'm super confident, I think my opinion is the only one that matters, etc.) that aren't true. If I knew how to speak like everyone else that wouldn't be a problem. 
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....I probably would look OK in a swimsuit or shorts if I'd work out and firm up a few places. I'm just lazy about that sort of thing. I've always been self concious of my legs especially.
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...but it is getting better with this Effexor for anxiety. I can tell a difference in how much I worry....or how little now.
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What would I change about myself?...
There a few things...
I would stop worrying about what other people think of me.
I would stop worrying about how I look to everyone else. (I hate my legs!)
I would stop procrastinating and just do the things I need to do!
What wouldn't I change though?...
I like making sure other people are happy before me.
I like that I'm a sensitive person, more to the point, I'm very empathetic.
I like that I'm short and I have blonde hair.
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~ Rachel (IBS-C)
If life hands you lemons, make lemonade!!
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I think worrying about family members is justified - especially your children. I know that when the day comes and I'm finally a parent, I'm going to worry INCESSANTLY. My mother still worries about me, and I'm almost 30! Heh. I don't think that's ever going to stop... but it's a normal kind of worry.
I never worried about my parents till a couple years ago. Then my father had to have surgery, and my mother ended up in the hospital with chest pains. Ever since then, I've looked at them differently... I know death is one of those inevitable things, but I still worry. My father's talking about moving up here, closer to me, and I seriously couldn't be more thrilled. I keep thinking, "fantastic! if anything happens, he's close to me!" Like I'm going to be able to do a whole lot of anything!! LOL
I worry about my boyfriend a lot. He's has high BP, and I worry about him having a stroke or a heart attack or something. I worry about him getting in an accident on the way home from work (never mind that work is literally 2 miles away from where we live!). Worry worry worry...
See what I mean? LOL!
My stomach/IBS problems started when I was very young, too - mostly with nausea, but still. I guess WHY is no big mystery, heh.
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I have come a long way and do keep a pretty positive attitude but some days I have to work at it!! A person could always stand to be more positive though!
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#90074 - 07/14/04 04:00 PM
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jenX
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there aren't many people in the world i like MORE than you and i like a lot of people. you are wonderful and you should know it!
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Ya know....everyone with IBS has different triggers, different symptoms, different anxieties, etc.
But the one underlying thing that is the same is that we are all worriers. Seems like everyone here worries about things they cannot control, like what other people think. I'm working on that right now with my therapist. He made me describe myself - and I said everything bad about my appearance. Finally he said, 'Can you say one good thing about the way you look'. I was crying really hard and SO scared to say that I think I have a pretty face. It was SO hard to say. Embarrassing to me that I should even think that. He made me realize that I am very negative about myself. We need to remember that EVERYONE has things they want to change about their appearance. No one is perfect, and no one ever will be. We need to be proud of the qualities we do like!
That's a post we should start...what do you LOVE about yourself?? And don't say that you love that you make other people happy!!! It should be something totally conceited, and you shouldn't feel bad...
It's really hard for me to do. But if I had to pick things I love about myself, I'd say I love my eyes and my legs. I've always gotten compliments on my eyes, and I have really long legs.
Why is that so embarrassing to admit? It's something I have to work on.
So how about - what would you change, but what do you love about yourself??
~Cara
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Ok, I'll bite with this one.................I hate that I am too skinny. I can not gain weight no matter how hard I try. I'm 5 foot & only 93lbs. I hate how people never feel bad for me either that I'm thin. And I also hate how people think they have the right to ask me how much I weigh. I would never ask a heavy person that question. I guess unless you are thin you can't understand....
I do, however, like (sorry.......)that I have big boobs for my size. I am a 34C and I guess cause I'm thin, that feature tends to stick out  .
If I could change things on my body it would be my legs. Always wanted cheerleader legs. And also my stomach! I want a new internal one. Get rid of my IBS.
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I think I would give myself the ability to "let go." I'm not referring to grudges but to a general inability to just enjoy life as it happens without making judgments, worrying, and overthinking things.
I'd love to be that laid-back, accepting person just for a day!
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#90104 - 07/14/04 05:22 PM
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Bevvy
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Will you marry me?
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... and if nobody's beat me to it by the time I get back, I'm going to steal your idea and run with it!
We (and I mean that as people as a whole, and not the people on this board) spend so much time critiquing ourselves and focusing on the "negative"... isn't it funny how weird it feels to admit that we like ourselves?
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i would be more disciplined and i would also open up more easily to men i am involved with (i tend to be quite closed-off). i would also be better at small-talk (which i'm god-awful at!).
as paradoxical as it seems, i'm putting a lot of work into not over-thinking things and making fusses about things that haven't happened yet.
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Hey Sis,
That would make WIW my brother-in-law wouldn't it.... I don't know about that!!!! ha ha Besides, I don't think she would accept....did you forget about CB?????
Barbie
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Ah, I see. I got to this one second after the 'what I like about myself' one. It all makes sense now.
There are a couple of things I would change about my personality if I could. Probably the first would be to be better organized - I'm not horrible but I could be much better that I am. Second to that would be to lose my tendency to procrastinate. It's really one of those things that kill me in retrospect. To wind it up I wish I was a little more empathic than I am - my sister is a master of 'feeling people's pain' and I wish I had inherited more of that gift.
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I'm generally very optimistic, that's something i love about myself. I'm a worry wart about everything though so that is something I would change. I'm very good at taking care of everyones needs before mine.( thats good and bad) I take everything to heart, too, too much. My husband says I am too thin-skinned.... I think I'm pretty and I have pretty legs. Wish I had a flat stomach though. I need to work on becoming more selfish... No wonder I have IBS!! 
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Hmmm....
#90187 - 07/14/04 09:20 PM
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Vicam
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I would definately like to not be such a worrier. I worry about myself and my health...but also about everyone else and those close to me. Constantly. I've been a worrier my whole life, and it would be really nice to just have a more laid back type attitude...it would probably help my tummy too
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If I could change anything about myself, besides the obvious internal stuff, I would want to be more outspoken and more of an extravert.
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Well......
#90246 - 07/15/04 06:17 AM
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barbie
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Good Morning, Jen
If you married Bev, my Sis, wouldn't that make you my brother-in-law or would you be my sister-in-law???? I'm so confused  Anyway, glad she has Don so we don't have to worry about it.
Are you feeling better today? Is this your last day at work?
Barbie
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though all that matters is what i am and that would make me your sister-in-law. no worries, i'll rip her away from Don one of these days!
i'm on my very last Verizon-paid vacation day today. tomorrow is my last day of work for that stinky company. Monday is my first day at the new job. (i can't wait!)
i'm feeling better so far. i'm really really tired this week, but i'm staying at a friend's house and watching her cats so i think i'm just not sleeping great away from my own bed. (which isn't even that great of a bed, now that i think about it!)
how are YOU!?
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I think i have a good personality for the most part.I wish i could be more outgoing and less self conscious about my looks.Wish i was more patient with my kids,and i wish i was one of those people who are happy and upbeat all the time even when things go wrong.
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I would be more patient and not get frustrated so easily by people...
not be so high strung and easily stressed...
not let what other people say bother me...
be able to forget things (yes, it is a bad quality!) and get over stuff...
Not be so argumentative (I will argue jsut for the sake of it sometimes. or to see if I can win)...
But, in the end the imperfections is what makes us the great people we are, right? nothing is worse than a person that's perfect!
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Sheri:
#90346 - 07/15/04 09:25 AM
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Wow, pretty much all of the qualities you listed are exactly the same for me. I could also add being a bit inflexible and stubborn to the list, as things I'd like to change about myself!
But, meh, like you said, its no fun being "perfect" now is it?
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Stubborn and inflexible, I forgot to list hose! Especially lately, if things don't go as planned I get really angry, and my BF always tells me that I am so stubborn.
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I would change my confidence when it comes to women. I find it very difficult to say the things I want to say to someone I care about. For example, there is this girl I am dating now, I am crazy about her but I can never tell her that in person for fear of rejection. Thats what I would change about me.
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hehehe, well we are LIBRAS aren't we???? (such a handy excuse)
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Hey Jen,
Glad you are feeling better and thanks for clearing up my confusion about the SIL or BIL...what confusion!! he he
Thanks for asking about me. I started a new part time job Monday (after a year of not working) and I have been a little stressed so I have been a little nauseous...part of my tummy's response to stress. Haven't been sleeping well, either. I will be fine, though, after I get used to everything.
I know you will be glad to get away from that "stinky company".. Good luck on your new job.
Barbie
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I don't think you should worry so much! I have told you this before..but I think you are a doll! And you seem smart and to have a great sense of humor when I read your posts. Just step out on faith and give it a go!! You may be suprised at her response! Good luck!
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You're an awesome woman.....you've always been super understanding and encouraging to me....I like you lots and lots!!
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Thanks Doe, I appreciate that.
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TELL HER! Girls LOVE that kind of stuff. You have to! You don't want to regret not saying it - right? I know it takes a lot of guts, but you just have to do it. I bet she gets butterflies.
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Okay, okay! Jeez, get off my case... JK I am pretty sure I am seeing her tonight so maybe I will muster up the courage.
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you seem like quite the catch, Tommy. i'm sure there's no reason to be worried!
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how do you like the new job!?!
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Aww shucks, ladies, you're making me blush. Thanks for the kind words.
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Hey Jen,
Well, not much to tell. I am just filling in for someone now. It's receptionist/secretarial work. Even so, it's not really hard but just learning new things at a new office is a little stressful. They will let me know next week how often they will need me to come in and help out. I don't really want to work more than 2 days a week. At my age I am through with the 5 day a week rat race. I've paid my dues and I'm ready to take some time for myself.
Hope you will be happy with your new job and we will expect a full report!
Barbie
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"Fear is the opposite of faith." 
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Ahh Jen, I knew putting that as my quote would come back to me one day. This is it! My girl (or potential girl) is going on a cruise for 9 days with her parents tomorrow. I made her a bit of a "care package." It has magazines, chocolate (she's a huge chocoholic), a couple of CD's I burned for her and a ladybug stuffed toy (she loves ladybugs). I know, its a dorky token of my affection. We'll see how it goes. I am a bit nervous but I will have faith!!
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Yes Tommy, that really sounds cute.....I'm sure she will love it....like Jen said.....I love it to!!! I wish it were for me!!!
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~ Rachel (IBS-C)
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