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#89245 - 07/12/04 10:36 PM
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JBI
Reged: 01/25/04
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Loc: BC, Canada
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I normally come to this board for some light hearted chatting and the occasional flirting with the awesome ladies on here  I had originally planned to stay out of this thread, I have some things that I don't want lots of people to know, but I can say this, I'm quite sure I'd feel comfortable telling most of the people on this forum. You really are a bunch of amazing people.
As the lettuce in my sub has made an unwanted return appearance and I'm still awake way past my bedtime, I figured I should comment on some of the amazing things.
LauraSue, what can I say. That's a brave thing to admit to yourself and to your husband. I hope that you are able to find a spot in your life where you are truely happy with your identity and the path you choose. But, I have to say I'm disappointed... I guess I won't be sending you all my uniform photos (kidding  ) A few years after we broke up, my highschool sweet heart came out the closet. My reaction was "Ah, things make more sense now". I think she's a lot happier with things now.
Bev! that takes lots of guts, but it also shows how cool the people on this board and that we support you and we all totally respect who you are and still love ya! I too caught your earlier post but figured you'd elaborate if you wanted to so didn't press. I'm with the other folks here and kinda thought, wow, that's interesting. I saw a documentary on that condition and it's actually pretty intruiging, although I'm sure you didn't find it so.
As Chinagrl pointed out, it brings up so many different questions about the roles of gender in society. What makes us a certain way, what's genetic and what is influenced by society. That's something that I think would be a good discussion on the boards at another time.
Jen, that must have been a very tough thing to do. I commend you for wanting what was best for the baby and I wish you all the best if and when you decide that it's the right time for you to start a family.
Christine: It's a good song at least! Crushes where you know nothing will happen can be fun and it sounds as if you were smart about it.
Sheri, Michelle and Casey. It sounds like you have all worked through some incredible stuff. To be able to turn into such amazingly strong and not to mention good looking ( ya I know that has nothing to do with it but I thought I'd throw in a compliment ) women is something that you can be proud of forever.
You people really are incredible. I can honestly say that I am a better person for having known all of you and am glad to have you as my friends.
Jamie
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Bev!
#89246 - 07/12/04 10:56 PM
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peaches
Reged: 09/28/03
Posts: 1183
Loc: Fort Wayne, Indiana
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I've been meaning to post this up at some point but haven't had the time to sit down and type!
Bev, believe it or not my great-aunt has the exact same thing! She wasn't diagnosed until she was in her mid-to-late 40's since it really wasn't common, as you said, and I'm still not sure what treatments she's been through. I haven't seen her in a couple years, but we'd always known her symptoms. So when she was diagnosed, she announced it to us all at the family reunion we had about 2 months after her last hospital visit. She told us that they were discussing surgery and finding out everything they could. My uncle admitted that he had been a little taken aback by the news, although he said it was good to have a reason beacking up her odd symptoms. SO, back to it, I have (somewhat) personal experience, and I can tell by the way my aunt acted that day that it really does affect your life. But her personality is SO MUCH like yours! You guys are both so outgoing, very witty, and most of the time you just adore the people you're with and love to have a good laugh.
I thought I'd share this with you just to let you know how much I admire you and support you! I know that it also must not have been too easy to put it out here, but you must have been ready to since you fired up this thread  So just know that I'm behind you 100% on this, even though I'm a tad sketchy on all the details.  But I have researched it before in the past so I know most of what it deals with.
I admire your courage, honesty, and your outlook on life. These board definitley would not be the same without you!
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Needless to say, I can't go through that again, too many tears, too much pain.
To be fair, here is a little run down,
Had a breakdown, h found me curled up in the bottom of a cold shower...no idea how long I had been there. That night was the beginning of a difficult struggle to be sane. Through about 6-8 years of therapy and scratching,crawling, and climbing my way back. I found that I had lost so much of my self, I will never get back. Singing and painting are gone, I miss it, I can't carry a tune in a bucket, and I can't hold a paintbrush to save my life. But, I discovered a love for silly poetry, had no idea about rhyme in the past, where it came from I don't know, but I do love it.
Darn it, I wish I hadn't lost that post...I do want to say, I have never considered myself a strong woman, my MOM and Grandmother, yes, never me. I feel strong for others, not myself. I love the person I am now, miss the one I lost. I cannot describe the pain, the year I walked through and never shed a tear, the same year my hands shook uncontrolably to the point of not being able to write my name. OK, I wrote it, but it looked like scratch.  The meds I took played a huge part in this.
No one is perfect, we all have our sacrifices and secrets.
I think so much of everyone who had the strength to step forward. For those who couldn't, or just didn't have anything to say, I think so much of you too. If we were all the same, the world would have no reason to spin.
For me, my Faith in God carried me through. I am proud to know all of you and call you my friends.
Please forgive my spelling. I also had huge brain fart!!
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Unfortunately I cannot join in telling my deepest secret. Just can't seem to do that yet. I am at a point in my life where I understand why things happen and have let go a little bit and have learned to be kinder to myself.
I just want to tell you all how much I admire you and what wonderful people I think you are. The secrets don't matter, everything that happens to us in the past help make us the people we are today. I think there are great people on this board with kind caring hearts and knowing your secrets does not change the way I think or feel about any of you. We have all found each other because of a connection we shared with IBS. How lucky we are to be in a position to support each other and receive support on this site.
We all share a common bond of strength and courage even those who do not have secrets. Living day to day with IBS is not always an easy thing to do but we all manage and do a great job of it.
I am honored to know you all and proud to call you my friends.
Janey
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OH my goodness.... I was just able to read SOME of these last night....it was past bedtime....
I can't think of any deep darkest secrets....but I may still think of one to share?
I'll read ALL posts in this thread later when I have LOTS of time and then reply.
You are all wonderful and BRAVE people.... no wonder I love hanging out here!
{{hugs}}
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You put in writing what I was thinking but couldn't come up with the words to say. Very well said.....
I, too, cannot tell my deepest darkest secret. I feel that some things are better left unsaid or untold. I do admire those who have shared their past, though....as I know how difficult it must be to expose ourselves that way. Just goes to prove how much we trust each other here and how supporting this group of wonderful people are. I treasure that.
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Jessica
#89303 - 07/13/04 08:25 AM
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Bevvy
Reged: 11/04/03
Posts: 5918
Loc: Northwest Washington State
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You are a sweetheart, you know that? You are!
How old is your aunt? Please give her my regards. I'd love to chat with her sometime. It's SOOOOO rare to find someone with this same condition -- well, this is the first time for me; I've NEVER found anyone before! Please tell me more about her. Did she and your uncle adopt any children? I can guarantee you that was really hard for her to tell you guys at the reunion. Was everyone shocked? How did they handle it? (I SOOOO hope they were supportive!) I assume she had the surgery, right? If not, those internal organs can -- and do -- become cancerous!
Thanks for your very kind words. I never thought of myself as a strong person, but I've always felt alone -- since I really HAVE been alone with this, burying my secret and shame. At times I confess to having fights with God about this -- I mean, what did I do to piss Him off so? -- but then I see others so much less fortune that I, and I realize God has just given me the answer.
Bev
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Re: Bevrs
#89345 - 07/13/04 09:44 AM
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michele
Reged: 06/02/03
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Loc: southeastern michigan
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It doesn't matter to me one bit! I still think you are a great person and have a lot of great advice to share with us all! I'm glad you were brave enough to be the person you knew you were!
Hugs to you!
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Re: Bevrs
#89359 - 07/13/04 10:04 AM
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BarbaraS
Reged: 02/12/03
Posts: 1939
Loc: Wisconsin
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Wow Bev I am so amazed you came out talk about your disease. I hope people become more aware of it and society doesn't shame wonderful people like you. My next paper will have to be on this topic.
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Re: LS
#89368 - 07/13/04 10:13 AM
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michele
Reged: 06/02/03
Posts: 6886
Loc: southeastern michigan
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I'm glad you finally realize there is no shame in being gay. I have had some lesbian experiences and enjoyed them but I am straight. I wish your husband would be more understanding. Are you planning on staying married to him? Whatever you decide, you will always have friends here! Hold your head up high and enjoy life.
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