the following are not actual crimes: being single, wanting nice things (little bit of a rant!)
#86829 - 07/06/04 11:33 AM
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jenX
Reged: 08/11/03
Posts: 3252
Loc: Richmond, VA
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i'm going to vent.
i really get fed up with hearing crap about being single. here's the kind of comment we single people get, shown in an actual conversation excerpt:
woman i work with: so, what did you do at the job before you worked here?
me: i managed veterinary hospitals.
wiww: oh. why did you leave that job?
me: the money. this job pays a lot better.
wiww: (laughs) so? it's just you.
ARGH! just because i am single doesn't mean that i don't deserve a good paying job and to live whatever life i feel like living! i like to have nice things, there's no sin in that. and besides, that job paid so poorly i was living in a one room apartment above a woman who was being tried for shooting her boyfriend in my foyer. this is not "ritzy living." my clothes were from discount stores and i was getting $11 haircuts. i am allowed to have more than that if i want and if i can find a job that pays more! i like nice clothes, i like my nice newish car, i like expensive makeup, i like wearing perfume that comes from the department store, i like getting my hair done, i like having a nice manicure and pedicure AND THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT even if it's NOT "just me." and what's WITH that "it's just you"!?!?! so what? so what, it's just me. do married people deserve more money than single ones? do parents deserve more money than childless people? actually, no to both. i work for my money. i deserve every cent of it and i can spend it on tattoos or shoes or even freakin' alcohol if i want to!
SO THERE.
daggone it, this is why i'm so glad to be leaving this narrow-minded stupid little office! (4 days to go. i can do this!)
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These are the people you just want to introduce to the business end of a 2x4. 
I have nothing constructive to add to that, except that my standard answer for narrow-minded pettiness is that they're jealous of you, because you CAN get a better-paying job and treat yourself like the goddess you are.
4 more days! I think you should celebrate by treating yourself to something nice for each of the next 3, and flaunting it the next time you go in. Hah.
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Hey JenX:
Sounds to me like they're jealous!!!! I mean it. They're obviously too "narrow minded" to leave, and probably wish they were as lucky as you! Sorry, don't mean to rant, but I can't stand it when people don't care how their actions and words affect others. Keep your chin up!!! 4 more days!
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~ Rachel (IBS-C)
If life hands you lemons, make lemonade!!
Edited by BeckyT (07/06/04 11:47 AM)
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... you are not entirely correct. Those in fact are crimes. You see, if a woman reaches 'a certain age' (like the ripe old age of, say, 20) and hasn't found herself a mate for life, she is what we call a SWP (that's Spinster Without Prospects). Now, we normally put someone like her on directed surveillance so that if she does anything that SWPs are not allowed to do, we can nap her and put her away. For example, if a woman has not made the appropriate life decisions (say, going to college.. getting a full-time job where there is any chance for promotion) she is not legally allowed certain luxuries. Nice things (as you mentioned) is one of them. If a woman does not have a husband to provide for her said nice things, then she is not entitled to them. She should not socialize with women who do have these things, as that might make SWPs 'yearn' for these things, and will then do terrible things like take better paying jobs in order to acquire them.
I would also like to just place a personal complaint against you for suggesting that the above is neither true, nor acceptable. It is spreading these kind of ideas that can find a woman like you behind bars faster than you can say, "Women's Lib".
Now go cook something.
--Steph
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~~I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell-I know right now you can't tell~~Matchbox 20
IBS-D,pain.
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Steph you are probably the funniest woman i know. ever consider a stand-up career!?
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Oh, sure
#86841 - 07/06/04 11:58 AM
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Stephie
Reged: 03/10/04
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Loc: Vancouver, Canada
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Stand up would be great for me except for my highly irrational fear of being in a crowd, in front of a crowd or having to speak more than 2 words to a group of people.. and since I am an IBS-D, I am thinking that if I am anxiety attack came on... well, nobody would be laughing... Except for that one guy at the back who is still stuck at the age of 12, telling potty jokes..
No, stand-up is not for me. You get all my good stuff! 
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~~I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell-I know right now you can't tell~~Matchbox 20
IBS-D,pain.
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This kind of thing doesn't happen with men.
Totally not following the conversation excerpt, but I get the gist (I think). Very surprised, though, that you have a Wacky WIW in your office?
Jen, honey, could it be that you're a little overly sensitive right now? I mean, you're leaving there and anxious to get out, and anything that happens will be blown up in your mind more than intended, kind of a natural reaction to wanting to make that permanent separation?
I do know how you feel about stupid people's comments to single females. I used to be single, yeah I was. And back in those days, it was a VERY sexist society. I always got, "Why should we hire you; after all, you're single and you'll get married on us and leave." (Explanation: back then, married women were not supposed to work; they were meant to stay at home and serve their husbands -- believe it or not.)
Then, when I DID get married, it was, "Why should we hire you? You'll just get pregnant and leave."
Wait -- it gets better!
When you turn 50, you don't even get in the door!
Next life, I'm comin' back as a male.
bbB
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spend your money however you want. You have worked hard and you have a right to do whatever you want and pamper yourself however you want. Don't listen to those jealous people. They don't know anything. Now, you just go ahead and have a good time .....because I said so.
Barbie
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She really meant that??!! Unfreaking believable!! But here's where that really useful mental tool called "detachment" comes in handy. As in, "what this b*** says is totally of no importance to me." "Excuse me did someone say something or was that just a cat meowing?" "What other people think of me is none of my business." "Don't take it personally EVEN when it has your name on it!"
A useful skill, as you never know where you're going to run into narrow minded, petty, jealous people. Those are human traits and are found pretty much every where. In fact I guarantee there's a least one person like that at your new job. It's just a matter of time before you run across them.
So be prepared and take this excellent opportunity to practice using the detachment tool. If not, there's always axe murder to fall back on!!
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Laura
Keep it simple!
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Casey, that's so funny. Before we got married, my husband actually told me there would be times I'd need to use the 2x4 approach on him. He gave me permission!!
I usually hit him over the head with a pillow instead, but I tell him he's lucky I didn't have a 2x4 handy!!
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Laura
Keep it simple!
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