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This is why i hate small town sports!!!!
      #82014 - 06/22/04 01:58 PM
countrygirl

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Loc: Wisconsin, USA

My 12 year old son wanted to play Summer Recreation Baseball this year.I am not a big fan of baseball,but i figured its something to get him busy during the summer.Well,when you live in a small town,unfortunately,certian kids are "favorites"with the coaches.Not only that but some of these parents are drill sgt.'s and they are just cut-throat about these games,to the point they will make critizing comments about other peoples children not holding the bat the right way or not standing in the right stance,etc.It is for those exact reasons that i really didnt want him to join this year.I let him play T-ball for 2 summers and it was bad even back then(5-9 yr old's),i hated attending games and listening to these parents belittle the kids that werent any good. I can't count how many times i had to bite my tongue and not "GO OFF" on some of these people!! Especially during PMS Week..lol. So i warned him ahead of time that i can't take the stress of these games and would most likely not be going to many of them. Well today he had a game and the weather is so nice,i took my daughter to the library and then we stopped down to watch a little of his game.BIG MISTAKE! He was up to bat and struck out, his team-mates were angry with him that he struck out,he threw the bat down after they yelled at him for Not swinging at some of the throws,i know he threw the bat out of frustration but he was yelled at by the coach(and other kids had to chime in with "yeah,dont throw the bat!!"),so he was benched for awhile. Perfectly okay by me,he did throw the bat and so he should be punished for it.I watched him on the bench for awhile and he was crying and upset.As a mom you want to walk over and talk to him, but i didnt want to embarrass him,so i stayed put.He told me later some of the coaches were snotty to him about how he struck out and blah, blah, blah.He feels like the whole team is blaming him for losing.He said certain kids can strike out and nobody calls them a "loser" or yells at them.As a mom you wanna protect them and tell off every little kid that calls him a loser! Or confront the coaches(high school boys) about favoritism,but whats the point??? Im stuck in the middle because my son wants to quit because in his words"everyone treats him like crap" but on the other hand, you can't throw the bat and have a tantrum everytime things dont go your way! UGH!!! Not sure if i should let him quit or not,but he has to realize, small towns will always have the "golden boys" ones that always get to play and get all the glory.Its sad but true! Whatever happened to just playing to have fun?!!

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      #82023 - 06/22/04 02:09 PM
LauraSue

Reged: 01/14/04
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Loc: New York City

Sorry to hear about the problems. If it's any comfort, it's not just small towns! It's just human nature, unfortunately. Don't worry, whatever you do or he does, in the long run things will work out okay. I was never picked for kickball and look at me now!! (Okay, maybe that's not the best example, given my fondness for Santa hats!!)

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Re: This is why i hate small town sports!!!! new
      #82031 - 06/22/04 02:33 PM
barbie

Reged: 04/22/04
Posts: 2435
Loc: Texas

Hi,

I am sorry you are having a hard time with this baseball thing. I know how cut throat some of these teams and coaches can be. When my boys were young they went through little league and my husband was coach and I was team mother. My husband always treated everyone equally and the kids always had a good time. But observing other teams,I have seen many things that made me cringe. Also hearing stories from my younger friends that have boys & girls playing now. The coaches actually have fist fights on the field and people make nasty comments and some get thrown out of the park. They seem to forget this is all supposed to be for fun!! It's gotten to be more of an ego thing.

My suggestion would be to try and see if your son can finish the season. Tell him not to let all these things bother him and especially not to let his temper get the best of him (he can't throw the bat). Maybe you could talk to the coach in private very calmly and tell him some of your feelings. If none of this works, and it is causing you and your son too much stress then let him quit. It's not worth it.

Good luck
Barbie

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