To all of my friends, I am so sorry if I offended any of you......long post
#81752 - 06/21/04 09:56 PM
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gigi
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Last night,6/21/04, I logged on and came across a terribly cruel string. One person caused too much aggrevation and hurt feelings, and it was done on purpose, without thought for anyone but themselves. A game, played by someone who had nothing better to do. Upon request Heather removed it.
Before I knew it, several minutes later, it started again, with someone else. I found myself involved in a conversation, that I was offended by, that ended with hurt feelings, to myself and several other posts. If the response I gave hurt anyone, I apologize. At this moment, I am feeling quite ill. It has never been my intention to come to this board, and be involved in a dispute. I know this is a haven for most of us to share, listen, find hope, acceptance, and make some great friends.
If you feel lost because you have not read any of it, that is ok. I would rather you feel lost than to have the inner turmoil that I, and a few others may be feeling right now.
I apologize once again, I pray that I am never caught up in another mess like this. I am only human, I do the best I can every day, and ask forgiveness for my blunders.
I am now experiencing reflux, indegestion, cramping......, emotionally and internally, I am feeling the repurcussion. I regret all of this, I hope this causes no one to leave, I feel that I should stay away for a few days to regroup, and hopefully behave like the adult I am. I hope you all continue to be my friends, I need you, everytime I have come for help, I have felt such support and love. The last month has been extremely stressful to me, things have happened with my family that I have not felt strong enough to post, though, some of it I have posted.
Thanks for putting up with me! gayla
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GAYLA YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG. ONLY SUPPORTED, GIVEN GREAT ADVICE AND SYMPATHY WITH THE UTMOST OF GOOD INTENTIONS. FROM THE POSTS I'VE READ BY YOU IT IS CLEAR TO ME THAT YOU ARE A KIND AND LOVING PERSON WHO PUTS OTHERS BEFORE HERSELF REPEATEDLY.
ALL YOU DID IN REGARDS TO THIS SITUATION WAS STAND UP FOR US AND OUR BELOVED MESSAGEBOARD! I'D ACTUALLY BEEN FOLLOWING "THE" THREAD FOR A WHILE AND THOUGHT YOU WERE THE MOST SYMPATHETIC AND KIND-HEARTED TOWARDS THIS PERSON, EVEN WHEN YOU CONTINOUSLY RECIEVED NOTHING BUT MEAN-SPIRITEDNESS THROWN BACK AT YOU.
YOU ARE A WONDERFUL PERSON GAYLA. NEVER FORGET THAT, YA HEAR?
p.s - the above was purposely done in caps because I wanted to emphasize how STRONGLY I felt Gayla! We luv ya! 
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Gayla
I missed what happened.... but I can say... I know that Heather stepped in and removed the "stuff"....
I was not offened by any of the posts that I WAS able to see....you have always been a sweetheart to me and so many others as well.
Take the time that you need and then come back HOME.... I hope you feel better soon.
{{HUGS}}
Your Friend!! 
Shell
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This is so sweet, I can't tell you how much it means to have you take the time to write those words. I know some of this vile was flung at you, that is the reason I spoke up.
I was just telling my dil yesterday that I am doing just fine without taking my Prozac. W-R-O-N-G. I am defintely going back on them in the morning.
Love and prayers to you! gayla
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I love you all so much, I just think I have had too much stress, especially last week. I need some rest. I am going to spend time with a good book. Thanks Shell, love you!
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i missed the first (removed) bit but have been briefed by one of my spies. (  ) it is my understanding that the original issue is a dead one now for a reason. that person was beyond help because of a closed mind. i want you to try your best to forget about that whole situation. it's not up to us to live someone else's life and if they want to have that ugliness in their hearts then there's nothing we can do about it. and it obviously why that person wasn't getting well, by the way!
moving on...
as for the second string you're referring to- i did read that one. listen, politics get heated and that's basically what that was- a political argument. i think things got out of control, surely, and unfortunately with politics and religion sometimes hurtful things get said because people feel so strongly about it. factor in the fact that medical issues came into play- and as you know very well, when we don't feel well we aren't ourselves and we also speak loudly to injustices we perceive about those medical problems. i believe it's important to remember that we live in this country because we have the right to disagree. sometimes it's best to just back slowly out of a conversation that has dissolved into heated messiness like that. and that's what you've done. i do not believe that there's a "right" or "wrong" in the conversation itself- it's all a matter of persepective and opinion. however, it did get out of control partially because of the FIRST situation- things got miscontrued and misinterpreted and feelings were hurt when there was no intention of hurting them. and then things snowballed as people reacted.
Gayla, please know we value your support on the boards. i'm so sorry that this has distressed you so much! i know you have twice now tried to stand up for what you believe is right and that is really admirable. we really appreciate your presence and input here. if you need a break, take it, but please come back!
SMOOCHES!
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Gayla,
Please don't get so stressed out. If you read a post and the person is toooooo negative just go on to the next. There are some people here who want help and of course some that don't. Better to use your energy helping those that want it and really need it.
You have enough things to contend with in life without letting yourself get so upset over people that are sooo negative. Save your strength for the BIG things in life we have to take of. You need to take care of YOU first.
Hopefully you'll read some of our posts to you today and come right back on the boards. Everyone cares, you know that!
Hugs,
Pat
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Gayla, please don't leave us because of some rude people that definitely don't want to accept any help or advice....and are full of revenge. You are so compassionate and have helped so many people on these boards. You will always be my friend.
I am so sorry you are feeling bad. I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better.
I know how stressing family problems can be. I am having a bit of trouble with my sister's family, too. Last night was a very restless night for me.
I did read the thread that Heather deleted and I was so proud of you for looking out for the rest of us. I could not believe what that person was saying. She is filled with hate. I was so tempted to jump in and start ranting but I chose to stay out.....just chicken, I guess.
Feel better soon
Barbie
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For Gayla
#81810 - 06/22/04 06:23 AM
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bz
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Hi Gayla,
I don't post all that much but I do try to keep up. Just to let you know, I missed the enitre post. BUT from the posts I have read I just wanted to let you know that I think you are a caring, sweet person who tries to help other people. Please don't let someone else keep you from the boards. Everyone here values your friendship. We all go through rough periods in our lives, please let people here be the shoulder you lean on when you feel the need.
Barbara
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I Second That!
#81824 - 06/22/04 07:18 AM
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Bevvy
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I just woke up, came on Board to find this, and I'm sitting here with a big question mark over my head.
WHOA! Gayla, Sweetie, I echo my friend, WACW's, comments.
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Gayla, please know we value your support on the boards. i'm so sorry that this has distressed you so much! i know you have twice now tried to stand up for what you believe is right and that is really admirable. we really appreciate your presence and input here. if you need a break, take it, but please come back
I could not have said it better. Although, if I were to say all that myself, I'd put capitals at the beginning of all my sentences!
Okay, sorry. Just a little brevity there to lighten things up a bit....
Sweetheart, you spoke up for what you believed, and bless you for it! Please don't stop being yourself. That's the gal we've all come to know and love. Just put these isolated incidences out of your mind -- they're not worth all the heartache you're giving them -- and focus on the big picture.
I don't know what family issues you're talking about, but they take precedence over anything else in life. Family is everything; I know, because I don't have one. I hope you can work them out, and, if not, I certainly hope you will come back and let us help you through any of them.
We're your friends here; please don't ever think otherwise.
Bev
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Miss Bevrs-
#81825 - 06/22/04 07:21 AM
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jenX
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"Of course, if I were to say all that myself, I'd put capitals at the beginning of my sentences. "
hardeeharhar.
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PS, Bevvy:
#81826 - 06/22/04 07:22 AM
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jenX
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you DO have a family. you have Don.
and me!
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I Suspected . . .
#81827 - 06/22/04 07:23 AM
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Bevvy
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. . . you wouldn't be amused. That's okay, because you still love me. I know. You can't help yourself. I'm just too adorable. (Notice all the capitals. Eat your heart out.)
How many more hours 'till Wild And Crazy Cute Bartender?
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PS, WACW
#81829 - 06/22/04 07:24 AM
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Bevvy
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SMOOCHES! (All caps here.)
P.S.: About the nose picker ..... ew
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#81831 - 06/22/04 07:34 AM
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jenX
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not too shabby.
of course i wasn't mad and you know it! or else you would never have teased me.
many aplogies about the all lowercase. i never got the training on how to make 'em all fancy and tall...
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Well i am pretty new here and all i can say is you have been the sweetest to me this whole time with all the advice on how to handle my daughter's school Principal.I read that first thread before it was removed,i don't think that girl was mentally stable at all, i didn't read the 2nd one(if its still on here?)but it doesnt matter,although we never met face to face my first impression of you is a sweet,kind,warm-hearted,mothering,smart and generous woman! I bet ya got one of those cute Texas accents too? Hey ya'll and all those other cute phrases...lol, have a good day and try not to stress!!! ~~~~~~Tanya
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Oh Boy!
#81860 - 06/22/04 08:27 AM
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Bevvy
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We can't wait. We're all anxious for the next kiss....
BTW, Cutie-Pie, you're a fun person to tease.
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You are an ESSENTIAL part of our community here. Please don't let this upset you so much. Let it run off your back like water off a duck, okay???
If you need to stay away for a few days we sure all understand. And we'll be welcoming you back with GREAT BIG HUGS!!!!
Love ya
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Laura
Keep it simple!
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what if there IS no kiss this week!???!?!?!?!!?!?!?!!?
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Of course there will be a kiss this week, and the week after, and the week after that. Otherwise, he wouldn't have kissed you in the first place! Enjoy the first few kisses, they are the best (although the rest aren't bad either, are they???)
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i'm such a pessimist when it comes to romance, though!
i'm not used to having the boys i crush on like me back. i guess i'm just being superstitious.
i will keep ya'll posted, though. i'm on orders from my bestest bud Bevrs (bbB) to keep up the excitement so she can hear the stories!
thanks for the good perspective, though. i will keep that in mind. i guess he wouldn't kiss me once like that if he didn't intend to do it again! at least we hope not.
and i WILL enjoy the first kisses. i think they are definitely fun.
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You are not the only one! I am so sorry I joined the "political" conversation! That was not an intelligent thing to do. Had I dreamed...I tried to appologize, but that went over like a lead balloon, and I truy was about to delete this board from my life - despite the help and encouragement I have received here. I guess opinions aren't too welcome in some arenas. It's just lately, I've been on the receiving end of a lot of "Mine is the only opinion that counts and I don't want to hear yours" kind of treatment, and I guess I poorly worded my own. I still regret it.
Thanks for having the courage and strength to speak your heart. I am going to follow your example. I don't ever want to offend. I just get defensive in the presence of misdirected blame-placing. I'll learn to keep my opinions to myself....especially while I'm so sick myself and waiting to find my own answers. I'm just over-responsive right now.
Courage and gratitude from here. I, too wish I'd never been drawn into the fray. Thanks for having such a good heart.
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God is Faithful!
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no, Kim!
#81959 - 06/22/04 11:47 AM
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jenX
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don't leave!
jeepers, i'm so sorry that this has upset so many people! please don't feel "bad" for voicing your opinion....
we enjoy having you here and i always like to read your posts. please don't leave us!
i'm going to be really mad/sad if people start leaving! i don't want to lose my friends!!!!!!!
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about staying out of this post but here I am. As for the posts that were deleted I am glad I missed them. As for the "political" string that I read I understand her point and everyone else's for that matter. My understanding is that she is/was VERY ANGRY about the FDA and this administration and I hear her, heck every administration has irritated me and I don't belong to either of the two major parties. Having studied politics and having a husband who has a master's in the field people have to try and understand how the government works and that is not easy. So if it means going to the library and actually reading the transcripts of what our elected leaders are saying, do so, don't just rely on what the newspaper is telling us, do your own research and always remember who your source is and by all means VOTE! As for posting on this message board I and the rest of us should keep religion and politics out of the conversation because I have a hard time reading some people's posts now knowing their perspective. Off my soap box I will go and back to the messages that have brought us all together, how to beat IBS!
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And you can bet politics will be avoided like the plague from now on! I am going to learn to keep my mouth shut! At least about some things! Thanks!
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I'm sticking around. I need the support as I struggle through another diagnosis of what I assumed was IBS acting up. Now that I'm back into and unknown territory, this site has been most helpful on every aspect of gastrointestinal (sp?) problems. However, I am going to be a LOT more careful about saying ANYTHING when stuff other than IBS is involved. I've been surprised how upset I've been over this, and quite frankly, I don't need it right now. I am going to be VERY quiet! Shhhhhhh!
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Opinion From bbB
#82050 - 06/22/04 04:25 PM
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Bevvy
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Maybe he might have kissed you once, just to see what you'd do, just to get a reaction out of you, or just for the fun of it. BUT he most definitely wouldn't have dropped trou and done the happy dance!
Oh, you'll be kissed again, oh yeah ...... and I can't wait.
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for a few days. I totally missed what happened and happy to miss it. This is suppose to be a supportive place to go and it is nice to have Heather around to delete the negative comments.
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