To all of my friends, I am so sorry if I offended any of you......long post
#81752 - 06/21/04 09:56 PM
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gigi
Reged: 03/21/04
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Last night,6/21/04, I logged on and came across a terribly cruel string. One person caused too much aggrevation and hurt feelings, and it was done on purpose, without thought for anyone but themselves. A game, played by someone who had nothing better to do. Upon request Heather removed it.
Before I knew it, several minutes later, it started again, with someone else. I found myself involved in a conversation, that I was offended by, that ended with hurt feelings, to myself and several other posts. If the response I gave hurt anyone, I apologize. At this moment, I am feeling quite ill. It has never been my intention to come to this board, and be involved in a dispute. I know this is a haven for most of us to share, listen, find hope, acceptance, and make some great friends.
If you feel lost because you have not read any of it, that is ok. I would rather you feel lost than to have the inner turmoil that I, and a few others may be feeling right now.
I apologize once again, I pray that I am never caught up in another mess like this. I am only human, I do the best I can every day, and ask forgiveness for my blunders.
I am now experiencing reflux, indegestion, cramping......, emotionally and internally, I am feeling the repurcussion. I regret all of this, I hope this causes no one to leave, I feel that I should stay away for a few days to regroup, and hopefully behave like the adult I am. I hope you all continue to be my friends, I need you, everytime I have come for help, I have felt such support and love. The last month has been extremely stressful to me, things have happened with my family that I have not felt strong enough to post, though, some of it I have posted.
Thanks for putting up with me! gayla
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GAYLA YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG. ONLY SUPPORTED, GIVEN GREAT ADVICE AND SYMPATHY WITH THE UTMOST OF GOOD INTENTIONS. FROM THE POSTS I'VE READ BY YOU IT IS CLEAR TO ME THAT YOU ARE A KIND AND LOVING PERSON WHO PUTS OTHERS BEFORE HERSELF REPEATEDLY.
ALL YOU DID IN REGARDS TO THIS SITUATION WAS STAND UP FOR US AND OUR BELOVED MESSAGEBOARD! I'D ACTUALLY BEEN FOLLOWING "THE" THREAD FOR A WHILE AND THOUGHT YOU WERE THE MOST SYMPATHETIC AND KIND-HEARTED TOWARDS THIS PERSON, EVEN WHEN YOU CONTINOUSLY RECIEVED NOTHING BUT MEAN-SPIRITEDNESS THROWN BACK AT YOU.
YOU ARE A WONDERFUL PERSON GAYLA. NEVER FORGET THAT, YA HEAR?
p.s - the above was purposely done in caps because I wanted to emphasize how STRONGLY I felt Gayla! We luv ya! 
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Gayla
I missed what happened.... but I can say... I know that Heather stepped in and removed the "stuff"....
I was not offened by any of the posts that I WAS able to see....you have always been a sweetheart to me and so many others as well.
Take the time that you need and then come back HOME.... I hope you feel better soon.
{{HUGS}}
Your Friend!! 
Shell
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This is so sweet, I can't tell you how much it means to have you take the time to write those words. I know some of this vile was flung at you, that is the reason I spoke up.
I was just telling my dil yesterday that I am doing just fine without taking my Prozac. W-R-O-N-G. I am defintely going back on them in the morning.
Love and prayers to you! gayla
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I love you all so much, I just think I have had too much stress, especially last week. I need some rest. I am going to spend time with a good book. Thanks Shell, love you!
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i missed the first (removed) bit but have been briefed by one of my spies. (  ) it is my understanding that the original issue is a dead one now for a reason. that person was beyond help because of a closed mind. i want you to try your best to forget about that whole situation. it's not up to us to live someone else's life and if they want to have that ugliness in their hearts then there's nothing we can do about it. and it obviously why that person wasn't getting well, by the way!
moving on...
as for the second string you're referring to- i did read that one. listen, politics get heated and that's basically what that was- a political argument. i think things got out of control, surely, and unfortunately with politics and religion sometimes hurtful things get said because people feel so strongly about it. factor in the fact that medical issues came into play- and as you know very well, when we don't feel well we aren't ourselves and we also speak loudly to injustices we perceive about those medical problems. i believe it's important to remember that we live in this country because we have the right to disagree. sometimes it's best to just back slowly out of a conversation that has dissolved into heated messiness like that. and that's what you've done. i do not believe that there's a "right" or "wrong" in the conversation itself- it's all a matter of persepective and opinion. however, it did get out of control partially because of the FIRST situation- things got miscontrued and misinterpreted and feelings were hurt when there was no intention of hurting them. and then things snowballed as people reacted.
Gayla, please know we value your support on the boards. i'm so sorry that this has distressed you so much! i know you have twice now tried to stand up for what you believe is right and that is really admirable. we really appreciate your presence and input here. if you need a break, take it, but please come back!
SMOOCHES!
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Gayla,
Please don't get so stressed out. If you read a post and the person is toooooo negative just go on to the next. There are some people here who want help and of course some that don't. Better to use your energy helping those that want it and really need it.
You have enough things to contend with in life without letting yourself get so upset over people that are sooo negative. Save your strength for the BIG things in life we have to take of. You need to take care of YOU first.
Hopefully you'll read some of our posts to you today and come right back on the boards. Everyone cares, you know that!
Hugs,
Pat
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Gayla, please don't leave us because of some rude people that definitely don't want to accept any help or advice....and are full of revenge. You are so compassionate and have helped so many people on these boards. You will always be my friend.
I am so sorry you are feeling bad. I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better.
I know how stressing family problems can be. I am having a bit of trouble with my sister's family, too. Last night was a very restless night for me.
I did read the thread that Heather deleted and I was so proud of you for looking out for the rest of us. I could not believe what that person was saying. She is filled with hate. I was so tempted to jump in and start ranting but I chose to stay out.....just chicken, I guess.
Feel better soon
Barbie
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For Gayla
#81810 - 06/22/04 06:23 AM
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bz
Reged: 06/18/03
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Loc: Brooklyn, NY
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Hi Gayla,
I don't post all that much but I do try to keep up. Just to let you know, I missed the enitre post. BUT from the posts I have read I just wanted to let you know that I think you are a caring, sweet person who tries to help other people. Please don't let someone else keep you from the boards. Everyone here values your friendship. We all go through rough periods in our lives, please let people here be the shoulder you lean on when you feel the need.
Barbara
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I Second That!
#81824 - 06/22/04 07:18 AM
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Bevvy
Reged: 11/04/03
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Loc: Northwest Washington State
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I just woke up, came on Board to find this, and I'm sitting here with a big question mark over my head.
WHOA! Gayla, Sweetie, I echo my friend, WACW's, comments.
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Gayla, please know we value your support on the boards. i'm so sorry that this has distressed you so much! i know you have twice now tried to stand up for what you believe is right and that is really admirable. we really appreciate your presence and input here. if you need a break, take it, but please come back
I could not have said it better. Although, if I were to say all that myself, I'd put capitals at the beginning of all my sentences!
Okay, sorry. Just a little brevity there to lighten things up a bit....
Sweetheart, you spoke up for what you believed, and bless you for it! Please don't stop being yourself. That's the gal we've all come to know and love. Just put these isolated incidences out of your mind -- they're not worth all the heartache you're giving them -- and focus on the big picture.
I don't know what family issues you're talking about, but they take precedence over anything else in life. Family is everything; I know, because I don't have one. I hope you can work them out, and, if not, I certainly hope you will come back and let us help you through any of them.
We're your friends here; please don't ever think otherwise.
Bev
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