Such a difficult time..
#48585 - 03/07/04 04:07 PM
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KinOz
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... I feel as if every time I post lately it is with sadness. I'm sure it will even out soon but our family has really had a rough time.
I posted a while back to say that my father in law was ill with pancreatic cancer. They removed the tumour in late November and we were told they had "got it all". Well since then he has deteriorated and been unable to have the chemotherapy due to being so ill.
Recently he has been in and out of hospital with blood clots and then Thursday night he went back to hospital with pains and was confused etc. My husband rang me Thursday night to say there was no hope. I couldn't believe it. The cancer has spread throughout his lymphatic system and organs etc. Just 3 weeks ago his scan was clear! The doctors say it is an extremely aggressive cancer. On Friday he was given several days to live.
Saturday night he deteriorated quickly and his breathing was very irregular. The doctors felt he had hours left so we all stayed at the hospital all night and called in a chaplain etc. He made it through the night and on Sunday morning woke up and spoke! It was wonderful to be able to speak to him again and my son hugged and kissed his Poppy and gave him a teddy bear. The doctors think that maybe us all being there gave him the strength to come back for a while longer.
It's a waiting game and it's just so hard. He's only 55 years old and it's so unfair.
As far as our IVF story goes I am going for some surgery soon as the Doctors think I might have endometriosis as well as the PCOS now. I will be having a hysteroscopy, a laparoscopy, a curette and they will drill my ovaries at the same time as well as lasering any endo they find. I'm a bit scared but it has to be done before I can attempt any more transfers. I don't know when I will have it done as we want to spend all our time at the hospital at the moment. I will post about this separately I think as I would like to hear from anyone who may have had anything similar done.
Will update soon,
Kerrie
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Yes, Kerrie, I remember your post very well.
I am very glad that you have this time to say good-bye to your dad. I didn't have the opportunity, as I believe I told you. To have this chance for closure will help you when the time does come; over the years it will be easier for you to hold him in your heart while being able to live.
I will hold you in my prayers.
Bev
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Hello Kerrie,
I just wanted to say that I think of you often because I have read your posts in the past and I know you have been going through such hard times lately. Try to be strong and know that our hearts go out to you!
Keep in touch,
Debby
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Dear Kerrie,
I'm so sorry about your father in law. But glad that you got to spend some time with him. Cancer is so unfair.
I am replying to your post to let you know I'm thinking of you and praying for you, but also to let you know that I have PCOS, too. I have done tons of research, and if you'd like any info, I'd be glad to share with you. It stinks, but is fairly easily treated.
Hope things look up soon for you and your family.
God bless,
J Doe
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.. for your support. My father-in-law is hanging in there at present and every extra day we get to spend with him is wonderful.
J Doe - it's good to talk to someone else with PCOS. I would love to hear more from you. I too have done a fair bit of research so maybe we could compare notes? I have it pretty well under control except for it's effect on my fertility (or lack of!).
My email is bkgarlick@gil.com.au and I would love to compare some info if you get the time.
Thanks again girls,
Kerrie
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Kerrie I am so sorry about what you are going through. I don't know where you get your strength right now, but hang in there.
Enjoy as much time as you can with your father-n-law. The last few weeks I spent with my mother-n-law were so special and I will cherish those times forever. It is hard to see people go at a young age.
Hope everything goes well with your surgery too.
I'll continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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... how is your son getting on? I have been wondering since your last post about him. Hope verything is OK.
Kerrie
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I can really empathise with what you are going through at the moment. My brother is getting married next week, however, his fiance's father (soon to be his father in law) has just found out he has the most aggressive form of cancer. He spent 6 hours getting fluid drained and now they have 2 options: If they can operate, he will miss the wedding as he has to be in intensive care for 3 weeks. If it's too bad/late to operate, they will give him chemo to try and keep him with us until the wedding. It's cast a shadow over it all. It is hard to find strength Kerrie and your father in law is so young, but I am really sending positive thoughts your way.
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Thanks for asking. The IEP meeting isn't until the end of the month, but at teacher/parent conference last night the LD teacher said Alex is making good progress in school. 
He should start with the Language and Speech teacher next month. I am very happy with his progress and happy with how the school is handling him amid major budget cuts.
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