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      #359842 - 07/20/10 07:33 PM

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I'm 4 weeks post-op (brain surgery for my new readers) and I'm doing well in the recovery from that. I'm walking every day - sometimes twice a day, up to 1.5 miles. I still rest 2 or 3 times a day though - for 1 to 2 hours, and I may nap during those times if I need to. All in all I feel great - without headaches!! I'm tired, don't get me wrong, and I still have a long recovery ahead, but I do feel good!

I did have a set-back though... During my surgery they must have really wrenched on my right arm... My family doctor believes my rotator cuff is torn - again. I've already had 2 surgeries for it in 2000 and 2003. I can barely lift my arm to the side, can't reach out forwards, and it hurts more than the brain and leg do from surgery! So today my dr. sent an MRI referral and a referral to my former orthopaedic surgeon. Unfortunately the wait to see her is 2 months to 10 months after the MRI, which could take up to 8 weeks too! Going back to work like this will be next to impossible.... I can barely type for 15 minutes, let alone a day at work!

But I need not complain... at least about that!! I want to air something else...

Should I be upset that I have not got a phone call, card, flowers, basket or anything from my office?? I went to visit them 2 weeks after my surgery - they know I'm home from Toronto! Our usual practice is - whenever someone is off on sick leave, has a baby, a death, etc - to pass around a book with an envelope into which everyone makes a $2 to $5 donation for a gift for the person. I contribute every time, but I'm not important enough to receive the same treatment as the 6 or 7 people to whom I've donated in the 2.5 years I've worked there. There's 32 - 35 people in our office.

I know, I know, stupid office politics. But, I thought these people, or at least some of them, were my friends. Truthfully, the only non-blood related visitor I have had since my surgery was from New Zealand!! A young lady who worked at our firm as a student was here to visit family and called to visit! It was wonderful to see her, and I was touched she thought of me during her visit!!

I'm just sad and lonely to think that no one gives a darn about me in person!! I know I have wonderful support from my family here and on a couple other support groups to which I belong. But it's lonely recovering all by my lonesome... just my hubby to talk to. And yes, people know I'm up to company - at least 1 hour visits! I have called several friends and e-mailed quite a few more... Many have said they'll call and come by... I just stopped waiting for the phone to ring.

Sorry - feeling lonesome tonight... Thanks for reading....


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Re: Another update new
      #359843 - 07/20/10 08:17 PM

Reged: 10/25/03
Posts: 1716
Loc: Maryland

Hi Cassandra,

I think that you have every right to be upset that you have heard nothing from your office and co-workers. You had major surgery and I understand why you feel lonely and hurt, especially if it is office policy to do something for people who are out of the office. I hope that they are just giving you some time and will be around to visit, will call and send you something.

I do understand how you feel about being lonely while you are stuck at home. I have been through this before when I had eye surgery and it is very depressing. As you continue to heal and get stronger and can get out more you will feel better mentally. I think your feelings are normal after everything that you have been through.

I am happy to hear that you are feeling better and not having any headaches. I am sorry to hear about your shoulder. I hope that the doctor will be able to get you in sooner for the MRI and your appointment.

Hugs sweetie,


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      #359844 - 07/20/10 08:27 PM

Reged: 03/02/06
Posts: 1026
Loc: West Michigan, USA

I'm so sorry, hon! I totally understand how you feel. If I was closer, I'd be there!! I would! I think what happens is that sometimes, people just don't know how to act...or what to say. Not a great excuse but I know it happens. Yep, I'd be mad/hurt as well.

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      #359890 - 07/22/10 11:03 AM

Reged: 02/10/03
Posts: 2167

Here's some get-well {{{hugs}}}. I am so happy you are doing well after your surgery. Sorry about the arm. I know what you mean about feeling lonely during recovery. Try not to worry too much about your office. Maybe they are still planning on doing what you said they do for others....just haven't finished collecting for or buying the gift. When my mother passed away in May, I was down for a few days because I hadn't been given a card from my co-workers. We always pass a card around and everyone signs...for birthdays, funerals, etc. I eventually got it...come to find out, they were waiting on some people to return from vacation, etc., so that they could also sign the card. Their personal messages they wrote were so touching. So don't give up on your co-workers...something has probably come up that has caused the delay.

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      #359894 - 07/22/10 12:39 PM

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Though I usually dont pop over here - I just read your post... ((((HUGS))))))) to you - I am so sorry your office people are so insensitve and clueless. It seems that the desire to be politically correct or powerful is more important than compassion and polite concern these days - I see it all the time - it is such a shame... your story brought tears to my eyes... But just know that you are worthy of concern and I am sending a little thought and prayer your way.... take good care.

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      #359901 - 07/22/10 07:41 PM
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