UGHHHH!!! CO-WORKERS!!!
#348329 - 07/23/09 01:16 PM
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Kappy
Reged: 10/09/08
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Loc: Mississippi
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Ok, so it's LUCY's birthday. She is a teller here. Everyone thinks she is soooooo special. Nothing special about her.
(Sorry, I need to vent, and DH tells me to just blow it off)
So, since it's her birthday and she did this great display for one of our promotional items (a 5 year old could have come up with the idea), she got a HUGE birthday breakfast AND lunch (On my birthday and everyone elses they got zip. And I am one of the hardest working people in this damn bank and I help EVERYONE no matter what they need {sorry to boast}). This is all the food they had:
Breakfast casserole (bread, cheese, sausage, eggs)
Coconut Cake
Cupcakes (I did have a small one, it's duncan hines and it was wonderful, so far so good)
Brisket
Baked Beans (loaded with HFCS)
Potato salad with cream cheese and yellow cheese
Dinner rolls (HFCS)
(there was more, but I can't remember it all)
I'm upstairs where the kitchen is and when they started heating up everything, it smelled oh so wonderful!!!!!! I just felt so upset that I couldn't eat ANY of it (well, except for the cupcake  it did help a little)
When they do this, though, it makes me very depressed and upset, and I go into a binge where I want to eat everything, and hide that I am eating it. Then I feel so nasty after eating it that I wanna make myself throw up. Sometimes I do. I know that's bad, but I'm scared of how my stomach will feel with all that food in there. I need some help. Mentally. I'm almost in tears right now, and I shouldn't be, but I'm such a bad person for doing that. I have never told ANYONE that I do that. Please don't judge me. I just can't handle this stuff anymore.
Then, when I don't eat, everyone is like "why aren't you eating" and "do you not like it" and "oh your just dieting you need to quit". I hate it I hate it I HATE IT!!!!!!!
I have been trying not to binge today. It has been hard. I had 4 small figs and 3 pieces of chocolate that were not on my food schedule today apart from the cup cake. That wasn't too bad.
I know that I'm in sooooooo much better health than my co-workers. Every single one of them is VERY over weight (except the guys of course and one older lady). I'm the only one that is in a healthy weight range for my height.
Then everyone complains about being fat. UGGGHHHHH!!!!!!! Can they just see what they are doing to themselves? (Look who's talking)
Please, anybody, I need some encouragement.
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It is tough at work functions, I know. I always end up eating some unsafe food and regret it badly. Like today. You really need to try to not vomit though. It will become a bad cycle.
I would like to see Heather or Erin give us tips on how to handle everything psychologically speaking about IBS. Like the mental aspects of it. I struggle with food daily in that I know things will mess me up, but somtimes I still eat them. I think it is because of a bit of self denial that my IBS will act up and I want to fit in with everyone else. I think my main problem is not taking the time to prepare safe foods.
But, it is a mental struggle as much as a physical struggle. It would be good if somebody researched on how to help us deal with those aspects. 
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I don't know what I can say that will help other than I understand. I've never binged, but I do know how you feel because I have been in similar situations where I just want to scream. But, instead, I put a smile on my face and deal with it later when I'm alone.
Hang in there! And know that your friends here are always there for you! {{{lots of hugs}}}
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I bet she's sleeping with the boss!
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IBS-D since 1999...mostly stable..i do cheat too.Bad me.
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LOL!LOL!LOL! Good one Dragonfly!
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The only thing is the boss is a Woman! lol
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thank you both. I have done really well today (haven't necessarily binged and have not purged at all)
I'm just crying inside. It just seems that EVERYWHERE I go I run into this problem. We try to be very social when there are events going on. But it's so hard!!!!
I can't stand having to deny myself good food, especially coconut cake and breakfast casserole  .
I'm hanging in there, but it's only by a thread.
Thank you, both, again, for trying to help me.
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I'm married and it's so wonderful!
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I know what you mean last week we went to a cook out and there was food every were and it looked and smelled so good! I sat with my chicken and baked chips and watch everyone eat taco salad and cheesebugers and baked beans. This moring my daughter had doughnuts for breakfeast and I had the same old bowel of crisp-x. At lunch dh had a big bowel of canloupe and that was it look and smelled so good I cried for like a hour!!! I miss food so much some days I know in my heart it not worth the stomach pains! But why can't I just be normal and eat like everyone else does!!! Your not alone today! Theres a awesome choclate chip cookie reicpe on the board if that helps. I made them a couple of weeks ago and it helped but today I could use a big bowel of choclate ice-cream or some really good mexican food!!! HUGS XXX
emmasmom
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I agree sometimes the mental is worse on me than anything! I am so sick of eating the same things everyday! I feel like a robot! Thanks for saying this I am glad I not alone!
emmasmom
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Oh Kappy, you have to see it from their perspective. They are not setting out to ruin you. Sometimes we tend to blame the world for our condition, and all they are doing is getting on with living. They don't know where you're coming from, so, no, they will not get it, at least in this lifetime, but that does not make them bad people, nor does it make you a bad person. They don't purposefully bring in all that so-called "bad" food, to ruin your day.
It seems to me that you are upsetting yourself about something you have no control over. Sorry, but DH is right. Not only are you making yourself miserable about the food, but you are making yourself mentally/emotionally a mess. How is that helping the IBS?
Most of us have to work, so we have to learn how to deal with co-workers. Most mean no harm, but for those few that are unkind human beings...do what DH says and blow them off. Just worry about you and not what everyone else is doing. Have you ever shared with your co-workers that you have a medical condition? I bet they would be more understanding than you think.
I am not trying to be hard on you, but take a listen to yourself. Is it your co-workers making you miserable, or is it you making you miserable?????
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I understand their perspective, completely. I never said that my co-workers were making me miserable. I just can't mentally handle the situation. It stresses me out to know that there are such good foods in the kitchen ten feet from my office and I can't have any of it.
I understand that they are going to continue living like you said. I don't want them to change. I just wish they could understand what they are doing to their bodies.
It's also hard for me to sit here and smell all this great food being cooked and not be able to eat it. It is very hard for me. That's when I overeat and try to hide it.
Yes, my co-workers know I have this medical condition. Most of them do understand, but they think it's just like a tummy ache when you've eaten too much. (Like a kid wanting to leave school because his tummy hurts) It's much more than what they think it is.
I don't need to be patronized right now. I'm very stressed out.
I don't care if they eat like pigs. I just needed to vent because I can't eat what they do eat.
Now the DH's parents are BEGGING us to come eat supper, again!!!!! We do this once a frigging week, and it gets old, because I have to take my own supper. They cook steaks, and yeah, I know, they are just "living" like they want to. BUT It's so hard to sit there and watch them eat steaks and potatoes drowning in butter and sourcream and bacon and cheese. I don't want to have to watch someone eating this stuff once a week. At least the DH understands and doesn't rub it in my face.
Hell, I can't eat chicken, and they think I can.
I'm just stressed out and needed some words of encouragement.
Sorry.
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Thanks Emmasmom! I'm glad to know that there are others who feel the same as I do about WATCHING other people eat. It's just mentally stressful!
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Its very hard to set and watch someone else eat. I fix my hubands lunch and sometimes just almost droll over his lunch knowing how good that use to taste and then I fix my daughters lunch same thing. We go for walks every night the smell of the pizza place almost makes me cry! And then on down the steet is a ice cream place and theres people walking by with ice cream. Its never ending! My husband belives me and my parents. My older sisters get mad and says its in my head and so rarely does she invite me to eat! Her husbands better to me than she is. Its hard very hard! I am sorry you can't eat chicken do you mind me asking why? If I could just have my ranch back and some beans and broc here and there that would be nice. Hope your doing better today. I hate the fact that we can't go any were with out planning what I am going to eat....... Any thanks for letting me let off some steam to! Have a good day!
emmasmom
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Thank you fof understanding!
Chicken, unfortunately, is a trigger for me, and I don't know why.
I can eat baked chicken and plain rice, and 15 minutes later, I'm doubled over with pain. Maybe eating too fast, maybe not cutting enough fat off of it? Maybe the protein is too difficult to breakdown.
I can eat fish with no problem. If I couldn't eat fish, I would be vegan. Fish is the only "meat" that I can digest without being uncomfortable after eating. There have been times, though, that I have had trouble from fish as well.
I just dunno...... I wish all of this would go away! I have to plan ahead too for what I'm going to eat. It kind of sucks, especially going on a road trip for the day! Subway is about the only fast food I can eat. I like the baked lays and eat a turkey mini sub. There's not much turkey on it, and when I feel like it's going to be bad, I take the turkey off or just get a veggie sub. But DH completely understands. My parents and his parents understand, but the co-workers, apparently, don't. It's like, "I thought you were on medicine, doesn't that help?" Well NO not all the time. And the meds don't necessarily help for the pain, anymore.
Ugh!
I would love some broccoli too. If I crave it, I will get some from chinese restaurant with the rice and take a bean-o and/or charcocaps and I'm usually ok with it.
You can blow off steam to me anytime! I'm here to listen and to help, when possible.
HUGS! I hope you have a good day too!
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I didn't mean to lash out on you. I just didn't really WANT to hear what you posted  but I know I NEEDED to hear it.
Please forgive me. I'm just trying to make it today.
DH and I have an old colored lady we go and check on in the evenings. She is 84 and lives alone. Her husband died earlier this year. She is in fairly good condition for her age, but we are afraid she won't make it much longer. It's very sad.
On top of that, my grandparents are in very poor health. My grandfather was in the hospital before the wedding, and my grandmother just got out of the hospital. He is stressing her WAY OUT!!!! It makes me upset to see him treat her the way he does. He's old-fashioned and wants her to wait on him hand and foot.
My parents are also not doing well. Mom is an alcoholic, and Dad is a diebetic with RA and Diverticulosis and high blood pressure, and he doesn't have a very steady job. Long story.
Anyway, I'm sorry, again. And I'm sorry to hear about your mother and that you can't go on vacation. You need to get your other family members involved. Make them!!! Don't guilt trip them, just tell them you can't do it ALL!!!!!
HUGS.
Kappy
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Look out...she's gonna blow!!!!! No, seriously, Kappy, it was not my intention to patronize you. I was just trying to make you realize, that your thoughts right now, aren't going to help you, only hurt you. I know that sometimes it is beyond our control, with our thinking, I mean, but things always get better sooner of later. They never stay the same. I just vented about my mom on another post, so I do understand. It was not my intention to upset you. I always keep in the back of my mind, that things could always be worse. Keep the faith. Peace!
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No problem, Kappy. I allowed myself about 2 seconds of pity regarding Mom, and then thought, oh well, there is always next year. The family you speak of is nowhere to be found. Ho hum, well, I move forward and try not to be bitter.
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I know it isn't much but they are going to continue to trash their bodies eating that junk. The last office potluck everyone brought this cheese and meat and other junk. I bring hummus and pita chips along with some honey crunch mix. Safe for me and better for them. Long story short something caused food poisoning and the majority of them eating the same crap made it tough to figure out what. I have the veggie tray, bread tray and the stuff I brought as the only things in common. Secretly I was so glad it wasn't me but I know they'll keep eating the crap. Sure I put up with all the teasing but I keep thinking that's muscle and not fat. I can do six flights if stairs and not be winded (four if I have my laptop) and I am happy with the person in the mirror who cheats once and awhile on a piece of really good dark chocolate but savors it over five minutes and does it when there is a project accomplished.
Sooner or later you will have one or two that come around. After three years one of the gals and her husband became vegans. We now share cooking tips and occassionally leftovers at lunch to improve the recipes. The three of us feel better about ourselves diet wise but also keep hope the others will figure out.
Keep your chin up Kappy. Somedays are definitely rougher but it isn't worth cheating and being sick to fit in. Your health is so much more than a slice of breakfast casserole is worth. Too bad you can't have those ruled as offensive smells and have them banned from the office.
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Thank you so much for the encouraging words! I'm trying to change my attitude and trying not to let it get to me.
That really good piece of dark chocolate is usually my sin after being really good for a couple of weeks. I really enjoy the Green & Black's organic dark chocolate 70% cocoa (or more if I can find it) I love really good dark chocolate and not Hersheys. Hersheys just isn't the same.
Thank you again. You really helped, Sailing Away!
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