Lexapro Diary.....From the first dose on.....
#328867 - 04/25/08 05:34 PM
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Nugget
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Well....I took my first 5mg dose of Lexapro an hour ago. Feeling fine so far. Keeping my fingers crossed. I'll keep you posted.
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Hope it works for you. Does this mean you don't think chemicals are making you sick or the dr doesn't believe in MCS? Good luck!
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I was on Lexarpo for about 8 weeks (two months ago). It did have a positive affect on my IBS however, I stopped using it because I didn't like how it made me feel on an emotional level.... sort of "flat" all the time. Not tired....just sort of bla.
(although I still have a supply and am considering giving it one more try)
I discussed Heather's self Hypnosis for IBS (and anxiety) so I thought perhaps I'd try that first, before taking the Lexapro again.
I really did notice a difference in my stomach feeling "calmer" while on the Lexarpo.
I hope it helps you in feeling better!
Please let me know and keep posting with details.
Good luck!
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IBS-C with bloating and cramps
occasional type A
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Hi Stopper....
No, I still think the chemicals are making me sick...it's just that at this point, until I can figure out what else to do, I needed something to help with the anxiety so that I can function better. I'm not sure my doctor knows what avenues to take for the MCS. The Lexapro hopefully help me function better right now so that I can figure out what to do about the MCS. Ya know?
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Hi Carolyn...thanks for your input. I've read that alot of people do good on Lexapro. I'm hoping for the best. It helps to know what others have gone through. It's so frustrating not feeling well.
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I had slight stomach upset...nausea...last night and got tired, but nothing extreme. This morning I'm feeling slight dizziness and lower back ache, but again...nothing extreme. I keep hoping for the best. I've read that these slight symptoms have a tendency to go away eventually. They are only short term for most people. I hope I'm most people. I experienced the lower backache before going on the Lexapro, so I'm pretty sure it's not the cause. I've had kidney stones in the past and it sort of feels like that...hope not. I don't need that to deal with right now, too. Also have a slight sore throat today....don't think that is the Lexapro either....just fighting a "bug" probably. It can never be just one thing. Ya know? When it rains it pours. Will take my second dose tonight.
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I had some nausea with Lexapro for about a week when I first took it. I also was very tired on it and switched from takiing it in the morning to taking it at night. These sypmtoms all went away. Hope it works out for you.
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Thank you Angela. I am taking it at dinner time. The nausea isn't real bad, thankfully. How long have you been taking it?
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one year this May
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nugget, hope you're feeling better. If it doesn't work, have you considered a low dose ativan for your anxiety? I don't know if it would help your IBS symptoms or not. I only take 1/2 dose when I have vertigo to help calm me.
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Thank Stopper....I've not heard about ativan. I'll keep it in mind, though, should this not work.
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I took my second dose of Lexapro last night. Did not experience any nausea or dizziness! Just a little shakey this morning and to complicate things...I've come down with a cold. Sore throat, sneezing, runny nose...and tired.  The sore throat started late yesterday afternoon. I was hoping it was just a dry throat, but nope....it's a cold. When it rains, it pours! 
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Day 4 and I'm doing pretty good. Other than this darn cold I came down with Saturday.
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Glad to hear you're doing ok! 
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thank jhuggs....
Very stressful day at work today and my tummy even seems to be cooperating.
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I think the Lexapro is helping a bit. I don't want to get my hopes up too early, though as it's only been a few days. Today I'm home sick from work with a horrible head cold...so that's kind of miserable...but so far I haven't experienced any horrible side effects with the Lexapro. Keeping my fingers crossed that this works....and keeping Kleenex close by today...constantly blowing my nose. I honestly don't know how I could have anything more to blow out! Ha!
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Well...it's day 6 and I think it's helping a little bit so far. Kind of hard to tell, though, because I'm also fighting a horrible head cold yesterday and today. My tummy is a little upset today but, I think it has more to do with my cold and the medicine I've taken for stuffy nose and headaches. Also, I'm a bit nervous today because I don't feel well and we have a contractor coming over to do some work on the house. So I don't have the place to myself to just lounge around and get over my cold. There will be saws and tools making noise..so won't get much napping in either to get over my cold. Plus, I don't have any more sick leave and I had to take yesterday and today off work. Frustrating.
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I have kept up will this starting it myself today if I get up engouh nerve. I took it like 4 years ago and did good with it but ibs wasn't so bad. Keep me updated your giving me hope and courage. xx
emmasmom
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Hi Emmasmom....It's still early for me, but I do feel it has helped some. Don't want to get my hopes up too soon, though. I am very pleased that I don't have the shakeyness and such that I have with other meds like this one. I'm on a very low dose to start...so am hoping for the best. I am IBS-D and one of the side effects is C.....so like the nurse said....that could be a plus for me. Haven't experienced it yet, though...but the D has eased some. Good luck to you! It might be worth a try.
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Well, it's been a week now and still doing fairly well. I can't notice a tremendous improvement yet, but I can notice slight improvement. I'm getting over a nasty head cold, so that doesn't help either. But for the most part things are going OK. No nasty side effects.
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It sounds like you're over the "hump". Adjusting to new meds can be rough but it sounds like you made it! Glad you're feeling better 
Jen
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Thanks Jen....
I've got a ways to go, but so far, so good.
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Well, I've passed the 1 week mark! So far so good. Today, I am a little dizzy, but I think it is this head cold I've been dealing with and the Claratin I've been taking for my cold. My tummy seems a little calmer, too. So I'm still keeping my fingers crossed.
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Hi me again. I am still to chicken to give it a whirl again its still in the package in the bathroom. I am scared of it making me more c than what I already am! Keep up the good work though. Hope your cold leaves soon!
emmasmom
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Hi Emmas....my cold is getting better...thanks. I'm only taking 5mg per day of the Lexapro and not C yet. Just a tiny bit of stomach upset today but for the most part, I'm doing good. I don't think the C will be a problem unless you are on a higher dose.
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Still doing well. Cold is getting better....
just a tiny bit of stomach upset today, but nothing unbearable. Hubby and I even went shopping this afternoon and I could notice a significant reduction in my anxiety.
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Well, here it is day 10 already and I'm happy to say I'm not experiencing any bad side effects to speak of. My head cold is almost gone....just a little congestion left. I can notice a slight decrease in my anxiety and things are going pretty well at this point. I'm even able to get out and enjoy working in my flower beds this morning.
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It's great to hear you are doing so well!  What a relief it must have been to go shopping and not have so much anxiety. Hope everything continues to move in a positive direction for you.
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Hi I thinks its 10. If I though that it would just get rid of this GAS ALL THE TIME I would try it! Thanks
emmasmom
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Thank you Beachgirl....I'm keeping my fingers crossed and trying not to get my hopes up too early.
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not sure about the gas issue
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Experiencing a slight bit of anxiety this morning and a little IBS-D, but I think it is mainly due to the fact that it is Monday and I have to go to work. Also am a bit nervous about Mother's Day coming up and not knowing what the plans are for dividing our time between my mother and Mother-in-law. Every year I have this problem. I'm always trying to keep everyone happy and not hurt any feelings by spending more time with one than the other. Ya know? And Mother's Day is kind of hard for me anyways because I had a hysterectomy almost 2 years ago and I don't have any kids of my own....other than my dogs. So it's kind of a rough, anxious time. But, I do think the Lexapro is helping me handle it a little better.
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Day 12 and still doing pretty well. I was brave and ate a salad last night for dinner and am paying the price, though this morning. I don't think it is the medicine, but my stomach is real sour and my IBS-D is acting up. So, kind of a rough morning....but I think it is more what I ate, rather than the Lexapro. I should have known better than to just have salad for dinner....but was trying to eat healthier and eat more green leafy veggies. Ya know. I should have ate more of something else with it. Stupid me.
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Day thirteen and am feeling a bit "on edge", but I think it's more to do with I'm upset with my husband for something he didn't do. But my anxiety has decreased slightly. I do notice a difference.
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Well, I've reached the 2 week mark. I haven't used Imodium for 2 days! Having fairly normal mornings for a couple days now. Even after eating salad! So hopefully things are starting to fall into place with this medicine.
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I'm hoping it can only continue to get better.
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Just when I thought I was going to have a good tummy day....I've started having some cramping and feel a little uncomfortable. No D yet, but definately a little uneasy. Maybe take an Imodium just in case. 
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Hang in there...hopefully just a minor setback. How are you today??
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doing about the same today. I'm nervous about Mother's Day because both my mom and mother-in-law live here in the same town and nobody can seem to make up their mind what they want to do. So am concerned about how we are going to divide our time between the two. It would be easy to just invite everyone out to our house, but then I end up having to do everything.
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not feeling very well today as far as my IBS-D goes. A little anxiety, too. Not looking forward to the Mother's Day weekend, because nobody can seem to let me know what the plans are. I don't know if I'll end up cooking for everyone (both families) or if we will be forced to divide our time. I may just tell my husband "you go spend time with your mom and I'll spend time with mine".
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Had kind of a rough morning this morning with IBS and anxiety, but am doing better now. I think they may have to increase my dose. I see the doctor for a follow-up this Wednesday.
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slight tummy problems this morning again. But, I think it is because of the anticipation of having company for lunch today to celebrate Mother's Day. We are having my MIL and my mother out to our house for lunch. I shouldn't be nervous at all, but I am....Will be fine once everyone gets here. The Lexapro is helping a tiny bit....I think they may have to increase my dose when I go see the doc Wednesday....either that or just be patient and give it more time. Happy Mother's Day everyone!
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Doing fairly well this morning.
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I had my follow-up appointment with my doctor yesterday and told her that I felt better, but still wasn't 100% yet. She said it takes about 6 weeks for the Lexapro to be at it's peak performance. So she gave me the option of trying 10mg and alternating 10mg one day 5mg the next and eventually going to 10 every day or staying at 5mg for a few more weeks to see how I feel. So I decided to try alternating between 10mg and 5mg. I took 10mg last night and haven't noticed any side effects other than what I felt when I first started the medication.....which was slight heartburn/stomach upset, but nothing bad at all. She said she wants me to be on it for at least a year. She was happy I was doing so well. As for the possibility of chemical sensitivity in my work environment, she is going to write a letter to my boss stating that the symptoms I am having could very well be caused by chemical sensitivity and could be eased or eliminated with the installation of a ventilation system. So we'll see what happens there.
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That's good to hear. I started out on 10mg and then wanted to see how I would do on 5mg. Not soo good. My stomach issues were more frequent and not as tolerant as when I was on 10mg. Lexapro has really been big help to me. I can eat much more now than I ever good. Still in moderation and I do not touch dairy or red meat. But I am able to handle other things I couldn't in smaller quantities. I hope that you find success with this.
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thank you so much Angela....it's good to hear that this has helped others. I'm beginning to believe it's going to help me tremendously, too.
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Well...I knew this would happen, but I was hoping it wouldn't. The dreaded lack of labido. The fact that I had a total hysterectomy and can't take hormones doesn't help either. My husband has mentioned it and sometimes I think that's all he thinks about rather than how I'm feeling otherwise. Ya know? That's the main reason he didn't want me to go on any antianxiety/antidepressant. I told him that there are many things that factor into my labido and the things I need the most are the love notes he used to leave me, the flowers he used to send, the "I love you"s and "you're beautiful"s he used to whisper in my ear. He no longer does those things and can't understand why that is important right now. Ya know. So frustrating and it's hurting my feelings.
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Hey I'm with ya! MEN!!
Just when ya need a hug, they think they need more!
Hang in there. I feel the same way when I'm not feeling well. They don't understand when you've spent half the day in the toilet why you don't want to get it on!!
ttreat yourself to a manicure or pedicure or massage. Or all three!! That will make you feel sexy .
Have a happy day!!!
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IBS-D since 1999...mostly stable..i do cheat too.Bad me.
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thanks dragonfly! Don't men realize that in order to "give it" we have to receive love and affection ahead of time? Ya know? What happened to the guy that used to make me feel special all the time. Why is it that my lack of labido is ALWAYS MY fault...he doesn't see it as part of the problem is no affection from him unless he "wants some".
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No kidding!
Flowers once in a while or just making supper AND cleaning up would be nice.
Affection is a four letter word for some men. Why does a back rub always have to end up being a gropefest?
Ah well....Once we get our bodies undercontrol then hopefully things will get better. sometimes you just have to put out to shut them up(did I say that out loud?)
It's tough getting men to understand the relationship between health and sex. They could be dying, breathing their last breath and if you said lets go they'd go down trying!!
Good luck on the meds. I hope they make you feel "normal" soon and remember...sometimes you just have to fake it!!
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IBS-D since 1999...mostly stable..i do cheat too.Bad me.
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It's too bad that your DH is withdrawing from you when you need it most. My DH is the same way. Unfortunately I think that it is just the way some men are (Double J is our ultimate exception on this board!)
Sometimes they just need reminding of how you still need the love and kisses. Just last night I tucked an I love you card in my DH's lunch bag because I'm missing his company lately. He works 4am to noon right now because he does line painting for the municipality. He's in bed at 7:30 - 8pm so I have some lonesome evenings. Tonight he was playful and affectionate so I know he must have understood my message.
I hope your honey comes around and is able to support you emotionally as well.
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Cassandra
Live like there's no tomorrow. Love like you've never loved before.
IBS A 20+ years, Chronic Migraines, Chiari Malformation (decompressed June 22, 2010), Brachial Neuritis, and ??? the list just keeps growing, but I'm still shiny side up!
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Hey Nugget.....I can tell you from my own personal experience with Lexapro: my libido went OUT THE DOOR for the first few months as well! After my body got regulated to the medicine it came back....it only took a few months. I hope that this happens to you as well! Again, if you're feeling ok on the dose that you're on, don't increase it! Good luck ok! 
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thanks for the encouraging news, Jhuggs! I hope that happens for me. {{{hugs}}} I do feel good at 10mg. The doc said she'd keep me on it for at least a year.
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thanks Toady! That's a good idea about the note. {{{hugs}}}
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Dragonfly....Thanks for making me laugh! Everything you said is SOOOOOO true! There are sooo many times that I've honestly just wanted a back rub....and "Do you want a back rub?" to him is secret code for "let's get it on!" LOL!
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My husband, who has been less than supportive when I've been sick over the past few years, came down with a horrible cold over the weekend. He can hardly talk and has been sleeping a lot tonight since he got home from work. I've told him to "feel better soon" to which he replies "that's the plan". I told him to drink lots of fluids, to which he replied "that's the plan". I try to be sympathetic, but I find it hard to be with things he has said and done when I've been sick. This is the guy, who when we first met, offered to come over to my apartment when I had a bad cold and make me some soup and take care of me. What happened to THAT guy? I had this horrible cold...just like he has now...about a month ago and do you think I got any sympathy? NO! Do you think he made sure I had some dinner? NO! I still cooked. I still fed our dogs. I still did the laundry. I did all that because if I hadn't it would have not gotten done. When I had to have my hysterectomy and couldn't do anything strenuous for 6 weeks I waited to see if he would vaccume the house or clean the bathroom without being asked. Finally at 5 weeks I asked him to vaccume and clean the bathroom because I couldn't. He finally did, but he wasn't happy about it. This is the guy who used to clean all the time when we lived together in an apartment before we were married. What happened to THAT guy? I had blood in my urine for a week one time and finally took myself to the ER one morning after he told me "You're ALWAYS sick!" after I told him I was scared. He went on to work and I called in sick and went to the ER. I later found out after numerous tests over a month long period of time...that I had an ovarian cyst the size of a tennis ball and it required a total hysterectomy. Once they had me opened up they also found extensive endometriosis and lots of smaller cysts. That was almost 2 years ago. He was supportive at first, but then one day I asked for some help picking pumpkins that I grew for Halloween...I couldn't lift anything over 10 pounds yet and he threw a fit that I would ask him to do that. He eventually did...but I felt like an idiot for asking him to help me out. This is the guy who I have helped with EVERYTHING he has ever asked me to help him with. When I need help, though, forget it most of the time. If I was the one sick right now with a cold...he wouldn't have made sure I had some dinner tonight. When I ask him if he needs something he says "I'm fine" so I quit asking. I just don't have it in me any more to feel sorry for him. His mom told me she talked to him on the phone today and "He could hardly talk he's so sick." Poor thing....I've been sick like that, too and he didn't seem to care. I've peed blood for a week and it didn't bother him. What happened to the guy I fell in love with 14 years ago? Am I a bad person for not feeling bad because he is sick? I hope I don't get it again...I had it a month ago and since surgery, I catch "bugs" easy. So I'm staying away from him as much as possible. He is sleeping on the couch so that is nice of him to do that for me.
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Nugget, No...that's not bad. I was in exactly the same situation with my first husband. I was stressed out with doing everything myself and tried so hard not to ask anything of him. When I did, it was like he was doing me a huge favor and he'd huff and puff about it while he was doing it. I finally (after 11 years together) got out! It was hard to do but once I realized that there really were some nice guys out there that truly care, I was okay. 4 years ago, I met my DH and he's wonderful. He's thoughtful, sensitive and caring.
I'm so sorry that you have an unsympathetic lump on your couch. At least he's where he should be!
Lauren
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Flipada - IBS-C "It's a gas, gas, gas"
**Lauren**
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I think you have the right to feel this way but I think if you guys don't seek counselling you'll be very unhappy and headed for a divorce.
Good luck .
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IBS-D since 1999...mostly stable..i do cheat too.Bad me.
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Thanks for your support Flipada....I really appreciate it. He used to be so loving and caring....but as time goes on....he gets worse about it. I just don't understand. And he is so helpful to others....but not me. Our friends and his co-workers would be so surprised if they knew how he doesn't help me much.
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dragonfly....yes, I know....but, counseling is out of the question and I did mention divorce when he was being so incensitive before I had my hysterectomy when I was peeing blood for a week. When I mentioned that if he was going to hold it against me for being sick he could find a different wife...he got his feelings hurt...but didn't change.
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Just a quick two cents...I know you have been talking about getting pregnant recently...make sure your marriage is stable enough first. Kids are not an answer to "fix" an unhappy marriage. If anything your realtionship needs to be rock solid beforehand because those lovely little children demand alot of your time and energy. I hope that I am not overstepping any boundries by saying this. It just seems like your not real happy right now in your relationship. Hang in there!
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Hi Angela...You must have me confused with someone else. I know Emmasmom has been talking about getting pregnant. I can't have children....I had to have a hysterectomy and my husband had a vasectomy years ago. We always joke that I have no targets and he is shooting blanks. Thanks for the support anyways.
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I wouldn't feel sorry for him either. You have feelings also and they matter and are imporant. DON"T FORGET THAT! Treat them as they treat you. Don't live life unhappy find the happiness you deserve. My hubby doesn't like to be told what to do so when I ask for the trash to be taken out that day he huff and puffs also cause that isn't the day he wants to do it I guess. My dh has changed since we got married to but that bad. I know I have to but I do try and sometimes I feel like I am the only one trying.... Keep your distance and eat healthy and take care of yourself and I hope it all works out for the best. You deserve it. (hugsxxxxxxx)
emmasmom
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Thanks Emmasmom! Why is it that men change so much once they get us to marry them? My husband was so caring and supportive before we got married....he used to help with ALL the housework....now he just helps with the dishes (which I do appreciate). I help him with EVERYTHING, but when I need help I don't get it without feeling like I'm imposing.
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I hear ya I say the cat needs clean up or take out the trash but I did it yesterday! I am like what ever I did the dishes and laundry yesterday to and figured out super as you know can be a chore. But if he wants to mow the yard or wash the 4-wheeler he always has time!! Hes not as romantic as he was when we first meet either. I plan the time we spend toghther now and I don't think thats fair. MEN! engouh said.
emmasmom
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I SOOOOOO agree with you Emmasmom.....if anything is HIS idea he's more than happy to do it. But, if I suggest or ask for any help he won't do it or huffs and puffs the whole time he is helping me. One time we were having family out for my birthday luncheon and before everyone got there he actually asked me what he could help with. When I said "would you please slice the rolls" he said "no". So then I said "OK...would you put the salsa in a dish?" He said "No...it's fine in the jar." So I said "Why did you ask what you could help with if you aren't going to do what I need help with?!" He just shrugged his shoulders and smiled. So now when he asks "Is there anything I can do?" I just say "no". Oh...and I have tried answering his request for help like he does when I ask....he'll say "could you help me with this?" I tried saying "no" a few times and he gets all pissed off. I wanted to say "hurts when the shoe is on the other foot...doesn't it?" But, I didn't say anything...I just smiled and helped him.
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Hey there I'm sorry to hear counselling is out. I think all men get the mommy syndrome after they get married.
They think you are their mommy and should take care of them. When you get sick that means you can't take care of them. Men have their moments but in reality women are just so much stronger. We are meant to take care of everyone and when we are sick ...take care of yourself!!
It's not fair and it's time to change the rules!
My hubby has been pretty good so far but even he has his moments where I could kill him.
Romance? What's that?
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IBS-D since 1999...mostly stable..i do cheat too.Bad me.
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ya why bother save your breath. Mine always says I'll help with the meals I know you get tired of eating everything the same thing but that 1 day in 2 months that I don't have a clue what to eat or want I going to have. He throws a fit like a 2 year and says we can't even talk about this! I have even made folders with recipes in them and label them he can't pick one up. Or he says we have chicken well duh! Not what can we make with it all I can see is this frozen piece of chiken! WHATEVER! So I just always eat what I am tried of just to keep peace! He is so stubborn. He can rember everything for work and all his clubs but I ask him to ge the paper oh I forgot. I am glad I am not alone on this. Thanks for letting me vent to! Hope you feel better!
emmasmom
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Yes...thank YOU for listening to ME vent, too!
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Dragonfly....Thanks for making me laugh. Your comments are SO true! Just like this evening.....our lawn needs mowed, so I plan on mowing it after work before it rains again for the next two days since he is sick....but if it were me who was sick and if I were the one who usually mowed...it would wait until I was well enough to do it. Just like when I asked him to clean the bathroom after I had surgery and couldn't do anything strenuous for 6 weeks...at 5 weeks I finally had to ask him to clean it. Otherwise he was just going to let it go until I was healed enough to clean it myself. It's been months since he did a load of laundry and the last load he did were just HIS coats. Didn't wash any of my things. I have often thought of only doing my laundry. Do you think that would be too obvious?
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I have often told my husband if he didn't pick up the slack I'd quit doing his laundry. The problem is subtle just doesn't work with men. You basically have to scream it in their face and then they only hear half of it anyway!
Mens idea of clean is soooooo different. Same prob. I was recouping from surgery and the bathroom went for the sh...s.(can i say that?) Anyway I finally had enough and just did it myself.
The best way to get even though is to find the one thing they hate the most.re:husband hates it when the sink has gunge in it. So when I'm mad.....I leave it.
It doesn't take him long to get the hint. Even though gunge drives me crazy too, it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make.
Good luck with you other half!!!
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IBS-D since 1999...mostly stable..i do cheat too.Bad me.
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HA! I actually did that! With my ex. I stopped doing HIS laundry. Of course, I still did mine, the kids and the towels, etc. but he did his own. It didn't change anything but it made me feel better that I wasn't doing his, too when he was being such a jerk! 
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Flipada - IBS-C "It's a gas, gas, gas"
**Lauren**
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Dragonfly...I was running late tonight and didn't get home at my usual time. I was buying my husband an anniversary gift. We celebrate our 10th in July. So, I bought him his own cell phone. I already have one that we have been sharing for the past year and thought it would be nice if we both have our own. To my surprise when I got home he had already started dinner because he made it home before me. So that was nice. He's still sick so since dinner he's been doing a lot of sleeping on the couch tonight...but I do appreciate the fact he started dinner. And he offered to help with the dishes, but I didn't want his germs on the dishes...we don't have a dish washer. Usually one of us washes while the other dries. So, I do still appreciate when he does things....I just wish it was like it used to be. Wish I felt more cared about....ya know?
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Flipada...that's toooo funny! Last time my husband washed any of my laundry was a couple months ago and when he took it out of the dryer he hung his stuff up and put it away. But, my stuff he hung on the "waiting to be put away hook" near my side of the closet for me to put away. And he just put my socks, etc. on top of my dresser for me to put away. I ALWAYS put his stuff away. And he knows where my stuff goes, but yet he won't put it away. I can't win. Then he wonders why I have no sex drive. I've tried to explain to him..."If you would do the things you used to do that made me feel special, it would help my sex drive." But he just doesn't understand. When we first met, he had a copy of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus. He asked me to read it...so I skimmed through it. Anyone he knew who was having relationship trouble...he would let them read his copy of the book. Now I wonder if he remembers any of what he read in that book. I have even bookmarked certain parts and put it at his place at the breakfast table, but he just puts it back on the bookshelf. I've told him he needs to read the book again, but he just blows me off.
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Hey thats a step in the right direction!!
Maybe he can see a little bit better now.
It's so nice when someone else starts supper. At least you know they are not completely useless.lol Just kidding. As much as we complain we still need them huh?
Happy anniversary! We celebrate our 13th on June 17th.
Hope your hubby feels better soon and also you. Plan to do something special and romantic when everyone is feeling better.
Again Happy Anniversary!!!!!!!!
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IBS-D since 1999...mostly stable..i do cheat too.Bad me.
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Oh!  I am so sorry! That's what I get for trying to stick my two cents in...instead I stick my foot in my mouth. Again I am sorry.
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thanks Dragonfly....thankfully we took our 10th anniversary trip last year on our 9th anniversary before the gas prices got so extremely high. We drove up the coast of Oregon. Was a wonderful trip. This year we will just stick close to where we live and do something together. Happy Anniversary to you, too!
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Angela...don't worry about it. I understand. It's so easy to get people confused here when we can't talk face to face. At least it is for me. {{{hugs}}} Thanks for your support.
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