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I tried so hard to make yesterday as special as possible. Even though I haven't been feeling to great for a couple months off and on. After he left for work, I put the Valentine boxers and M&M's I got him in a pretty gift bag and placed it on our bed with some Valentine stuffed animals we already had. I went to work and he sent me a nice e-mail wishing me Happy Valentine's and included a photo of us....which was nice of him. We had planned on making pizza together and watching Survivor last night, so I went straight home from work to start getting things ready. Thinking he'd help make the pizza since he likes to do that. But we had gotten alot of snow so he needed to plow the driveway. I was a little hurt, but understood. I made the pizza by myself while he took care of the snow. I mentioned that only one girl got flowers at work. He said "Well, I thought about it, and then I guess I just thought too long and didn't. But I made you a card. So he handed me a cute little card he had made with a cheesy poem inside about wine coolers and "getting bare". I mentioned that a backrub would be nice later and he grinned. He helped with the dishes which I appreciated...he helps with the dishes every night. We watched Survivor. Then I took a shower and put something pretty on and crawled into bed thinking he'd hop in the shower and crawl into bed with me. He just layed on the bed and ignored me and continued watching TV! I layed there for 45 minutes waiting and thinking he'd offer a backrub, etc. But nothing....so I changed into something more comfortable and he could tell I was upset. I didn't say I was upset. I just cuddled up next to him after he put on an old long sleeve shirt and crawled into bed and he put his arm around me and we watched TV. This morning he said he was sorry that he disappointed me. And I told him I just didn't understand why things didn't work out last night. He just shrugged his shoulders and went to work. This coming from a man who one year sent me a rose a day for a week before Valentines Day and then had a nice bouquet for me on Valentine's Day. People I work with still talk about it. Now I get nothing?! I didn't want anything big or expensive, but some kind of loving gesture besides an e-mail would have been nice. I just feel stupid for trying so hard yesterday to make the day special. I shouldn't feel this way, but it hurts after 13 years!
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Thought I would pop in here with some things to say. My hubby and I will be married 10 years in July and have been together since we were freshman in college. He rarely gets me flowers and there have been times I have been sooo mad at him but I have learned a few things in the past years. We have two beautiful children who he is a wonderful father too. We have gone through a lot of medical crises in the past 4 years and he has always been my rock. He also loves me when I look my worst and helps out around the house a lot. Valentine's day is just that... a day. I try to remember all the things he does throughout the year. He is not a Valentine's kind of guy and never will be, but he is the perfect guy for me and that's all I care about.
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I guess the reason it hurts is that my husband used to be the kind of guy who made Valentine's Day special. I guess I got spoiled.
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I understand completely. I just wanted to let you know that I have felt that way before and just tried to put things in perspective. Also with the backrub thing, guys are dense sometimes when it comes to clues we try to give them. Next time just jump on him and say I am ready for my backrub now!!!! 
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Yes, I know what you mean.....
It just upset me last night because he has said before how he likes when I wear pretty nighties to bed, but when I do he just ignores me. Plus he wants me to wear pretty things to bed, but yet he wears old long sleeve t-shirts and boxers to bed. I've told him I'd like him to wear something nicer to bed ...have even given him nice things to wear to bed and he says "but I get cold and I like my long sleeves." Well, duh...try staying warm in a spaghetti strap nightie! I like staying warm and comfortable, too!
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