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You aren't an old lady! I'm the old one at 40  and I can surely say that I had MUCH more energy in my early 30's than I do now and that if I had a baby now and 40, I'd be dead tired. You just run out of steam in your late 30's I think. Wouldn't you agree Flipada? Plus, you are on your second marriage right? So that's not uncommon to be a little older having kids at your age when you remarried and want a child with your new hubby  I can tell you that my girlfriend remarried and she wanted a child with her new husband. She already had an 9 year old and ended up getting pregnant with TWINS   PLUS she got pregnant at 39! I don't know how she isn't having a nervous break down. She quit work and is now staying home. I'll tell ya, I feel for her everytime I see those twins who will be 3 next month. Now could you imagine being your age with twins? No thank you! I feel so bad for her because at our age, yes the norm was to start having kids in our late 20's and she's suffering cause all her friends including myself have kids that are 13 and she can't do anything with us like go shopping, go away for the weekend or just watch a her son's baseball game because having two 3 year olds is exhausting for her. Granted that's double the exhaustion but I know if she even had just one baby at 39, she's still be exhausted. What's gonna happen after the next generation? ARe they gonna want to have 2 or 3 kids by 50????? Weird how things change though.
Ginger, I agree though, if you are in baby mode, keep going. I do have to say though that having my kids 3 1/2 years apart I did cherish just having one by himself for those 3 years. When you have two right after each other it just gets a little more hectic and you kinda lose that special time with the first one. Just my opinion though. Others might disagree.
Oh and Angela, we waited till our second one was about 1 too before hubby got a vasectomy. I did have the same attitude as you. We only ever really wanted two children and when we were blessed with two healthy boys, I looked at it as, yeah I could try for a girl but #1 I'm sure it would be another boy since hubby comes from 4 boys  and #2 I didn't want to just try for another one to just try for the girl. I was happy with my boys
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#313164 - 08/13/07 07:59 PM
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Flipada
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You're not an old lady. I just meant I was the old lady with a baby! Ya know what's funny? I have more energy now then I did then. BUT, I think that's because I have help this time around. I finally married a man that gets it. He is so great with the kids and the baby. He's up with her at night. He feeds her, diapers her, holds her, talks to her, takes her for walks...everything. Because of that, I'm not walking around like a zombie. I truly think that's the only reason I feel this way right now. And while I'm not looking forward to going back to school...this time it'll be part-time so that'll help as well.
My first two were 3 1/2 apart as well and I thought that was perfect. Plenty of time with the first and not both in diapers. I have friends that had them close together and were pooped. More power to them. I couldn't do it. My boys (even with the age difference) are pretty tight. I think everyone has their own ideal of perfect family. By the way, I have friends that have older kids and ones with younger ones so....I guess that's good.
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Re: children
#313172 - 08/14/07 04:38 AM
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Just thought I'd chime in here and tell all of you ladies that you are truly blessed to have the children you do. Not everyone gets to "plan" their family like that...exactly how far apart you want them, how many you want, etc. Don't get caught up on too old, too young, too far apart, etc. Be thankful for what you have.
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Had surgery for rectal prolapse in Sept. '06 and feeling good now! Loving life with our IVF miracle #1.
 
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Mary, yes we are truely blessed to have the children that we have and yes sometimes it seems we are taking it for granted that we had our children when we wanted to and planned for them. I'm sorry if it made you feel like we are complaining but the topic of this conversation between Flipada, Epiginger and Angela was having children, spacing them out,all of which were giving advice just as people are giving you advice on fertility.
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Oh, just about once a day I think to myself that I should wait until Mia is 2 to try and get pregnant again, just so we can enjoy our time together with her. And who knows---maybe it won't be as easy this time around and it will be a while before I do get pregnant. But with the way our life has changed having her, and with my age, and the fact that I think it's possible we'll have a third...I think sooner would be better. Like I'd rather have 2 close together, wait 3 or 4 years and then have another. Instead of one now, wait 2 years, another one, wait 2 years...does that make sense?? I know it will be hard, but I feel like I'm up to the challenge now, so I should go for it. I have a friend who just had a baby that isn't sleeping well, so it's really reminding me of all that a newborn entails, and it hasn't scared me off yet!  Plus, Mia isn't in daycare---the babysitter comes to our house, and we don't really hang out with other kids and babies, maybe once every few months, so having a baby would sort of be for her too---she LOVES other kids, and the whole socializing thing would be good for her. When we're out shopping, when a little kid goes by, whether they are a baby or a 10 year old, she just lights up! I also get a lot of help from my parents...and they aren't getting any younger.
Incidentally, I am much closer to my brother who is 5 years younger, than my brother who is 1.5 years older. So the whole close-in-age thing doesn't always guarantee anything, I know that from experience.
After saying all this, I'm sure when the time comes that I do get pregnant again, I'll have a panic or two. But heck, I did the first time around too!
And you ladies aren't old!! I can totally see myself having another baby at 38, that's kind of why I'm having 2 close together, because I want that as a possibility. I'm scared of having kids after 40 because of the increase in problems. And the fact that I will probably be pooped!
On hard days though, I totally find myself looking forward to the days when my kids, however many I have, are old enough to entertain and feed themselves!
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Nobody here is an old lady! We might feel it sometimes but 30's and 40's are the new 20's as far as I am concerned! And Mary I hope you do realize that we are all very grateful for our children. I am especially since I had 3 miscarriages and had to be on blood thinner shots with Ava. I have many friends and a sister-in-law right now that have had miscarriages or are doing in vitro. Children are a special gift and I know that all of us view it that way! I really hope things work out for you this month!
Speaking of being exhausted I thought i might tease all of you mommys out there and say that Hubby and I are leaving Thursday morning for Las Vegas without our kids!! We will be back on Sunday. All I can say is WHOPPEEEEEEE!! We really need some alone time. Although we need to be careful since I don't really think I want a Vegas baby on the way!!  So I won't be online for a few days. I am not a gambler but plan on trying a little bit. Hopefully I hit is big!! LOL!
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Hi, girls:
I don't have too much time right now as we're leaving for a (trailer) camping trip first thing in the morning and I have yet to go shopping! 
On this whole age thing, I just want to chime in that I'm 31 and pregnant with #1. This is also more or less the norm among my friends, though some did start in their late 20s. My thinking right now is that I want three, only because I grew up as one of four and cannot imagine having only one sibling. Unlike you, Ginger, I think I do want to try to space them somewhat evenly--but maybe I'll change my mind at some point. After all, baby #1 isn't even here yet. Maybe I'll decide that one is plenty. Ya never know.
Anyway, here is my belly pic taken last week. I've finally "popped" a bit:
If I don't "talk" to you all again today, I'll see you in a week!
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OMG you look great! HOnestly I thought you were showing us the same pic you showed us months ago! That's great that you are looking so good. Time will come though that it will be big and huge and heavy to carry but it's all worth it in the end!
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You look fantastic! I'm still here moping around because I still have an extra 20-25 lbs. to lose. I'm not even sure what the heck I'm going to wear to work once school starts! 
Really, you look great! How are you feeling?
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