Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards

So Kayleigh had a couple bladder infections. i had the doctor check her out to make sure there was no possible reason that she might be abused. Nope, she came out fine. the reason I did this was because the ex inlaws had suggested maybe I might choose child molesters to date.

Yes, of course. that was back in the fall.

Now fast forward to a month ago where I tell the ex inlaws this, to ease her INSANE mind. My daughter doesn't go NEAR anyone I date, let alone would I allow them to be alone with her before a ton of trust was established.

So they assume I mean that my ex is molesting his kid. Get real. Or that her grandfather is. OMG.

Then I blow up, apologize, then a BUNCh of stuff that'd been held in for a year came out of her mouth(mother out law) that were warped interpretations of what I'd said. Also there's worries that because my daughter has met two of the people I've dated this year(one of them not my fault if you recall, my ex basically BROKE in my house with Kayleigh...) that I must be allowing my daughter to watch me have sex or something...??

So anyhow, she has this other bladder infection, meds aren't finished because the ex forgot to send them home... and then it appears to recur when the MIL is watching her, and suggesting that maybe it hurts at the end? Anyhow, there were two doctor visits-one where no test was done but meds were prescribed, and one where test was done and meds prescribed, but test came back negative.

In the meantime, at the last instance, I was too busy and got home too late to fill the last scroipt the day OF the last diagnosis...and the day after it was pure madness and I ran out of time. Dropped K off at the ex's with the girlfriend who proceeded to rag me out about the script nmot being filled....then i said it was hectic, if you need it anytime, and you notice her in pain, tell me, and I'll bring it over.
THEN the next day as I came back from dropping the meds at my daughter's dads, Igot an email saying how dare I make that choice to possibly abuse, sterilize or kill my daughter by denying her meds?

Might I add her father and I agreed on which course to take and we were fine. His GIRLFRIEND meddled, his MOTHER meddled. HE got incredibly mad.At them.

Turns out she had no infection so mom's instincts were correct. it's an emotional reaction to all the change in her life, as I had tried to explain. it has since all but disappeared(the crying, the wetting, everything) since it's not been given ATTENTION.

BUT NO, the special education (read:psychologically trained)teacher definitely doesn't know as well as the unwed pregnant teenage kid from a Jerrry Springer family, right?

My God.

We had it out and I laid my boundaries HARD on the ex monster in law. All is almost well now but she and the girlfriend got the message LOUD and CLEAR from us-DO NOT INTERFERE.

That's a couple of about 30 examples of this. I think he's getting now that he didn't have it sooooo bad after all. Oh well, I'm loooooong gone.

I will be filing this week as soon as I'm done writing the extra do-overs. it's insanity because my roommate is horrible and sort of abusive to me(and sometimes to kayleigh too) and I hide down here....thankfully I have family and i'm back in touch with some great friends, not to mention that Clancy I dated has turned out to be the best friend i've ever had.

And this boyfriend-it's only been three weeks but i ADORE HIM!!! I soooo hope he goes long term but this time I ahve my head screwed on straight. It's all about right now and I'm loving each moment and not expecting forever, or even for a long time.(that being said, this one has the best potential so far for that.)

--------------------
Keep on keepin' on...

Print Remind Me Notify Moderator