still alive
#302602 - 03/19/07 07:37 PM
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_Willow
Reged: 04/06/05
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no time to post but since nobody's asked i'd better just say hi if you're interested. moving out from this house in a few weeks because it's been torture, finances are a nightmare, almost divorced, dating a sweet new guy and got a job from spring break to the end of the year. lots on the go.
there's plenty more if anyone's interested.
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Hi!
#302603 - 03/19/07 07:45 PM
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Snorkie
Reged: 02/15/05
Posts: 1999
Loc: Northern Illinois, USA
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I wondered how you were doing. Sounds like you have a ton of stuff going on!
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Yep
#302604 - 03/19/07 07:48 PM
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_Willow
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and I'm 99% miserable right now because it's so tough getting by, financially, emotionally, and moving in with my MOTHER ina month is brutal. There's been allegations of child abuse by my ex's parents, so much awful going on that I can barely stand it. I can't wait for life to bloody settle doen, for it to get nice outside, and for things to just be the way they are supposed t be.
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Re: Yep
#302606 - 03/19/07 08:23 PM
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Gracie
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It's nice to hear from you. Sorry things aren't going so great. How could your ex's parents even suggest abuse on your part after all that their loser, derelict son has done? Shame on them. You stay tough, and things will get better for you.
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Re: Yep
#302611 - 03/19/07 10:08 PM
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hohoyumyum
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There's been allegations of child abuse by my ex's parents
Where's they get that from?! It never fails to amaze me how low people go when they're mad. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. Hang in there.
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Re: still alive
#302616 - 03/20/07 04:58 AM
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Toady
Reged: 04/06/06
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Loc: A small city, Northwestern Ontario, Canada
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It's good to see you, sorry you are going through sooo much!! And I remember moving back in with my mother - Good Luck.
Your ex-in-laws must be crazy, drugged, angry, or all of the above!! I hope that settles soon too!! You definately don't need this nonsense!!
Take care!!
-------------------- Cassandra
Live like there's no tomorrow. Love like you've never loved before.
IBS A 20+ years, Chronic Migraines, Chiari Malformation (decompressed June 22, 2010), Brachial Neuritis, and ??? the list just keeps growing, but I'm still shiny side up!
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glad things are going well...
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hi... sorry life is so crazy for you.... things will get better...just try to think of the positive, I know it's hard... but there are good things about your life... your child and you still family to turn to when things get hard. {{hugs}}
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So Kayleigh had a couple bladder infections. i had the doctor check her out to make sure there was no possible reason that she might be abused. Nope, she came out fine. the reason I did this was because the ex inlaws had suggested maybe I might choose child molesters to date.
Yes, of course. that was back in the fall.
Now fast forward to a month ago where I tell the ex inlaws this, to ease her INSANE mind. My daughter doesn't go NEAR anyone I date, let alone would I allow them to be alone with her before a ton of trust was established.
So they assume I mean that my ex is molesting his kid. Get real. Or that her grandfather is. OMG.
Then I blow up, apologize, then a BUNCh of stuff that'd been held in for a year came out of her mouth(mother out law) that were warped interpretations of what I'd said. Also there's worries that because my daughter has met two of the people I've dated this year(one of them not my fault if you recall, my ex basically BROKE in my house with Kayleigh...) that I must be allowing my daughter to watch me have sex or something...??
So anyhow, she has this other bladder infection, meds aren't finished because the ex forgot to send them home... and then it appears to recur when the MIL is watching her, and suggesting that maybe it hurts at the end? Anyhow, there were two doctor visits-one where no test was done but meds were prescribed, and one where test was done and meds prescribed, but test came back negative.
In the meantime, at the last instance, I was too busy and got home too late to fill the last scroipt the day OF the last diagnosis...and the day after it was pure madness and I ran out of time. Dropped K off at the ex's with the girlfriend who proceeded to rag me out about the script nmot being filled....then i said it was hectic, if you need it anytime, and you notice her in pain, tell me, and I'll bring it over. THEN the next day as I came back from dropping the meds at my daughter's dads, Igot an email saying how dare I make that choice to possibly abuse, sterilize or kill my daughter by denying her meds?
Might I add her father and I agreed on which course to take and we were fine. His GIRLFRIEND meddled, his MOTHER meddled. HE got incredibly mad.At them.
Turns out she had no infection so mom's instincts were correct. it's an emotional reaction to all the change in her life, as I had tried to explain. it has since all but disappeared(the crying, the wetting, everything) since it's not been given ATTENTION.
BUT NO, the special education (read:psychologically trained)teacher definitely doesn't know as well as the unwed pregnant teenage kid from a Jerrry Springer family, right?
My God.
We had it out and I laid my boundaries HARD on the ex monster in law. All is almost well now but she and the girlfriend got the message LOUD and CLEAR from us-DO NOT INTERFERE.
That's a couple of about 30 examples of this. I think he's getting now that he didn't have it sooooo bad after all. Oh well, I'm loooooong gone.
I will be filing this week as soon as I'm done writing the extra do-overs. it's insanity because my roommate is horrible and sort of abusive to me(and sometimes to kayleigh too) and I hide down here....thankfully I have family and i'm back in touch with some great friends, not to mention that Clancy I dated has turned out to be the best friend i've ever had.
And this boyfriend-it's only been three weeks but i ADORE HIM!!! I soooo hope he goes long term but this time I ahve my head screwed on straight. It's all about right now and I'm loving each moment and not expecting forever, or even for a long time.(that being said, this one has the best potential so far for that.)
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my roommate is horrible and sort of abusive to me(and sometimes to kayleigh too) and I hide down here
I've had roommates like that. I know how it feels, and my parents were pretty abusive so I have a good idea of what it's like to live those types.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this crap. And I'm sorry your daughter has to as well. Poor thing. It's hard enough just being a kid. Anything extra just makes it seem impossible. How old is your daughter now? Is she doing okay?
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