Unpleasant Anniversary Date For Me Ahead - I NEED Support
#289135 - 11/06/06 11:52 AM
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Shell Marr
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This post might make a few people uncomfortable so please stop reading if that happens......I know some of you know about this because I have posted about it before....(this time last year).....the nights of Nov 10th (PM) & 11th (early AM) is the anniversary dates of when I got robbed and stabbed years ago.... (1992) 
Mom called me this morning with a status (I asked for it) on the @$$holes in jail (Dad checks on them via crime victims)..... they are now at the Prairie Correctional Facility in Minnesota (medium security), they were in Vegas last time he checked and due to be released in 2012....... that is ONLY FIVE YEARS AWAY!   
I'm trying to be strong and not let it get to me.....but it is hard....
This is a post from a while back....IF you wish to read it.... YES (caution...gross details inside)
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Poor Shell, I reread your other post as I hadn't read it in a long time and just wanted to say that you are amazing to get through that and be such a positive person. Like you say YOU WON! and you continue winning by dealing with this every day.
Hang in there
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Oh sweetie, what an awful thing to go through. I remember reading it back when you first posted it. My first husband was stabbed to death at work many, many years go. The man that killed him is supposed to be in prison for life but will probably get out after only 20 years.
You are a strong woman, you will get through this. Love and hugs.
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Taking it one day at a time.....
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Thanks Sinead..... {{hugs}}
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Michele I did not know that..... guess I really am a very lucky person.... I made it out alive... I'm so sorry for your loss..... {{hugs}}
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I had no idea. You have my prayers.
Kim
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Thank you Kim...... {{hugs}}
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Shell---I didn't know your story, I can't believe it! What strength you must have to survive something like that. No one can ever call YOU a wimp. Well, you're my hero.
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Shelley, you are one of the strongest people I know. Hold your head HIGH on that anniversary. I know if it was me, I would probably be dead. You FOUGHT BACK. That makes you wonder woman of the century (as if you weren't already).
Take extra good care of yourself. Do really comforting things, keep Shane near, and treat yourself. You deserve it!!!
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO and more,
A.
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Holy Crap! Wow, I admire you so much for fighting back and making it out alive.
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Oh my word!!!
#289184 - 11/06/06 08:17 PM
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Double J
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I never knew that. That is a terrible thing to have to get through and over. I pray that you can. But it sounds like you are a true survivor. We could have used your determination in SE Asia. You would have been submitted for a Bronze Star. God bless you.
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Wow, Shell.
I have read references to this story but never the actual incident. You are such a strong, amazing woman!
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You are one tough cookie, Shell. What you did in 1992 was amazing and the person you are today is even more amazing.
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WOW!!  I am thoroughly in awe of you! You are so strong & brave. You should do something special, celebrate your strength. Even if you're not up to celebrating, think of how strong you are & how you're actions most likely saved those other people too! Don't let the scary thoughts & memories creep in & ruin your day(s). My thoughts will be w/you, lifting you up!
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Thank you Ginger...those words mean a lot!
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Thank you so much Alicia....XOXO I got your email too and will reply soon. I'm holding it high and Shane will be with me.....
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Thank Carol.... my thoughts....."The H*LL if I'm gonna die in a Burger King!!"
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I can't believe what you went through, Shell. You are amazing. And I have no doubt you'll be strong enough to get through this. Take care.
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*** huge hugs ***
Oh Shell, I am so angry for you that anything like that had to ever happen to anyone as wonderful as you. And I am even more angry that they'll be allowed back into society, but I digress.
I haven't been online very much of late, but I am always on eMail and can send you my phone # if you ever feel like you don't want to be by yourself and we can talk or whatever. I know you are strong enough to get through this, but I think anybody would feel upset over such a horrible anniversary and we are all here to support you, whatever you need.
Is Shane gonna be with you?
**more hugs, for good measure**
Luv ya,
Steph
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Shell I remember this from last year and I still think you are so amazing for getting through something so horrifying! You are one tough cookie!!!! 
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Damn, girl, but you have a fantastic fighting spirit! Not that having that magically eliminates flashbacks and all that other crap, but I bow down to your ability to kick some serious butt!
The attack sucked. The people who were involved were scum. You can obviously overcome some of the worst things that the world can deal out, and do it in style. I'll be thinking about you on the anniversary.
--AC (IMPACT graduate! )
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Big hugs, Shelley belly! Darn Yahoo! Travel for not refunding my trip for 2-3 more months - this weekend would have been the perfect weekend for me to come up there.
Welp, I know you're a very strong person and I'm very proud of you! Tell Shane that he either needs to take you to a movie or you guys can rent movies that night so you keep your mind off of it.
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Shell, I'm so sorry this nightmare happened to you! To read what you had to go through and how you fought to stay alive - wow. I don't even know what to say. I really admire your courage! I'm definitely thinking of you and wishing you the strength to get through this weekend. I know you're a strong, amazing person, but I can imagine that you can't forget what happened to you, especially this time of the year. I'm sending you lots of hugs and love!
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oh man Shell.. that is a scary story still, and i've heard it before! Stay strong.. you're so much better than these a$$holes! You beat them once, so don't let them have the satisfaction of beating down your spirit!
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Thanks Double J...... "Bronze Star" oh my....
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Thanks Christine 
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Thanks Sand.... now my eyes are all watery!
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Your courage and strength to get through all these difficult times is beyond me. Sounds like you are an amazing women and a fighter. Sorry to hear of all your troubles and grief. I am praying for you and I hope that
!@#hole rots in h____ for what he did to you.
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Thanks so much littlelani ...reading your post...I'm gonna get on the phone next and see if I can get in to get my nails and spa pedicure done after work today.....a little pampering for myself....
Thanks again.....
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Sending you vibes of strength and courage today. You are such a strong lady - you made it through this, you can make it through anything!!!
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Thank you very much Jen (jen1013)... {{hugs}}
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Thanks Steph.... I understand your angry...I am too...
Thanks for the offer of email and the phone #...that is so sweet...
Yes, Shane will be with me tonight and tomorrow... we are acctually going to my personal trainers housewarming Sat...that I have been in charge of the guest list and rsvp's etc.... I did not bring it up to her about it being held on the same day.... that way she is not worried about me and maybe just maybe I can get through it without "thinking" about it.... that would be nice... that is just from 7-10pm... but I'm so old now... my bedtime is 11pm... LOL
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Thanks Angela! If I'm gonna be a cookie... can it be choc chip?
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Thank you so much AstroChick.... those were some good words you used!!
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Big hugs, Shelley belly! Darn Yahoo! Travel for not refunding my trip for 2-3 more months - this weekend would have been the perfect weekend for me to come up there.
Welp, I know you're a very strong person and I'm very proud of you! Tell Shane that he either needs to take you to a movie or you guys can rent movies that night so you keep your mind off of it.
Oh, Jennifer Rose this WOULD have been a great weekend to have you here...... even though it's not YOU... I did just receive the flowers you sent.... I love them!! Thank you so very much!!
I'm gonna go get my nails and spa pedicure at 6pm then spend the night with Shane..... one of the above posts talks about Sat night.....
Again thank you so much for your loving words and the flowers.... it totally brightens my day!
{{hugs}}
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Wow Shell. I had no idea you had been through such a scary situation. Good for you for fighting back. You are one tough chick!
Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sending good thoughts on this terrible anniversary.
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Thank you Thank you Thank you Maria for your thoughtful words or care and encouragement!
And to everyone who has taken to time to read about that terrible night/morning.... I'm so thankful to be alive and to have all of you as my friends and support....
{{hugs to you all}}
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OMG
#289850 - 11/12/06 10:11 PM
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How did I manage to not reply to you?
My love goes out to you, sweetie. i know how difficult that must be for you. My father was held hostage and raped by two murderurs when he was 19...and had to go to their trials and probation hearings etc. He has finally, thirty five years later, found peace in himself and forgiven the men.
Sweetheart, the best advice I can give you for this is to NEVER let it fester. Get those feelings out! Do not let this hold you hostage for half of your life, as my father did.
God bless.
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Shell, you have been in my thoughts and prayers recently. I know this anniverary date must hit you hard every year. I cannot imagine having to go through what you did. But you are a survivor! You are so strong!
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Thanks Ashley!!
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Thanks Sufie!! I also hope the rot in H*LL!
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Just wanted to send you my love and support on this horrible anniversary. Stay strong and snding all the hugs I have!
((((((hugs))))))))
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Thanks Michelle!! Thanks for you and the others here who sent all the good vibes and stregth... it really did help me make it through it this year! {{hugs}}
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Thanks Shannon!! Yah...I guess I am on tough chick!! I made it.....
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*HUG* I hope the day wasn't too horrid for you
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Hi there Shell. Everything okay? I hope so...just checkin' in to make sure the dreaded day went by without too much headache. HUGS
Sufie
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Re: OMG
#290473 - 11/17/06 09:11 PM
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WOW Coookie..... that is so sad about your father.... like I tell Shane I'm thankful everyday that I was not also rapped!
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to ever pick up a hitchhiker. It's also made my dad hate gay guys because the two were lovers. I don't like his ideation but I know where it comes from.
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Thank you so much BL...{{hugs}}
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Thanks Natalie!! {{hugs}}
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Thanks Amie....still helps anytime.... {{hugs}}
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Thanks for checkin Sufie.... it went alright... I read the boards and everyones great comments and just kinda chilled with hubby... got my spa ped and nails done...got a great phone call from *Melissa* (drunk dial...lol) & flowers from Jennifer Rose..... and lots of calls from the family over the weekend... so, I know I'm not dealing with this alone. Thanks again!!
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Hi Shell,
I am so happy to hear that you are well. Sorry I have not responded in a while--been on vacation. I went to Hawaii!! It was so beautiful (my first time there). I did have an unfortunate run in with pineapple but other than that all was fine. I was nervous about traveling--this was the first time since my diagnoses (one month ago).
I am very, very gald to hear that you have so much support out there. Flowers? What a lovely friend to send you flowers! Anyway, hope to hear from you soon.
Sufie
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