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#288941 - 11/03/06 05:34 PM
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atomic rose
Reged: 06/01/04
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Loc: Maine (IBS-A stable since July '05!)
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Dad was admitted to the hospital on Wednesday - he's in the ICU, with a perforated bowel, inoperable due to his condition otherwise. They drained the ick out of his abdomen and he's somewhat stabilized, but his doctors are discouraged and before I left the hospital today, the nurse told us to think about just making him comfortable. He's under heavy sedation, not aware of anything - though I'd say that's a blessing. It's starting to sink in that he's not coming home from the hospital, and my heart is breaking being here in his house, surrounded by all of his things.
My brothers are here, thankfully, staying with me till Sunday - it doesn't make it any easier, but I guess I'm just glad I'm not alone.
Thanks for all your good wishes, thoughts, and prayers through all of this. I still can't believe this is happening. I mean, prior to the middle of August, he was happy, "healthy", and getting ready to start a new life in Maine. Now it's all just... over.
Everyone go hug your families and friends, right now, because you just never know.
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I am SO sorry to hear about this news. I will pray that he doesn't suffer and that you will find comfort during this time.
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Oh Casey I am so sorry!  My prayers are with you right now. Try to draw on the strength of having your brothers around to help you through this. You will all need each other during this time. ***hugs****
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I'm very sorry. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Big hugs!!!
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Flipada - IBS-C "It's a gas, gas, gas"
**Lauren**
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I am so sorry. I'll be thinking of you and your family.
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Casey
#288953 - 11/03/06 06:43 PM
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Janey
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I am so sorry to hear that your Dad isn't doing well. I have been in your position and I understand what you are going through.
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
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Janey
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Oh, my...
Oh, Casey. I have been there, too. There is nothing in life to prepare you for that conversation or that possibility.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Just hang in there. (((((hugs)))))
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Christine
Those who can do; those who want it done better teach.
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I'm so very sorry. I'll be thinking of you.
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-Carol
IBS-A
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 Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow”. Mary Anne Radmacher
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Oh Casey! I'm so sorry!!! My heart goes out to you and your family. This is such a hard thing to go through. He, at least, is in no pain. All you can do is be with him as much as you can. He will know you are there in his heart.
Definitly puts things into perspective when you say go hug your family. You are right, you never know what can happen and we should treat each day as a blessing!
BIG HUGS from me Casey! Hope it helps!!!
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~~~Lisa~~~
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Oh, Casey, I'm so terribly, terribly sorry. It does seem impossible all this could have happened so fast. I'll be holding you, your father, and your entire family in my thoughts. If there's anything at all I can do to help, please let me know.
Take good, good care.
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[Research tells us fourteen out of any ten individuals likes chocolate. - Sandra Boynton]
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My prayers go out again to you and your family and Dad. It must be so awful to watch him suffer. rest well, God bless.
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Keep on keepin' on...
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I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you & your family.
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IBS-A...I can never make up my mind
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Dan's grandmother died last year just before Christmas. I found that what actually happened was that it brought everyone together. Everyone was there for each other and in every one being there, his grandmother was there, too. People are never gone from our lives. They just move on to somewhere else until we get there.
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#289021 - 11/04/06 05:07 PM
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I have said a prayer for you and your family...I am sorry that you are having to deal with this.
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Oh Casey... both Shane & I are here sending hugs and lots of love to you and your family.... We know this is a very hard time for you.... we are here when you need to talk... you've got my email etc...
xoxo
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No, thats not good at all. I'm really sorry to hear it. You'll be in my thoughts this week.
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There's usually not much you can say in situations like this to make someone feel better. I'm really sorry you and your family are going through this right now. My thoughts are with you, and I hope your dad recovers from this.
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My heart is breaking after reading your message. Praying for comfort for your Dad and for you and family. Take care of yourself.Thinking of you. Sue
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I'm so, so sorry Casey. There are just no words. I'll be thinking of you.
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jen
"It's one of the most serious things that can possibly happen to one in a battle -- to get one's head cut off." -- LC
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All the love, hugs and support possible comin to you! My heart goes out to you and your family. Lean on your family, friends and your beliefs during this difficult time.
Smooches and hugs, A.
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Formerly HanSolo. IBS, OCD, Bipolar, PTSD times 3.
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Casey,
I am so very sorry to hear about your father. I am glad your brothers came in to be with you for awhile. Hugs and prayers are coming your way for all. God Bless. Take Care
Terry
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My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Michelle
IBS-A, pain predominant
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Casey I am so incredibily sorry that you and your father are suffering. I pray that he is comfortable and that you are able to get through this very difficult time.
Take care of yourself.
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IBS-A, with bloating and gas as my predominant symptoms
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Oh sweetie, I'm so, so sorry. I can't even imagine. Know you and your family are in our hearts. Love and hugs.
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Taking it one day at a time.....
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I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, Casey. I am definitely sending my warm wishes your way, and will keep you and your family in my thoughts.
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- Jennifer
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Oh Casey, you poor honey. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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S.
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Over the weekend, the doctors officially said that there's nothing more that can reasonably done - anything else they could try would be "futile heroics". I'm signing the papers tomorrow to have him taken off life support. (Yes, somehow the role of primary decision-maker fell on me.) He'll be made comfortable, and if you're the praying type, offer up a few words on his behalf, that nature will take its course quickly, because he's suffered plenty long enough.
Thanks again for all the kind words, prayers, and good thoughts over the past 2 1/2 months - it might not have saved his life, but it certainly saved my sanity. You're all awesome. *hugs*
I'll probably be MIA for a week or so, however long it takes for things to happen and me to go back home to Maine.
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I'm so sorry. May peace find your dad quickly. My heart breaks for you.
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Taking it one day at a time.....
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Casey,
I've walked this path by the bedside of two of my beloved, and I know this pain. Please know that I am praying for your dad's comfort and for your peace. God walks with us, even in these dark valleys. You are not alone. I'm praying daily.
Many, many gentle hugs,
Kim
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I'm so sorry Casey... you are so strong for dealing with all of this.... wishing peace and no more suffering for your father..... {{hugs}}
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Aww, Casey, I'll be praying for you and your family.
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO,
A.
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Formerly HanSolo. IBS, OCD, Bipolar, PTSD times 3.
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Casey; you and your family will be in my prayers every day. Take care of yourself. Sending hugs (( )) Sue
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I'm so very sorry.
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-Carol
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If I could I would give you a shoulder to lean on, and be a friend quietly walking at your side. My wife and I will pray for your father.
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Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow”. Mary Anne Radmacher
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I'm so sorry to hear this Casey. Life will be difficult for a time, but take solace that soon he will feel peace, and free of pain. My prayers go out to your dad, you, and your family.
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I'm so sorry, Casey.
I hope you find some peace in the days ahead in knowing that you loved and cared for your dad beautifully. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm so, so sorry. {{{{{hugs}}}}}
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Christine
Those who can do; those who want it done better teach.
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Casey,
I am so very sorry for you and your family. I know it must just be terrible to have to be the one to make decisions like this. I hope for your fathers sake he goes quickly and doesn't suffer to much. My prayers are with him and hugs are on the way for you and your family. Just remember the good times and cherish those forever.
God Bless
Terry
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I'm so terribly sorry to hear this, Casey. I hope your family can be with you today when you sign the papers taking your dad off life support - it's a hard thing to do alone. I'll be holding your dad and you in my thoughts - may you both find peace.
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[Research tells us fourteen out of any ten individuals likes chocolate. - Sandra Boynton]
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I am so sorry, I don't know what else to say but I'm sorry. Please know that my heart is w/you & your family. Remember that even though it's causing so much emotional pain for you & your family, your dad's pain & struggle is coming to an end, he'll be pain-free & peaceful for the first time in months. He's been through so much, he deserves to rest from now on. That thought helped me through the grief when my grandmother died, hope it helps you too.
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IBS-A...I can never make up my mind
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I'm so sorry. I hope his suffering will end soon. Please take care of yourself.
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jen
"It's one of the most serious things that can possibly happen to one in a battle -- to get one's head cut off." -- LC
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#289280 - 11/07/06 04:42 PM
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Stephie
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Hi Casey,
**** massive hugs ****
I'm sorry that I didn't see your original post earlier and didn't offer my support to you before now, but know that you have it now and that you and your family are in my thoughts.
I am so sorry that you are going through this terrible thing - I can't think of anything more heartbreaking at the moment that losing a father.
You are so strong, I know that you will be able to get through this but know that at any low moments we are all here for you.. and you have my eMail, so any time you want to vent or whatever, I'll be there.
** hugs again **
Luv Steph
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~~I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell-I know right now you can't tell~~Matchbox 20
IBS-D,pain.
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I am so sorry Casey. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
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I am sad to report that I have been informed that Casey's dad passed last night around 7:30. Please continue to keep Casey and her family in your thoughts. Casey, we love you and are here for you.
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Taking it one day at a time.....
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Oy! All this, and you have to be the strong decision-maker as well? I'll be thinking of you, your dad, and your family as you undergo this journey.
--AC
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Thanks for letting us know, Michele. If you're in touch with Casey please pass along my deepest sympathy to her and her family.
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[Research tells us fourteen out of any ten individuals likes chocolate. - Sandra Boynton]
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Casey....
#289357 - 11/08/06 09:51 AM
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MCV
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Loc: Manchester, NH
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My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time, Casey!
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Michelle
IBS-A, pain predominant
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Shane & I are both thinking of you and your family.... Sorry for your loss.... he is at peace now.... {{hugs}}
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I am so sorry. My condolences. Casey, you and your family are in my thoughts.
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I'm so sorry about your loss, Casey. The next couple weeks are going to be the hardest for you (they were for me). Just know that your dad is at peace now, and you and your family are in my thoughts right now. Big hugs.
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I'm so sorry to hear this. It seems to have all happened so fast. Casey, I'm thinking of you and your family. Big hugs.
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Oh Casey! I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You were so strong for your father and there for him every step of the way these past few months. I am sure that he appreciated all that you did for him. My condolences.
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Casey,
Please accecpt my heart felt sympathy for the loss of your father. Like others have said, have peace in the fact that he is not hurting anymore. I know it must be difficult. I am sending thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
God Bless
Take Care
Terry
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My prayers are with you and your family. I can understand how difficult a time this is and emotional. God Bless! Debbie
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Casey, I'm sending all my love. He's in a much less painful place now, honey. I know that's such cod comfort, but my God is watching over you. And Dad.
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Casey, I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that you will be comforted during your time of grief and strengthened in the work and decisions that lie ahead for you.
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I'm so sorry. I don't know what else to say.
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Christine
Those who can do; those who want it done better teach.
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I am so sorry Casey. Please take some comfort in that he is not suffereing anymore and you were there for him every step of the way. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family during this most difficult time.
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I'm so sorry, Casey. I hope you're able to be with family right now. You're in my thoughts.
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jen
"It's one of the most serious things that can possibly happen to one in a battle -- to get one's head cut off." -- LC
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Deepest Condolences
#289506 - 11/09/06 02:47 PM
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Toady
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Casey, my deepest sympathies.
Cassandra
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Cassandra
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IBS A 20+ years, Chronic Migraines, Chiari Malformation (decompressed June 22, 2010), Brachial Neuritis, and ??? the list just keeps growing, but I'm still shiny side up! 
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I am so very sorry...You are in my thoughts.
Love & light...~Amy
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Amy
IBS-A
Stable and thankful!
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I had no idea that his condition had gotten so much worse. I'm hardly ever on the boards anymore, so I haven't been udated since he was first diagnosed.
Casey honey... please know that I'm here for you. Please let me know when you're home so I can call you.
I can't even imagine what you're going through right now... I know how much he meant to you and how excited you were that he was planning on moving near you.
Please know sweetie, that I will say prayers for you, your father, and all that are involved. I hope it gives you some comfort to feel the love everyone here has given you!
Ok... I missed a couple of posts... One in particular was the one with the most recent update. I'm very very sorry for your loss Casey! And I'm so so very sorry I'm so late in finding out! I may not be on the boards much, but I am still here for you! Please, don't hesitate to email me to let me know when I can call you!!!! I miss you!! I love you!!!
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~ Rachel (IBS-C)
If life hands you lemons, make lemonade!!
Edited by RachelT (11/15/06 11:06 AM)
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