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Aw sweetie, that so what you didn't need right now. If your hubby was going to be a butt head, he should have just stayed home!  However, it does sound like going back to the effexor is the best solution for now. I hope you start to feel better soon and your hubby straightens up! Love and hugs
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I'm sorry to hear that it didn't go well. It's good that you are keeping the lines of communication open with your husband. Even at times when you feel like you're not on the same page, communication is key.
Did you feel like the doctor was giving you good advice?
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I am so sorry that you are going through all of this and then your husband is not supporting you on top of it all. It is a lot for a person to deal with.
I agree that he should have stayed home if he was going to go and have an attitude. I am hoping all of this happened out of his concern for you and thinking the doctor isn't doing the best for you health wise.
Right now you need to focus on you, your health and finding the right answer so that you are feeling better. Try not to think of your husband and his opinion. I know this is difficult to do but you are the most important right now. You are trying everything you can to feel better and if going back on the effexor is what will help you then that is what you need to do.
Lots of hugs,
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thanks Janey... {{{hugs}}}
right now I'm trying to just consentrate on doing what I need to do to feel better. If someone (hubby) has a problem with that, tough. I hate to be that way, but I'm to that point. Right now, I'm not happy, and I hate it. I need to be happy again. I hope our long talk the other evening helps his attitude eventually. He is a little better, but I still feel like this whole thing is my fault.....and that if I only was healthier, etc. Everything would be great between us. But don't marriage vows state "in sickness and in health?"
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thanks Snowy....
I agree....communication is the key. It's so frustrating when I'm not able to communicate with my husband either because he's not listening to what I'm saying or when he has his own ideas and refuses to hear and understand me.
Yes, the doctor gave some good suggestions. He was very helpful and understanding. I have to go back and see him next month. He suggested counseling, but I've done that before and I'm not one to open up completely, especially with a stranger. I don't think hubby would be open to marriage counseling, either. So hopefully we can work on continuing to keep our lines of communication open. Right now, I have to admit, divorce has crossed my mind. He didn' t like it when I mentioned that. I told him that I was just being honest....and that what he has done and said and his attitude towards me when I'm sick and need him the most is what made that thought cross my mind.
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thanks michele...
I'm actually glad that my husband went to the appointment with me even if he was a "butt-head". Because he was forced to listen to some facts from a professional and not just what I was telling him. Whether he liked it or not. Hoping that after our long discussion that evening after the appointment that our communication will get better.
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This is the time that you need your husband the most. And you're right from a previous post- it is supposed to be in sickness and in health.
Although my husband and I aren't disagreeing about health issues, we are squabbling a little right now too. We're in the process of building a house and I feel like he doesn't listen to me because I am a female. Every suggestion I make he shoots down. Men can be so stubborn! The other night I was trying to talk to him and he walked away. The next night I did the same thing to him and now we've gotten along pretty well. Turnabout is fair play.
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I'm so sorry he is being that way!! Our 10 yr old daughter has anxiety issues and my husband is not very understanding about it, he thinks she just needs to " knock it off" already. He doesn't understand, nor does he ever see the anxiety on her face in stressfull situations.Sometimes i wanna smack him!
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You are right, in sickness and health. But you are dealing with a man here. You not feeling well upsets the apple cart and men have a difficult time handling that.
You have the right attitude of taking care of yourself and getting well. You know the right thing to do to make that happen.
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I know how your daughter feels....I had lots of anxiety as a kid, but didn't realize what it was until I got older. I was told it was just a "nervous stomach". I've suffered with being nervous most of my life....trying to explain it to people who've never experienced it is so frustrating....especially when they refuse to accept that it is a real problem and not just "in your head".
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