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She's probably too young to be anything else ... at the moment. It's likely the memories of this will cause her some trouble down the road, however.

Hello and sorry for the interruption. I've been lurking and following your story. Haven't felt a need to post, but this business with your husband's behavior around your little girl has me sputtering.

Isn't it common knowledge these days that it's best for single parents to NOT expose their children to people they're dating until a SERIOUS relationship is WELL underway? If your husband can't curb his ridiculous urges where you're concerned, can't he at least try to protect his own daughter from further trauma?

Haven't we figured out that beyond the divorce, it's damaging to children to have people entering and exiting their little lives, revolving door style, while daddy (or mommy) sows his/her wild oats? Of course your daughter likes daddy's new "friend" ... they're about the same age, aren't they?

She'll likely get attached to each and every one of daddy's new friends, and mourn the loss of each of them, too. It's not enough for him that he's done this to your family ... he wants to further traumatize his daughter by involving her with every wench he sees fit to date from here on out?

IMO he's really not a fit father at the moment, and while I would hate to remove him from her life (hopefully temporarily until he gets his head screwed on straight), I'd have to give it some serious thought.

Not only is he encouraging your little girl to get attached to women who will likely not be in his (or her) life for very long, but I also have to wonder how much actual attention he's paying to his daughter while his girlfriend is around.

In my experience, in men like your husband, testosterone trumps paternal urges every time. He and his new "friend" are at the beginning stages, which means they're likely all over each other all the time. Not only should your daughter not be exposed to all that, she should also not be ignored ... which logic leads me to believe is probably the case.

Whew! Again ... sorry for the interruption, and I hope I haven't overstepped my bounds, since I've never posted on any of your threads. I also don't mean to add to your sense of overwhelm during this very difficult time in your life. I would just hate to see your little daughter suffer more than she already has at the hands of her idiot father.

I'll shut up now ...

Keep the faith, girlfriend.

Jan

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