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#267899 - 06/06/06 12:12 PM
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chely24
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i went to the dr today with my mom, she was diagnosed with alzheimers (not sure if i have the correct spelling) do any of you know anyone with it? and if so, how do you deal?
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aw darling, i just wanted to send you and your mum big hugs. Hope your ok. don`t realy know what to say. I`m thinking of you. Jo x
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I'm sooo sorry {{hugs}}
I don't know much about it...but I think Bevrs might.....
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I have met someone with Alzhimers he is in his 80s The only think I can tell you its harder on them than it is on you they get frusterated because they can't remember then they can't remember anything just tell her her most happist memerios she wont forget them
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Hey chely...
#267907 - 06/06/06 12:22 PM
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Natalie1985
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Just wanted to send you some hugs....Im sorry you've had to hear such bad news. I know there are a lot of things people can do for alzheimers these days...plenty of people are controlled for years before things get worse. I have witnessed a couple of the extreme cases unfortunately...and its such an aweful disease....I hope they manage to get your mum on the right sort of medication that works for her...I know that can be a trying time...and Im keeping you and your mum in my thoughts...stay strong...
(((((((((HUGS)))))))))))
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thanks so much everyone! .. shes on meds now for it.. shes only 63..he said shes at the beginning of it.. and theres no way of telling how slow/fast it will go. shes been leaving the stove and oven on, forgetting where shes driving to, cant remember names or what she was just talking about, so she got checked and the neurologist said thats what it was.
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oh no!! I'm so sorry! What a terrible thing to find out today. Did the doctor give you any idea of its course, or next steps?
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Hey Chely,
So sorry to hear about your mom's diagnosis. Alzheimers is an awful diesase for both the person and their family. 
My grandmother has had alzheimers for several years now. Her mother had it really bad, so we were sort of expecting it. It was pretty dorment until 2001-ish when she had a stroke. After that, it was pretty much downhill.
She has good days and bad ones. We find that she likes to revert back to a time where she was the most happiest - which means when my mom, aunts, and uncles were all little kids. She'll call some of my little cousins the names of my aunts and uncles.
However, we have also found that she remembers people who haven't changed much. My mom, me and my aunt haven't changed much appearance wise, so she is really good with our names. However, all the grandkids are growing up and changing so much that she just can't keep track.
Fortunately, my grandpa is so awesome at taking care of her. They have a schedule (which helps) and he monitors everything she eats to make sure she keeps her cholestoral and fat intake down. She usually has no problem remembering who he is, although every once in a while she'll talk about some handsome guy named Paul (my grandpa) who she married.  Sometimes my mom will stay with her while my grandpa goes to Reno overnight for a break, and although she will repeatedly insist that 'something isn't right', she is usually pretty okay with my mom being there.
Otherwise, we wear name tags at family parties now to help her out so she doesn't feel embarassed not to remember. She got frusterated at first that she couldn't remember anything or even say complete sentances, but now she's completely happy just to enjoy everything and is one of the happiest people I know.
Just thought I'd share some personal experience in hopes that it will help. Again, sorry about your mom's diagnosis. Being diagnosed with Alzheimers is always hard.
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Oh Chely..
#267942 - 06/06/06 03:27 PM
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cailin
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that is so tough, hope you are doing OK. I am sure you will get the support you need to help your Mom to deal with her illness and help your family to manage too.
Take care
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Re: sad day
#267962 - 06/06/06 04:48 PM
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Double J
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My mother in law has had Alzheimer's for the past 5 years. She is living 3 blocks from us in her own house, but one of the daughters (two in town) usually take turns staying overnight with her. We promised her years ago that we would not leave her in a nursing home. We made her house safe for her, and the county health nurse makes stops there to find out how she is doing. Also, many sisters from the church stop and visit and when my wife and I leave town someone steps up to be with her.
It's a sad, sad thing to have happen to anyone. I am sorry for you and especially for your mother. It is a frightening thing for our parents to have to deal with losing what memory they have left.
Certainly there most be help groups in your area. They have been most helpful to us. They understand the plight of our parents and for us. If you live in the states there is certainly help available.
Just one last thing ... get educated about Alzheimer's ... it does not get better. I am sorry...
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for the thoughts and prayers i really really appreciate it. Im definitely going to do my research, i'd like her to get a second opinion too just to be sure, i guess i just dont want it to be real.. he said hers is going slow, thank god. he also said it can get really bad over a period of 10-20 years or it can go fast, theres no way of him telling her.
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Chely, both my dad's father and my mom's grandmother had it. It is a very sad disease, but it sounds like she is in the very early stages and she will always be your mother. Yes, eventually it does take your mind, but along with that comes humor (i know, hard to believe now) pin, happiness, and sadness. Just remember to continue to tell her you love her alot!!! She will remember when she gets bad. My mother took my dad's father in and he lived with us for a long time. Near the end of his life he had lost al most all memory but still remembered my mother. He was very special to my mom. It is a terrible disease but if you think positively, it is not deadly, you have a long time to come before it gets really bad, and there is alot of research going on, maybe they will find a cure. Good luck, and if you need to talk to someone who has gone through it e- mail my mom Debbie, at marcandluv@aol.com. keep up the hope sweety!!
Marci
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Just be very aware to see if she is endangering herself by driving. We had to take my great grandmothers car away because she was dangerous on the road. She was in her mid seventies. Just look for signs, I think you will do a great job helping her.
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thanks so much ...does it kill people?? im so afraid shes gonna pass away or something.. i wouldve never thought something like this, her dream is to see me get married and have kids, and im so afraid i wont be able to give her that before she forgets stuff all together.. i wanna make her proud and now my biggest fear is that i wont find someone to marry on time or something.. i wanna make her happy..especially now.. im so confused, and i feel so bad for her, i cant imagine how shes feeling.. or anyone with this disease for that matter.
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The good thing about it is that it mostly effects your brain, not your physical being. Her mind will probably leave her slowly, and so slow that your will look back five years from now and not even realize she has changed alot. She will not die quickly because of the disease but you do have to be careful once she does start struggling with remembering things so she doesn't put herself in danger. Just spend time with her, she will probably not forget who those very close to her are until the end of the illness which for her will probably be 15-20 years easy, probably more down the road. I don't think you need to worry to much about the future, just take it one day at a time, and try to find the joy in the small things. Don't be afraid to ask any questions, and don't think this is a death sentence, it is a very slow progressing disease and there are alot of experimental drugs that they hope will slow the progression tremendously.My great grandmother was 91 before she just recently passed on, and thats old!!!! I will be praying for you!!!
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thanks so much
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No problem, let me now if you need to talk!!!
Marci
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i can always use someone to talk to  you can email me at gottahavefaith24@sbcglobal.net if you'd like
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Chely, that is very difficult news. I'm so sorry to hear it!
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