big step!
#267449 - 06/03/06 04:57 PM
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I took my rings off. I'm getting real about it. They're in the jewelry box, and I put on a silver ring instead. First time in six years.It was really hard but it's healing. And I might go buy myself another funky silver ring this week.:)
He told his mom all about her, but said they were just friends. Of course. I told her she was 17, and he knows that everyone knows. his mom was devastated of course.but I'm sure she'll have found out eventually.
And I guess that's not my problem. I also told him I don't want my daughter around her. And oh, the best part? She's got the same name as my daughter.
now I'm seething mad and ready for him to go. He's staying at his moms Monday for 2 weeks, and then there's only I think, a week after that and he's gone.
Still gonna be hard to see him every day to drop off /pick up kayleigh but whatever, i will manage if I have yoy guys to vent to.
thanks a million. reallity has definitely set in and I'm definitely hurt and angry and disgusted rather than piteous and bewildered.
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I know this is a massive step, and it will get worse before it gets better - but you will come out of this better.
And you WILL find someone who truly deserves you two!
As for Trevor - yuck, I'm not even wasting words on him. Get your lawyer, get him out, and get on with your life.
I really am proud of you! 
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Shannon,
I am proud of you too. I know it wasn't easy to do. The first step in getting your life back on track.
I am sorry to hear that his mother is so upset but she has to know the truth. If that were my son I would be so pissed at him messing up his family for a 17 year old.
Stay strong sweetie.
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Janey
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Me too...
#267453 - 06/03/06 05:13 PM
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Natalie1985
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ditto everything caroline said...Im so proud of you...that is a huge thing to have done...and I know if you can get through these next few weeks...things can only get better. I wish you and Kayleigh all the best...and am sending all the support I have....keep smiling...and dont lose that great sense of humour that you have....its funny..cos I find that having a sense of humour can get you through some of the worst times in your life....its amazing how positive thinking works
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Shannon,
Congratulations, that is a big step!
Good for you for.
Sending good thoughts your way.
Jenn
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Very true, what Blondie said. It will get worse before it gets better. But sometimes knowing that ahead of time can help.
I'm proud of you too. And yeah....go get the coolest, funkiest silver ring you can find. Make sure you love it! Good for you.
I'm still going to check on you Monday, though! 
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Good for you Shannon. We're here to support you any time.
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at all but I guess she didn't need to know that 18 was 17. Either way i don't think it mattered much. She's disgusted with him. And supportive of me but at the same time, sort of trapped. i've tried to stay away from her. 
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I know it's goig to get worse once he's moved out but I'm braced for it I guess.
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well done girly - stay strong and keep smiling - it must be a big step but you seem strong and brave and v.determined. Glad you told his mum, I`d have done the same.
hope you are ok sending you big hugs.
Jo x
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Well, good for you, Shannon. Just take it a step (and a day!) at a time! Just keep venting here!
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and be the bigger, better person for it.. and heh- his family raised him to somehow be this way.. and if he is truly dating a 17 year old and you want full custody and child support in most states (and probably where you are) his publicly dating someone that young will go against him in a custody battle big time!
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I am so proud of you, honey! You do not deserve this crap and yet you are handling it with dignity and your head held high. You did absolutely nothing wrong, so be proud and focus on you and Kayleigh. My therapist has said often that anger can be a good thing. Sadness does nothing, whereas anger can sometimes help you get to where you want to go. So don't feel bad about feeling angry. It gives you energy to do what you have to.
Love and smooches,
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Re: big step!
#267663 - 06/05/06 08:15 AM
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michele
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I'm very proud of you. You can get through this-love and hugs
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by the time we do get custody all sorted out then it's not as big a deal-she'll be 18... And he's still telling me, and all his coworkers that they are just friends and that he hasn't done anything with her. Only the two of them know the truth, though in his defense he did wait for a long time to get things heated with me, so maybe he'll wait till she's 18 then he'll have done nothing wrong, I guess. Still, pretty pathetic.
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