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I hate to see you get hurt this way. People can't always help their feelings, but they sure can help their behavior and his behavior has been inexcusable. He better pay that rent and I hope you and your daughter can happy life anyway. He obviously needs to mature and figure his own head out and better he not drag you down while he does it!
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I'm pretty much speechless when it comes to hearing about your aweful situation. It is terrible. You have my ((((((HUGS)))))))) it's all I can do - I don't have anything to say to ease your heart and soul. I'm just sorry such a nice person has to deal with such difficult things. And its not your fault!! Just remember that - it is his decision, not yours sweetie!! Take care!
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IBS A 20+ years, Chronic Migraines, Chiari Malformation (decompressed June 22, 2010), Brachial Neuritis, and ??? the list just keeps growing, but I'm still shiny side up! 
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#266514 - 05/30/06 06:40 PM
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I know you weren't giving me a guarantee, just advice. But I am so stunned and grossed out and EMBARRASSED about it.
He is a part owner-ie: franchisee of his restaurant, so it's not like he owns it outright. He put $30,000 into it and is paying $600 a month for it, and $600 a month for his new car, and only $150 more than that for rent. Nice eh??
Anyhow, he has higher ups who manage how HE manages things. In a few years he'll be well off. Lucky.
As for the fraternization rule, well he's not DOING anything with her, so he says, and the bosses are on his side. 
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Shannon, you have nothing to be embarassed about...he does! I think that $600 a month he's paying for the restaurant would nicely pay your rent or most of it. Get your lawyer to go after your share. Oh, and he can take the bus to work so he'll have an extra $600 for your other household expenses.
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Men I swear think a younger woman is gonna do it for them. Little do they know that women in their 30's are prime!!!! Little 18 years old's have SOOOOOOOOOOO much learning to do yet.
Yeah, I agree, she's definitly not a home wrecker. It's him that's wrecking the home. She's probably just caught up in him for an escape to her abusive world. She'll smarten up and think "what the heck am I doing with such an old fart"!
Ughhh, I feel for you. I hope he comes to his senses real soon, however, not sure if I'd ever trust him again. Hard situation you are in right now. I just can't believe that he's not thinking of Kayleigh. Of course, we all know that right now he's not thinking with his brain (he's obviously thinking with something else  )Thank goodness she is too young to see what a jerk her dad is being right now.
Good luck sweetie and hang in there!!! My thoughts are with you!!!!
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...now you know what's going on, or least enough of it. You can start making plans for yourself and Kayleigh. It looks pretty plain that he's going no matter what. And hopefully he'll live up to his word and help support the two of you. But if he doesn't, know that you are a strong woman and you can take of yourself and your daughter. You'll be alright.
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#266542 - 05/30/06 08:05 PM
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I am so sorry! I agree with what everyone has said here. The most important thing right now is for you to look after you and Kayleigh's interests. See a lawyer ASAP.
I know it has to be extremely hurtful and disappointing to know that your husband that you love has a totally different side that you didn't know about.
You are a very special person that deserves so much more that what he is giving you.
As a mother of an almost 17 year old daughter I can't imagine if a 29 year old man wanted to date her. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. This is not your fault. He is completely in the wrong and shame on him for putting someone else before his family. I have to agree that you can't believe anything he says to you and that he probably has slept with this girl.
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Shannon, i don't know you that well but have been reading all your posts on this subject.First, i am so sorry you are going thru all this. I can only say that without a doubt that 18 yr old is going to get sick of him real quick,think about it, what a drag it will be when he has no money to do anything fun when he is paying child support and possibly alimony,and wouldn't it be a drag for her to have to deal with child every weekend or every other weekend, whatever the visitation schedule might be? (not dissing your child, just telling it like an 18yr old would think it)and when the 18yr old realizes "playing house" isnt so much fun anymore she will move on to a bigger and better "sugar daddy" to buy her all the toys and entertain her 24/7. what a blow that will be to Mr.Wonderful (a.k.a your soon to be ex).In a nutshell what i am trying to say is sometimes life has an ironic way of smacking you upside the head and saying "I told you so". Meaning him,not you. What comes around,goes around.
Your a very pretty girl i can see that from your pic,don't you think you deserve a man who will love you thru good times and bad?? As bad as it hurts right now, i would let him go, his choices in life will come back to bite him in the @$$ and maybe God has a plan for you,that a true someone special is out there for you.You deserve that.I know your world must feel like it's crashing down on you right now but 'this too shall pass', your a good person and i think good things are yet to come for you.Stay strong, your in my thoughts and prayers.
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I think part of what hurts so much is that I KNOW how hard it's going to bite him in the butt, and I just wish I could stop that. But he has to learn his lesson. Sigh.
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I'm sure you've heard of "It's called a breakup because it's broken." I know you said you were reading about how to fight for your marriage, but I think you should take a look at this one as well. I read it after my ex and I broke up -- I know we weren't married, but we were together for 3 years and literally everyone thought he was about to propose when things just fell apart. I've lent it to several friends and we all agree that its blunt and humorous tone can really make you stop and look at things you've tried not to see. See if your library has it, or if not I'll send you a copy. It's worth having!
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