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Hey everyone,
Sorry if it seems like I just show up once in a while and talk about myself -- I swear I read all the posts and try to respond as much as possible! Anyway I thought I'd give you all a little love-life update.

Valentines boy kind of fizzled. I guess he just couldn't get past the fact that I'm pretty religious and he's not. The way I saw it, if either of us were going to have a problem with that, it should have been me, and I did not. Anyhow, we were all out at a bar with some friends and I had too much to drink, we fought about something, and I left crying. I'm still not really sure what happened (note to self, don't drink on an empty stomach!), but it's definitely over!

After that I had a couple dates with random boys, nobody too special. Then last saturday (the 25th) I went to a beefsteak dinner at my brothers' church (last chance to eat meat before Orthodox Lent). I hadn't even planned on going because I was supposed to be out of town, but I ended up coming back a day early and going.

So, my two SILs and I were sitting at one side of a big round table, and my brother Mike was standing a little away from it, on the other side. He was talking to the hottest guy I've ever seen in real life. My SILs and I were all like WHO is that guy???

We couldn't hear it at the time, but this is what they were saying. Hot guy gestures to my SIL's giant pregnant belly (she gave birth 2 days later, Elias Matthew, healthy, etc), and he goes, "I really gotta get there." So my brother, who doesn't really know the guy that well, asks, are you married? He says no. Are you seeing anyone? He says no. So my brother totally un-smoothly yells across the table, Mandy, come here and meet this guy!

Argh! So embarassing ... but he was hot so I went over. We shook hands and it was like instant chemistry. We ended up chatting for most of the night. He was wearing a frilly red apron because he was serving the dinner, and it was hilarious. My brother bet me 10 bucks that the guy wouldn't ask for my number by the end of the night, I was pretty determined. Finally I decided to invite him to come by my brother's house the next day, since we were having some people over. Kind of a bold move but it worked -- he had to ask for my number after that!

The next day I went to my church in brooklyn and he and my brothers went to their church. By the time I got to my brother's house, he was there! He hung out the entire day -- playing on the floor with my niece, playing poker with the boys, chatting with my SILs! It was great. I was extremely nervous the whole day but it was nice anyway. At night we all piled on the couch to watch Grey's Anatomy and he was very slyly kind half holding my hand, playing with my fingers, etc. I was sweating buckets.

So, we said good night, and he said he'd call me later in the week. I kinda didn't believe him but I was excited.

I went back to my place that night, and the next night my SIL went into labor, and I ran out to my brother's. I spent all night monday and all day tuesday calling the hosp for updates. She was in labor 23 hours! So I was kind of distracted when he called on Tuesday evening (before the birth) but he asked if I was free that weekend. My school was running a huge competition but I didn't want to put off our date, so I said I was free Friday night at 9pm. So he said great, and that he would call again in a couple days to work out the details.

He called Thursday night and told me he had picked out a cute place to go, downtown. I told him I'd be at school and that I guess I would just meet him at the restaurant. He said no way, I'll PICK YOU UP AT SCHOOL! Those of you who don't live in NYC might not be familiar with this, but you NEVER get picked up for dates. I was so excited.

So all day Friday I was ridiculously nervous. I NEVER get nervous about dates, so I didn't even really know how to calm down or anything. I was totally nauseous and everything. But, as soon as he picked me up I started to relax. Dinner was great -- we went to a Russian / French place and had way too much vodka (the tummy has been cooperating lately!) and then went to a club for a little while and danced. It's so easy to be with him -- he's super smart, we have a ton in common, and great chemistry. So, he asked if he could see me again Saturday night and I broke my own rule about accepting last-minute dates and said yes.

Saturday was much more tame -- we just went to Houston's and watched the Duke / UNC game and had sandwiches. We hung out a bit at my apartment after that and it was so relaxed and easy.

We're going out again this weekend -- a cool restaurant on Friday night, and then Saturday he's going to help me hang my curtains! I'm so excited about that for some reason. Nice to have a boy around, you know?

And then .... next Thursday we're going to the Opera! I'm thrilled, I love the opera. I haven't been since October, when I saw Carmen. We're seeing Cyrano and it should be great. I'm super excited.

Anyway so I'm really really happy. We talk on the phone for so long every night, I feel like I'm in high school again. I feel like I just told God exactly what I was looking for in a person, and He was like okay, here you go! Sooooo I know I'm getting way ahead of myself but this could definitely be a good thing.

I'm so into this guy that when my ex-bf (who I was totally not over) emailed me this weekend and asked if we could catch up soon (on the phone) I told him now was not the right time. I never thought I'd get there!

So, I'll keep you all posted (if you're interested).

That's it from here. And yes, I'm writing a book about dating in NYC.

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Amanda

I live in the Big Apple, but I don't eat the skin

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