Made an appt with another RE
#250408 - 03/07/06 08:18 AM
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michele
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Loc: southeastern michigan
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I just made an appt for April 4th to see a different reproductive endocrinologist. The hospital I go to recommended her and when I called and talked with her staff they seemed very nice. I stressed to them over and over, I'm NOT a fertility patient, that I am a "habitual aborter" (lovely diagnoses, huh?!) and that I want to be treated for miscarriages NOT fertility. They said that the dr has several women who she treats who have had repeated miscarriages as well.
Not really sure what I'm expecting as I don't think there is really any other testing they can do. I guess I'm just looking for a fresh set of eyes to review everything and give an opinion. I really don't want to do all the fertility drugs again. I know that I can get pregnant, given some time, so I don't want to do artificial insemination or anything like that either.
I still don't feel like the RE I was seeing before was really addressing the miscarriage problem. She just kept throwing hormones at me and not really treating anything. Since leaving her care, I've been diagnosed with Urea plasma (a bacteria in the cervix) Rheumatoid arthritis, fibro and chlamydia pneumonia. These are some pretty big things that I feel she failed to diagnose.
I'm not really ready to start trying again, maybe in a couple more months but I want to see what this dr has to say and if there is any sort of "treatment" that I should start before trying. I have been very sad the last couple of days and really missing my babies. I guess I feel that I need to be doing something to move forward. If this dr says there isn't anything she can do and I just have to take my chances, well, then, that will be something to think about. Not sure what I would do in that case but I guess I'm just trying to get all the information so I can make some sort of decision.
Also not sure what the point of this post is  I guess it just helps me to type things out sometimes! I still read the cards that everyone sent me when I'm sad and it helps to know that so many people care!
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{{BIG WARM HUGS}} to you, Michele!!! You deserve someone who cares about your sit, at least a new set of eyes!! Changing doctors is so hard. But once you've made the appointment, it's almost robotic, going through your story, the past diagnoses, the feeling that "there's got to be something else" everybody else is missing. I never thought I could get through my IBS story without tearing up, screaming and throwing things. I hardly ever tear up anymore, and now that my aim is getting better there is hardly ever bloodshed. 
You deserve answers, and I know you-- you're never going to stop until you get them. Atta girl, Michele. You make me proud, and YOU give ME hope with your strength of character and personality. We deserve answers, dammit.
You reach out anytime. It's important to reach out! That whole pesky hope thing. I figure if my hope would just go away, I might be a lot happier in the long run not having my hopes continually dashed, you know? These latest run of diagnosises have got me down (I'm with you-- How does anybody miss C. Pneumonia??). We have to connect with each other in times like these. Cos to the doctors, at the end of the day we're nothing but a series of 50 minute appointments. Heartless b^stards. LOL.
I'm with ya, Michele. we've got to all rip away at the truth until we get to the bottom of what's going on with our bodies. I'm tired of this rollarcoaster!! I don't remember buying a ticket for this?! You lean on us as hard as you need to.
~nelly~ 
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This sounds like the logical first step back to the issue - especially since receiving the other new diagnosis. (rheumatoid ect..) With a fresh look and the knowledge you have gained from your other experiences perhaps now will be the time for answers. Still remembering you in my prayers and hoping time will reveal what must be done. You are one brave lady!!
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Thanks Bamagirl. I must admit, I'm not feeling so brave right now. I want a baby so bad but just not sure I could handle another loss. I've had a tough couple of days, just really missing my babies. I think I would be big as a house by now and feeling the babies move all the time and everything, it just makes me cry. You would think that with Spring just around the corner, I'd be feeling better. But somehow, the Spring is reminding me about the circles of life and regrowth and it reminds me of life lost. It seems the world is moving on and I'm still struggling over the loss of my babies and I don't want to move on, I want my babies. I'm sorry, I'm just having a really bad couple of days I guess.
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I'm really glad you're getting a second opinion. I agree that it's strange that your other RE wasn't looking for another cause for the miscarriages. I'm interested to hear what your new RE will have to say about your situation, miscarriages, and how your recent diagnoses fit in to the overall picture.
Michele, it's great that you're trying to move forward and get all the information you can get. Make sure you keep us updated on your appointment and how things are going with you!
Oh, and I totally understand needing to type things out!
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Take care,
Michelle
...the greatest of these is LOVE. (I Cor 13)
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I swear I replied to this earlier! 
Anyway, I wanted to say that I think getting a second (or third or fourth) opinion is a good idea when it's something this important. Especially if you have reason to feel your previous RE didn't quite live up to your expectations.
I'm also glad to hear that you haven't completely given up hope, but that you're keeping a level head about things. I'm sure that's really hard to do, so good job!
I have my third appt this saturday, and I can't help being totally afraid that I'll find out something is wrong and the baby is dead. We will get to try and hear the heartbeat for the first time, and if we do, then I know I'll feel much better. It's just hard for me to "have faith" when I know so many people who have had problems. I've got no physical symptoms that would lead me to believe there is a problem...but sometimes there aren't any!
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Grieving takes time and that time differs from person to person. It still has only been a short time for you. Bad days will still come....just further apart. To me, the fact that you feel that loss only ensures that your next decisions/plans are made with careful, deliberate consideration. You will know when the time is right. Hang in there!! Love and hugs and continued prayer for you, Michelle.
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I think this is a good idea. Especially since you are not ready to give up the fight. (which I don't think you should yet) A good fresh set of eyes really helps and different docotrs have different perspecitves. I am sorry you are hurting right now. I understand because my baby would have been due March 3 and I should be holding a new baby in my arms. I just thank God every day that I have been able to find aome answers to what caused my miscarriages. So I can certainly understand the need for answers. I will tell you this. The high risk doctor I saw said that miscarriages that aren't related to chromosonal problems means that there is another underlying cause. So don't give up hope. *hugs and love* 
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Good luck. I think you are doing the right thing trying another dr. Each dr. approaches things differently and hopefully this one will see something different that will help. I'll be praying things go well and I would be sad too if I went through all you have. (((hugs)))
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