Question for all the ladies who are in a relationship
#232245 - 12/17/05 09:58 AM
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Ravenndark
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How often does your boyfriend/husband/fiance/etc surprise you with anything?
Like flowers, or a romantic night, or even just a surprise visit during work or school, without telling you beforehand?
I'm not talking big surprises, just little things.
I'm curious, is all.
Edit: Also, how often do you surprise him?
Edited by Ravenndark (12/17/05 10:05 AM)
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#232246 - 12/17/05 10:02 AM
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Lyndsey
Reged: 02/16/05
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oh...very very often...yesterday he came back with a bunch of flowers, other days, my favourite cookie or a piece of fruit...we send eachother cute texts during the day. He's amazing..and I do the same for him...
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Every so often, whenever we have the time/can. He'll make me dinner or stop by my office or pick me something up without asking on the way home every so often. I'll make him a nice dinner or pick him up something on the way home or something like that. We're both engineering students, so we know that each other gets busy and stressed!
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Well, Girlfriend, there are no surprises after 39 years of marriage. Actually, hubby never did surprise me with anything. Never brought me flowers, never any little gifts, no romantic nights, nothing like that.
Yes, I used to surprise him with little things, but then discovered they weren't appreciated. He's not that kind of person, and he's too fussy. Now we each pick out our own Christmas gifts, buy them ourselves, then give them to our mate to wrap and stick under the tree. No surprises, but no disappointments either.
Now, having said that, let me tell you that this is the best relationship I've ever heard of -- and I've heard of a LOT! Here's a little story that says it all:
My computer screen saver pulls up all my saved pictures and displays them, changing pix every few seconds. I was here at the desk paying bills yesterday, and the screen saver just happened to flash an old photo of me. Hubby stood here, with his mouth open and his tongue hanging out, when I said, "Yeah, I'd kill to look like that now." Hubby leaned over, kissed me very gently and said, "You'll always look like that to me."
That's the best little surprise any old broad could ask for.
Bevvy
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Hi Isabel,
I think that in the beginning of my relationship, I got lots of suprises. Flowers, dinners, etc.
After 3 years, not so much.  Since we moved to Canada, I don't think I can think of any suprises I've have done for me.
Oh! No, wait, that's not true. I can think of a few, he decorated our little suite in red balloons and streamers on Valentine's Day and did all my birthday planning without me knowing. Just not little things like flowers or dinners anymore.
I, on the other hand, do things all the time. I don't really do them because I think I should so much, but 'cause I really like to.
I think it's a totally individual thing, though, and if someone never brings you flowers or always brings you flowers might not speak directly to how much they love you.
Cheers!
--Steph
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What an interesting question!
I'm also one of those gals who has to say "never". My hubby is just not the type to think of surprises and he never has been.
I don't mind though, because he's the best friend I've ever had and he's my biggest fan. He looks out for me as best he can and he always sticks up for me. Since he's become disabled, he can't do what he'd like to do; but he's still my best bud!
We're together 24/7, but we still love being together. That's better than anything he could ever surprise me with!
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We're both busy most of the time, but we try to do little things. I don't think we've ever bought each other flowers or anything... but we write each other cute notes sometimes, or emails, or pick up a little something the other person would like if we're out shopping or something and surprise them with it... no grand gestures here, but it's the little things that are nice  We definitely did more stuff like that earlier in our relationship, but 3 years in now, we still try to do some things. (We don't need quite the same amount of mutual assurance now though I think, hehe.)
On the other hand, my parents, who have been married for 25+ years surprise each other with stuff all the time. Always buying each other gifts and flowers just because!
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I do little practical things for hubby all the time. I fill his gas tank up every weekend so he starts the week off with a full tank of gas. I heat up his supper when he gets home late. I surprise him with his favourite suppers. Stuff like that.
As for him... well, don't see that very often!!!!! He's not that type.
He did once surprise me - when I was sick and pregnant with Quinlan - I had a horrible stomach virus, PLUS morning sickness... he went out and bought me a DIAMOND PENDANT!!!! I just about passed out from the shock and excitement.
Plus, he bought me nice jewelry after our kids were born but I had to pick them out. So when he does surprise me, he goes big. But very rare. But that's OK. I can buy myself flowers, so there! LOL!
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