OMG!!
#231224 - 12/13/05 10:19 AM
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Lyndsey
Reged: 02/16/05
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Loc: Bay Area, CA
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i was online on mike's profile, and i was going to look up my gmail.com account, and i found gagonmycock.com...then i looked at other places he's traveled....HE'S LOOKING UP FREAKING PORN....i'm pissed because he says he doesn't...or makes a big deal of people who do...wtf?? i'm not enough now? do i confront him?? wtf???
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Ugh
#231228 - 12/13/05 10:31 AM
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epa_ginger
Reged: 02/23/05
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Loc: Chicago, IL
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This is something I feel strongly about, and I know some women are a lot more laid back when it comes to stuff like this. I guess I'm pretty uptight about it. To me, it's not ok. At all. Ever. I don't understand the enjoyment gained from it, and I think it's gross. So I'd be mad and would definitely confront him. But...some women on this site may say it's not a big deal. But if it bothers you, you SHOULD say something. (and that is a horrid website address).
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Re: Ugh
#231229 - 12/13/05 10:36 AM
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Lyndsey
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yeah, i am pissed, i texted him saying i was seeing if he was cheatng and seeing whta i got for him for christmas on the computer, and then said am i not turning you on anymore or something like that..i don't really remember...if we BOTH looked that would be one thing...i'm freaking pregnant, feeling gross sometimes, and hes looking at these unstretched out, big boobed girls? i'm PISSED right now....especially because he's being decietful. if he was honest it would still bother me, but i wouldn't be pissed...but i'm furious right now...it's like i suddenly don't know who he is...he went behind my back and did that...i'm so mad!
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Re: OMG!!
#231234 - 12/13/05 10:44 AM
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Shell Marr
Reged: 08/04/03
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Loc: Seattle, WA USA
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I think most guys and A LOT of girls look at porn. Personally I don't think it is a big deal. I'm sure he told you he did not look so you would not worry about it. And TRUST ME porn is not all about unstreched & big boobs.... there is something out there for everyone including some that LOVE the pregnant look!!  
I'm sure he looked at it LONG before you were pregnant.
Take a deep breath.... let it go...really it's not a big deal as long as he is not OBSESSED with it and is spending A LOT of time and no longer interested in you.
Just MY two cents! 
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Re: OMG!!
#231236 - 12/13/05 10:48 AM
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Lyndsey
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he lied....if he said something to me that's one thing, he knows i'm self concious about my body....he reconfigured the computer so he did it this week....or last...and he tells me that he wouldnt look and is only interested in me...it would be one thing if he included me..,its another to go behind my back...he gets jelouse if i mention i think a guy on tv is cute..or hot whatever...like bam or robert de niro..(yes thats two different spectrums) or any of that..i've tried to pose for him before, and wont let me do it...and i found old pics of his ex...a while back, he said he forgot, but now i'm even more pissed because she was ugly. and nasty and i don't just say that because she's his ex....UHHHHHHHHHHHHHHG
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Re: OMG!!
#231241 - 12/13/05 11:02 AM
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Shell Marr
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as for the ex... she is an ex for a reason... and think of it this way... he has upgraded to YOU!!
He would not be with you if he did not want to be with you....
Lyndsey....PLEASE don't make a big deal out of this...it only makes things worse and MAKES guys hide more things cuz they are affraid of how the woman will react to it. I understand he lied and said he did not look anymore.... but think about it... what would you have done if he said, "Hey, I like looking at porn and I'm gonna keep doing it....even if you don't like it" ????? Is that what you wanted to hear from him? The girls, women, etc...that is is looking at...is THAT..he is LOOKING at them... he is not "doing them" or cheating on you...
If I found out that someone was looking at the history on my computer to see where I was looking... I WOULD BE PISSED... you both have trust issues and that is NOT a healthy relationship.
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I would try to talk to him rationally about it.. but wait until a time when you've settled down, and thought about what you want to say carefully.
I wouldn't attack him or he may just keep doing the same things again and again but hide it even better. I'd talk to him about your feelings, ie you are insecure bc you are pregnant etc and let him reassure you. Its not worth starting an massive blow out over.. but its worth approaching calmly and rationally.
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also...
#231253 - 12/13/05 11:27 AM
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another reason not to blow it out of proportion...
he can always throw it back at you that you've been snooping through his stuff.. which can cause even more trouble than necessary. Chose your words and argument wisely, or else it might turn into an all out war
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i've TRIED to make tapes, pose...etc..he wont freaking do it....i mean really....i'm willing to do it in real life, and i know most guys would die for that...because...well i just know...i've tried to do it...it would be one thing if he agreed to do it with me...but he has to go look up girls who will do it....
i could see if i was extremely conservitive...but i'm not anywhere close to that...i wont go into detail, but i've had him do stuff that i know he wouldn't have done....becuase he was nervous the whole time (ok so i'm a little bit of an exibitionist) but i've TRIED to do stuff like that...but he wont let me, if he did it...and even blamed the sites on a education that would be one thing...and was honest about looking, but he says how he wouldn't, look it up...etc...thats why i'm pissed...i'm damn sexy damn it....
i was seeing if he was trying to see what i got him for christmas online, thats the reason i looked..and the only reason...he looks at mine all the time, i don't care, i have nothing to hide...
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Re: also...
#231257 - 12/13/05 11:32 AM
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Lyndsey
Reged: 02/16/05
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Loc: Bay Area, CA
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like i said, if he was even remotely interested in doing things like that with me, that would be one thing...but he's not...so he wants to look at other chicks? that sorta makes me feel like am i not sexy enough to you? because i know i can be...the only thing i have a prob with is trying to stick it where i've already have issues with,...lol....i don't know...guys are so weird...i wish i could get him back by looking up guys..but i don't really even find guys sexy..lol...no i'm not gay either...
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