Tuesday seems a little harder
#231202 - 12/13/05 09:00 AM
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michele
Reged: 06/02/03
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Loc: southeastern michigan
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I woke up this morning as forced myself out of bed and into the shower. I tried to forgo the xanax so I wouldn't be so drugged and tired at work. Once I got out of the shower, I made it to my dressing room and had a major meltdown. I cried and cried and cried. Will was in the basement and didn't know and I didn't want to upset him further. After I cried for a while, I tried to pull myslef together enough to dry my hair and find something to wear other than pj's. I realized it was just about exactly the same time one week ago I found out and saw my dead little babies inside of me. I took the xanax. luckily, my jeep knows the way to my office as I just kind of weeped all the way here. I've had a few meltdowns but I'm trying. I feel so very sad. I miss my babies so much and I want them back. The pain just seems so unberable right now. I have to go back to the dr's office tomorrow and just the thought of seeing all those pregnant women is more than I can take. Will has said he will go with me and I will ask the nurse to take me right back to a room so I don't have to sit and look at all the big belly's but I know its going to be hard. I would call and see if I can go in next week but I'm still bleeding a lot and having a lot of physical pain so I think I need them to take a look and be sure something isn't wrong. I sure hope my shrink can tell me something to help me get through the days to come. We have that trip to Tahoe scheduled for the 22nd and I know it'll probably be good to get away but it is with Wills family and I've had some problems with them over the last year or so. The couldn't understand the pain I was going through nor did they understand the fetility treatments and everything else. They are VERY religious and well, I'm not and we butt heads sometimes there. I know they mean well and love me but I feel that they expect me to put on a happy face and I'm just not sure I can do that. I know Will needs this trip and he also needs me to buck up a little and I will try but the added pressure isn't good right now. And, I have absolutely nothing to wear! My maternity stuff is too big and my pre maternity stuff is too small. I have two pairs od knit pants that I'm wearing to work but I don't have a signle other pair of pants that fit. Do you think people will stare if I wear my pj;s on the plane????  I hate to go out and spend money on some clothes as I just spent $400 on maternity stuff that I washed so its not returnable. My hubby offered me a pair of his jeans but he is a shorty and I need a 34 inseam. I hate the fact that I have to deal with such stupid stuff right now!
Anyways, I want you to all know that I have read every post to me and all my emails but I just don't have the heart to respond to everyone directly right now. You have all touched me so much and have given me the streagnth to go on. It had made a big difference knowing all of you care so much. Thank you
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Michele, please do not worry about anyone but YOU right now!!
Go out and buy yourself a lovely outfit or a few right now if it will make you feel better! And it's not a waste of money! I just bought myself flowers that, as hubby would say, will die so why buy? It makes us FEEL GOOD *hugs* And that is priceless!
You are wonderful and we all love you so much. We want you to take care of yourself...it's so important!
As for the Xanax...did the doc prescribe it as needed? I would stay on it for now...the drowsiness from the meds usually go away within a week or 2 and if it isn't inhibiting...use the extra boost.
We don't need you to respond to us right now Michele. We are sending you our love NOT for a response...but to give to you...the woman who is ALWAYS giving to us. Let us give back, ok  *super hugs*
Love you Michele!!!!
Ruch
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*Gentle HUGS*
#231212 - 12/13/05 09:47 AM
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melitami
Reged: 02/23/04
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I agree with Ruchie! Take the Xanax if you need it right now, and it sounds like you do. I also think it's a good thing you go to the doctor tomorrow, and make sure everything is ok. Take care of yourself right now!
About Tahoe, just try to have a good time, if you have to, leave the room if your inlaws become too much of a pain in the butt. Go shut yourself in the bathroom, take some deep breaths, wash your face, and hopefully by then they forget what they were talking about when you left the room. That's what I do with my grandmother who doesn't believe that I'm sick and that there's anything wrong with me.
Here if you need us, sweetie, just remember you're a strong, wonderful, beautiful woman!
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Melissa
Friendship is thicker than blood. ~Rent
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Compromise on Ruchie's idea....go buy yourself some really nice pj's!  There are pjs that are like posh lounge suits and are perfect for wearing on the plane. I've got one pair I got in the sales that are pure silk with a kimono type top and they are nicer than most of my normal day wear! And if you got pjs, it won't matter so much if you change size.
{{{hugs}}} This has got to be soooo hard. And I'm not surprised it's getting a bit harder - our bodies help us cope with alot by putting us into shock so we don't deal with it all at once. Unfortunately that means we have to keep dealing for longer. 
You're such a trooper. Will's family will know that this is hard for you, so just do your best, they can't expect anything else.
{{{hugs}}}
And don't worry about replying to my emails or posts if it's too much! I totally understand that. 
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e-mail again...but it won't get sent. Is there a different e-mail I can send this to? It was an e-card I had wanted to surprise you with!
Love you *hugs*
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I have flown a lot over the last few years and I regularly wear pajama pants---the more comfortable, the better! And I always laugh at women in tight jeans and high heels. That's not comfortable, and who wants to drag luggage around like that??
And I imagine you've still got a lot of bad days ahead. But you've got a week's worth behind you. I'm sure that doesn't seem very comforting, but you've made it this far. And soon a lot of time will have passed and you'll still be there, and I think it will get easier then.
Maybe this trip will be good for both of you. I hope Will's family will be understand to you, and you can try to find some comfort with them.
Ginger
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Michelle's email in another thread somewhere. Email or IM me if you want it. I won't post it again just in case she doesn't want to.
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*HUG*
#231219 - 12/13/05 10:02 AM
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khyricat
Reged: 08/05/04
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I just posted and told you to call me if you need it.. I think you BOTH need to go see a therapist for help coping.. this isn't an easy time for either of you and you need to do whats right for you FIRST even if it isn't what Will needs... you carried those babies inside of you- not him!
If putting up with his family isn't going to be helpful don't do it... you need time and rest to heal- both physically and mentally
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Re: *HUG*
#231226 - 12/13/05 10:27 AM
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michele
Reged: 06/02/03
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Loc: southeastern michigan
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Thanks girls. I'm not sure whats up with my email but its michelebrake@sbcglobal.net. I have a $50 off of $150 purchase at Layne Bryant so hopefully I can find a couple of things to just get me buy for this transition period. I bought a velour sweat suit outfit, its actually maternity but I think there is a draw string in it so I can probably wear that for flying. I had to pay bills today as it got neglected last week and I felt guilty about concentrating on who and what to pay instead of my babies. I'm just all over the map. I know its partly hormones. I did up my dose of zoloft from 50 to 100mg so hopefully that will help. In the meantime, I obvisoulsy need the xanax. I hope the dr doesn't have an issue with giving me another script tomorrow. I know its not a permanent solution but I need more time and if the xanax helps then I see no reason not to take it right now. We have a full schedule of patients this afternoon so I'm hoping it'll keep me busy and I won't have a meltdown in front of an office full of people. Hopefully everyone will be nice as I'm sure my ability to cope is very low right now.
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and know that we are all thinking of you.
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