My New Hair Hat
#228955 - 12/03/05 07:43 AM
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Bevvy
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I'm so excited about no longer being bald! Here I am yesterday, being fitted for my NEW HAIR HAT! Yaaaaay! It takes two months, so I won't have it for awhile yet, but when I get it, I'll post a pic of the NEW ME!
I'm so proud of me. I'm puttin' on my Big Girl Panties and dealing with it!
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Ooo! Can't wait!
#228956 - 12/03/05 07:55 AM
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How very exciting! What style are you getting?
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Sis,
I'm so excited for you.....can't wait to see the results!
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You are still beautiful Bev with or without hair  You have one of those faces that would look good completely bald. Not many people can carry that off!!!! I can, however, sort of sympathize with your frustration. Hubby is bald and has been since he was ohhhh 21 or so. He is so self conscious of himself that he even refrains from going to functions unless he can wear a hat! Doesn't matter how many times I can tell him that I don't care that he doesn't have hair. He is the most perfect and wonderful husband anyone could ask for. Really, he has minimal flaws so I love him with or without hair. I married him without any so obviously it doesn't matter to me. It's what's inside. I know you will feel better with your new hair and can't wait to see it!!! HUGS><><><>
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Lisa and Hubby
#228983 - 12/03/05 09:00 AM
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Bevvy
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Thanks Lisa!
I emphathize with your hubby. I understand exactly how he feels. When we don't feel good about a part of ourselves, we want to change it, and baldness is something we just can't change. It's frustrating, and it holds us back from being whole.
I found an extremely experienced Hair Hat Guy who knows how to do a proper fit; I have full confidence that I'll end up with a quality product that looks perfectly natural.
Has your hubby considered finding such a guy and getting himself a Hair Hat? It would do wonders for his self-esteem.
Talk it over with him and just think about it awhile....
Thanks again for your kind words.
Bevvy
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No, at this point he I think feels like he probably would be made fun of at work because he can't wear his hat at the office. Most of our neighbors don't know he's bald because he wears a hat so it would probably only be beneficial around the neighborhood. He actually won't even go over to any of the neighbors that have pools and swim because he has to take his hat off> It's just awful for him. I feel so bad. Our children even draw every picture at school with their daddy with a hat on. It's just heartbreaking 
I've almost considered signing him up for a mini extreme makeover on TV. That way I think he'd actually go for it than just show up with a head full of hair. That way everyone would know he was doing it ahead of time. I really think he'd do it though if he were picked. I think his self esteem would definitly improve!
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Vanity is fun, and a total pick-me-up. I hate to say this but my fake hair is better than my real hair. I look like a wild and crazy band vixen with it on, versus poetic.
Way to go.
Kate.
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#228999 - 12/03/05 10:05 AM
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Bevvy
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Thank you, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!
I want a pic of you and your Fake Hair! I WANNA PIC! I WANNA PIC!!!!
Okay, I'll calm myself...
.... but I DO want a pic....
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you look so happy i'm happy for you
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WOW BEV.. i've never heard of a hair hat.. is it a wig.. or something fancier.
To be honest I had no idea you were balding at all, in your pic you look like you have a full head of hair. Regardless.. it looks like this new contraption is making you very happy so YOU GO GIRL! 
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Thanks Guys!
#229034 - 12/03/05 02:10 PM
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Bevvy
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Yeah, it was fun getting fitted! I had a blast. It's deceiving; because I'm so blonde, the bald spits are well hidden, and my hair is real thick at the bottom, so it looks like I have more hair than I really do.
I'm doing this for myself, to make me feel more self-confident in public. If that's vanity, then I guess I'm vain. But I do believe in doing whatever is necessary to make me feel better about me.
I'm joining Weight Watchers after Christmas.
Yaaay me!
Thanks again,
Bevvy
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I doubt there are any photos around! I avoid cameras/Fuji film moments. I think I've got a few of me with my real hair prior to the regrowth surge.
Okay--I send one to Ruchie and she can post it. I look like a total dufus, but that's okay. I accept that my soul's human mask/facade is "unique" in this incarnation.
Kate.
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Your are so beautiful, and your profile pic shows how beautiful you really are. I think it's wonderful that you're doing something to make you feel GREAT about yourself!!!
Those big girl panties sure come in handy!!!
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Are you going to pin up your hair and where a wig? Or is more like extensions that you get replaced in your hair? Or maybe a "piece" of hair (like a toupee) that your add to your own hair?
I'm curious as to who you go to for this. A beautyshop or a wig place? Is it for all over thin hair or just a thin scalp?
I can't wait to see your new pic! But I agree with everyone else. You look lovely already. And your hair doesn't look that thin either.
I am totally in to making yourself feel better about yourself no matter how you do it!  That's why I'm so interested. I think I would feel so much better about myself if I had my thick hair back...not this thinning hair do to stress, medication, and my long battle with anorexia which totally screwed up my hormones.
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Kate, I know what you mean about cameras! (But I refuse to have a Fujifilm moment, because their film sucks.) You can always recognize me in pictures -- I'm the one turned away or with a large object in front of my face. I got married a year and a half ago and it's weird to have all of these pictures of me. I think before that the most recent picture I had taken was when I was in New Orleans and wanted a snapshot of me in front of Marie Laveau's tomb.
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Thanks, Alicia!
#229061 - 12/03/05 04:12 PM
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Bevvy
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What a sweetie you are. You make me feel real good. THANKS!
And you're right. Always have those Big Girl Panties ready when needed....
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#229066 - 12/03/05 04:26 PM
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Bevvy
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Hi Beth,
It's a "piece." I'm not a good candidate for extensions; you have to have hair for those, and my problem is that I'm losing my hair. It's all due to stress and hormone imbalance.
You have to go to a specialist for a Hair Hat. Your beautician can recommend someone. They have to be specially trained to learn how to fit you; the fit is crucial so that the Hair Hat is like a second skin. For example, I have a HUGE head, even bigger than hubby's, and in fact bigger than the guy who was fitting me. After he made up my "form," he laid it on my hairdresser's head, and it just floated all over and ultimately fell off; her head is MUCH smaller than mine. So you see, the fitting is real important.
Then he takes cuttings of my hair from several places; these are to match my hair color exactly. Then he asks me a million questions, mostly about how I want to wear my hair. It's important because then he lets them know which pieces of hair are to "grow out" in which direction.
The "piece" is constructed of human hair, and each individual strand of hair is individually tied to the mesh "form." It's VERY expensive and extremely time-consuming. It takes months to make it up. I'm not expecting it until February.
Before I decided definitely to go ahead with it, my hairdresser introduced me to a woman friend of hers who wears a Hair Hat, and in fact ordered it from the same guy I did. I took to this woman immediately. She's an incredible woman who may have just changed my life. This person has been to Hell and back; besides suffering like you would not believe in many ways, including her first husband's untimely death just months before her baby was to be delivered, she came down with cervical cancer and was not expected to live. They had to give her medication that caused her to lose her hair; it came out in clumps. She has kicked the cancer, believe it or not, but still has to take the medication, which causes her to keep losing hair. This woman has an INCREDIBLE attitude about life. She's a fighter who refuses to give up. She wears her Hair Hat with pride and swears by a good sense of humor; she says it's what's kept her alive. The whole time she was talking to me, I had to fight back the emotion; truly, she's an inspiration unlike any person I've ever met.
Like she said, "the hair loss is nothing. I'm ALIVE." When she put her Hair Hat on, her own hair blended in so beautifully I could not see the mess "form" and it took her only seconds to put on.
If you need a "piece," GOFERIT. And wear it with pride like my new survivor friend.
Bev
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Vacation photos, lol! I've got a few of those hiding.
Do you ever look at yourself in photos, and have a problem identifying with the impersonation of "you?" Honestly, I look at that woman and have a problem associating "her" with "me."
Denial? I don't know. My I.D. photos look like I was just released from prison. I have some total bald eagle ones, though. I have some former modeling ones hiding, too, somewhere. But they're just about nude and rear view shots, too. (I did a "spread" for a chiropractic magazine and some artsy stuff. When I was in University, I did some posing for art classes for cash. It's a rather "chilly" job.)
You're comment re: cemetary photos struck me, though. When I was in Europe, I took a series of photos of stray cats & dogs in graveyards.
Kate.
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...you're paths were meant to cross.
So is the "official" name of this a Hair Hat? Is that what I ask my beautician to recommend me to someone? Do you sleep with it on and wssh it like normal hair? What happens when your real hair grows and the hair hat doesn't?
I'm really intrigued with this. My low self esteem has a lot to do with losing so much of my once thick head of hair. You know how it feels. Horrid. But mayhe I still have enough hair not to have to go this route...yet. I just have an overall really thin hair...but no bald spots or anything. It makes me so upset everytime I see the handfuls of hair in my hands after washing it...or when I see the hair all over my black sweaters.
I still think you are a beautiful person without the piece...but you deserve to be happy with your appearance...so bravo for doing this for yourself. Hmmm...how expensive is VERY expensive? You can email me the answer if you don't want to post it.
Maybe I would have to take a trip to Washington if/when it's time to do this!
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Do you ever look at yourself in photos, and have a problem identifying with the impersonation of "you?" Honestly, I look at that woman and have a problem associating "her" with "me."
Sort of, but it's more like, "WHOA, is that what my eyebrows look like???" I think I also have a distorted view of my weight, because when I look down at myself or even in the mirror, I always feel like I'm a little chunky. (I am 5'5" and usually around 115-120 lbs., but more like 110-115 ever since I got sick.) So in photos I am always sort of surprised that I look thin. I'm also always surprised to see that I have a dimple, because I never remember that either. Is that weird? Yeah. Probably.
I don't have my pic up because I'm paranoid people will see it and know who I am. But, at the same time, I am a bit paranoid that the people on the boards will think I must be really ugly not to put my picture up. Not that it matters, I guess.
Um, yeah, okay, so I have weird insecurities. Who doesn't??
Speaking of, you're pretty brave to keep around nude photos. I am not admitting, er, saying that I have ever had any kind of risque photos taken of me, but, like, in theory, if I did, I always get paranoid and destroy them after awhile. Just in case someday I really do become a hugely popular famous author and my husband gets jealous and insecure and we get divorced and then he sells the photos to the National Enquirer. I mean, who can sustain her literary merit once the world knows she wears a padded bra??
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#229102 - 12/03/05 08:07 PM
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Bevvy
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It costs well over a thousand dollars. It's not called a "Hair Hat" officially; it's call a "system." Don't ask me why.
No, you do not sleep on it; you remove it at night. Yes, you wash it like normal hair, but very gently, more like a fine sweater in Woolite, squeezed, not wrung-out. You have to buy a canvas head form the same size as your own head to pin the Hair Hat on and to set the "Hair Hat" hair. Yes, you can use a blow-dryer if you don't want to drip-dry it, but use a low setting.
Most folks who wear a "piece" all the time usually purchase two, and the second "piece" is about half the price. The reason for buying two is to always have one available should the need arise.
What happens when my real hair grows? I get a haircut. What happens when my hair turns white? I get it colored. What happens when I want a different hair style? I'm screwed.
I don't know where you live, but there are Hair Hat People all over the country. Just ask your hairdresser; she'll know.
Beth, I understand how you feel about losing so much of your hair. I see old pix of myself, and I'm shocked at how much hair I had then. My hair loss has been a very slow process, but a steady one. I was lucky to find an honest professional who gave me his opinion on whether or not I was a good candidate for a "piece." Because my hair is so thin and so fine, and because there are some spots that are beginning to be "balding," a "piece" will work well for me. If you find a reputable person, they'll tell you.
We do what we have to do and we work with what we have. I was lucky; I have incredible complexion, so I never have to wear makeup. The trade-off is that I have awful hair and nails. So, I have artificial nails and now 'm getting a Hair Hat. I'm being a Big Girl and dealing with it, and moving on. You know something, Beth? When I complained to my hairdresser (who is also a good friend) about my crappy hair and nails, she replied, "Yes, but a damn good heart!" We work with what God has given us.
One thing I learned from my new survivor friend is don't sweat the small stuff -- and it's ALL small stuff. Every day we wake up is a gift.
Bev
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#229106 - 12/03/05 08:11 PM
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BL
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Sounds incredible, but I have a stupid question. How does this differ from a wig? Or is this essentially a wig with a different name?
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Bev???
#229109 - 12/03/05 08:17 PM
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Are you seriously not wearing any makeup in that picture? WOW. You are right -- you were truly blessed with your complexion!!
Your "Hair Hat" sounds super! I'm so glad you're doing something that makes you feel good.
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#229112 - 12/03/05 08:39 PM
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Bevvy
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No, I've never worn makeup. I've never understood that stuff. I mean, why cover up your pores? How the hell can they BREATHE? Nope, no makeup for this gal!
Thanks for your compliments. Now tell me, Girlfriend, when are we gonna see YOUR pic? HMMMMMMMM?????
Bev
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#229113 - 12/03/05 08:44 PM
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Bevvy
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A wig covers the entire head. This is like a yamaka; it sits on top of the head, thus I call it a "Hair Hat." It attaches with little teeny tiny clips that clip to my own hair.
Nope, not a stupid question at all; in fact, it's a good one.
Thanks for your interest, BL! I'll post a new pic of me when I get it in February so you can see for yourself how a Hair Hat looks. I'm jazzed about it.
Bevvy
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Re: Jen
#229231 - 12/04/05 04:28 PM
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I'm too paranoid to post my picture!!! And I don't have any recent ones.
Oh, well, what the heck. I'll keep this one up for a little while and then take it down. This is from my wedding a year and a half ago. Um, if you couldn't tell from the whole veil thing. (I made that veil, so don't insult it!!!)
[gone now!]
OK, and here is a B&W one, also from the wedding, so you can get a good look at my chubby chipmunk cheeks.
[also gone. Sorry, missed your chance]
Yes, I DO have the world's biggest forehead, thanks...
Oops, these didn't scale down to the same size. But I am too lazy to fix it since I'm not leaving these up anyway.
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HUBBA HUBBA, Jen!
#229234 - 12/04/05 04:44 PM
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What a GORGEOUS GAL you are! Why, oh WHY wouldn't you leave these up? I SOOOO don't understand!
You made the veil? Gee, you do beautiful work. I wouldn't even try to attempt such a thing.
What beautiful eyes you have -- and that killer smile! Oh yeah!
Please keep these up. And Casie can put one of them in your profile pic for you. I like them both, but with the black and white pic we can see your pretty eyes. Yeah, send that one to Casie!
Thanks for sharing.
Bev
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you are beautiful! (and so young.) Thanks for sharing. It's nice to finally see you.
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#229238 - 12/04/05 05:12 PM
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Jen, you are just ADORABLE! The chipmunk cheeks make you adorable! I love reading your posts. You have such a great sense of humor, however, I do hope your ovarian troubles do go away real soon and you get to the bottom of whatever it is! Keep smiling!!!
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thanks!
#229243 - 12/04/05 05:26 PM
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Wow, you are embarrassing me!!! I don't want to leave up my picture because I'm afraid someone will recognize me. Sort of paranoid, I guess, but in my "real life" no one but husband/family knows the kind of detail I blather on about on the boards.
The veil cost about $6 to make. I spent $4 on some really nice veil material from the fabric store (I had a 60% off coupon), paid $1 for a cheap white headband and another $1 for the flowers, and then sewed the veil and flowers onto the headband. It was really easy and looked much nicer than if I'd spend another $15 and bought a cheap pre-made veil. Plus then I didn't have to worry about any elaborate pinning and coiffuring. I have very fine hair and the humidity was about 115% that day, so it was good to have the veil on to hide my limp hair. 
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#229281 - 12/04/05 11:53 PM
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You're beautiful! You look like Kelly Clarkson in the first pic and Heather Graham in the second.
Bev, I got the red X for your hair hat picture, but I hope it looks as great as I picture it. I love the colour your hair is in your profile, it's kind of ethereal. Like elf hair from Lord of the Rings.
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THERE you are!
#229651 - 12/06/05 11:54 AM
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LOL! I have the same chipmunk cheeks plus 8-head too. Tee heee.
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Ooh la la!
#229656 - 12/06/05 12:12 PM
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That's awesome Bev!!
We sure can do some amazing things now, huh?
I can't wait to see the "after" pictures of you loving your new 'do!
So happy for you!
Cheers!
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I call mine Mt. Rushmore....my monster forehead is why I wear bangs even when they are not in style!
You are a very pretty girl...don't sell yourself short!
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Yeah, I always have some kind of bang action going on to hide the huge squareness that is my forehead. I should have been born back when people plucked their bangs because a big forehead meant they were intelligent. I must be REALLY intelligent.
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