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I think it's all been said here. He's acting like a child. I really admire you for your guts to kick him out. That's really tough love. You can also threaten to report him to the police. Explain that he has no licence, insurance, etc. Besides, with him not beeing a good rider he could hurt someone ELSE. That would be awful for him to live with if he does.
Tons of hugs, Nelly. You're a fabulous woman. You deserve a loving MAN - not a selfish, reckless child.
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lol. When I read your subject line, I thought you meant a paddle to paddle your boys with.  "Kinky," I thought. "But it just might work."
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..you have me in stitches here!
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Ohmigod, can't believe I've only just seen this. What an IDIOT!
I know he's being TOTALLY irresponsible by not getting a car (I would kick Si's butt to the MOON if he did that  ) but do ya think you could talk him into having some lessons and getting a licence so he's at least SLIGHTLY safer? 
MEN. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
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Nelly!
#208761 - 08/26/05 09:24 AM
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Sheri01
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He should be loving you more than the idea of having to have a bike!
And to think of all the times that you have taken care of him when he gets really sick, is he gonna expect you to do that when he gets tossed from his bike?
Completely irresponisble to get one and not know how to use it, is he that crazy to not realize how DANGEROUS those things are???
I don't think that is out of line giving his 30 day notice, even though you aren't married, when you have been together for nine years, and you LIVE together, these kind of decisions need to be made TOGETHER, not while one left the country! There is no reason/excuse/whatever that he should have went behind your back.
If there is one thing that I can't tolerate, its a liar, and allthough you aren't TELLINg lies by keeping a secret like that, decieving someone and witholding information is almost just as bad.
ANd to think he gave YOU a hard time when you came home! It was probably guilt drove him wild, he needed to feel angry at you to feel ok with what he was doing.
I hope that you work it out, there is definately something there if you have been together that long, but make sure that you stand your ground and don't take anymore crap from him. I know that you are smart enough to know how great someone is and how much you love them, if they are not treating you right there is always someone better out there!
lots of luck and hugs!
Sheri
P.S.- you might scare him out of it further if you bring "potential renters" around to view the soon to be available bedroom!
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THANKS EVERYONE
#208869 - 08/26/05 01:26 PM
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I really appreciate all the support. No more news as of yet if BF is going to move out, or if he stays and doesn't get a bike.
Just wanted to post and tell you I eally don't know what I'd do if I didn't have you all here rooting for me. I've been crying all of yday and the day before, and now I've woken up to have this evil twitch under my left eye. Stoopid BF stressing me out like this.
Listen, thanks again. I'll post as soon as we figure out which direction we're headed. Your posts are always directly on the point, and you're all a bunch of savvy people!! It feels good having the clarity and the friends backing me up. You guys, as always, rock.
~nelly~
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That's a pretty stink thing to do, all behind your back and stuff. Good luck to you! You never know, getting him to move out may just make your relationship better 
I moved out a month ago from my boyfriend, who I'd lived with for four years (hence my rather smaller presence here in the last few weeks, I haven't had internet!).. and it seems to be going great, he's really affectionate and attentive and stuff!
Also I don't worry so much about him, he rides BMX and mountain bike, and while he's very good at both, we had a close friend break his back about three months ago on his mountain bike. He's not going to be walking again, so every time Hamish goes for a ride it tenses me up. It's a little easier just not knowing about it.
I hope it works out good either way (sleeping in one's own bed with all the blankets rocks, by the way! Treat yourself to some new not-to-be-sullied-by-stinky-men linen if he moves out). Hang in there, Nelly! 
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