Need to vent before I kill my landlord
#203130 - 08/06/05 09:22 AM
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Augie
Reged: 10/27/04
Posts: 5807
Loc: Illinois
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I don't know if you guys remember, but I was really stressed for so long because my stupid landlord was working on the apartment below mine. He is renovating the entire apartment (ie, knocking out walls, installing cupboards, bathtubs, everything from the ground up!
Well, this man does not work at all. He has the whole week to work on this apartment while we are at work. But does he? Of course not. He choses to come after 5 o'clock and usually stays until 8 which means I get to come home from a stressful day of work and eat dinner through the racket of him slamming doors, banging, and just being obnoxious, as he rebuilds this apartment right below me. (We have paper thin walls too, btw).
I talked to him twice already, maybe 3 times, and he assured me that the worst was over and that all the work would be done while I was at work.
Well, he lied. Again, on a Saturday morning, I am awakened at 7:30 to banging and shouting and noise! My one fricken day to sleep in. My day away from work to just try and relax.
I am super sensitive to noise. It is my number one stressor. I have like super hightened noise receptors or something. Well, my tummy is in knots and it is only 11:00 am. It is going to be a long, stress filled day.
And he flat out lied to me. He promised he would't be working on the apartment on weekends or when it would bother me. I pled with him...I explained that it wasn't because I was trying to be a pain, but that it was really making me ill to listen to this loud noise.
Why doesn't he care? Why did he lie? Do I say something to him yet again, to let him know how upset I am? But I already talked to him 2 or 3 times. Why can't people just be more empathetic and respectful?
He's got a guy down there with him now and they are slamming doors and shouting to each other. UGH...I needed this weekend to rest...it's been a bad week. I need to get the heck out of here! But the thought of moving is overwhelming. And by the time I move, he will probably be almost done. But then I'll have to deal with new neighbors with my paper thin walls. This is the worst apartment I have ever lived in!
I wish I could afford my own place so bad. I honestly don't think my GI problems would be half as bad if I didn't have to deal with apartment living.
Thanks for listening. If anyone is around on this weekend day, please offer some advice, as I sit her losing my mind and my tummy does cartwheels. I can't stay out all day...there is too much to do here. I hate this landlord. He is the rudest, most inconsiderat A**! 
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~ Beth
Constipation, pain prodominent,cramps, spasms and bloat!
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I have headphones on for now, as I try to listen to classical music, but I can still hear him. And it's not like I can walk around with my huge tape player to clean the apartment. Grrrrrrrrrrrrr! 
Belly does not like this construction that has been going on for months!
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~ Beth
Constipation, pain prodominent,cramps, spasms and bloat!
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Turn on your favorite music, and crank it up as high as you can (no headphones). If he comes to complain that you're too loud, counter him with his loudness and his promise to not work during weekends, etc.
Or go out someplace relatively quiet with access to a bathroom, like a local library or walk around the mall. I used to leave my apartment and go for walks whenever my roommates were being loud or just annoying the heck out of me (this was at my old place), but not really bathroom access if you're walking around outside since your tummy's not happy.
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Melissa
Friendship is thicker than blood. ~Rent
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Beth!!!
#203208 - 08/06/05 05:12 PM
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doubletrouble
Reged: 11/14/04
Posts: 1530
Loc: Canberra, Australia
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Feel free to email me any time today if you need to 
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Amy
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The worse thing about being sensitive to noise (like me too) is when the noise that is bothering you - it becomes loouder and more annoying.
I feel for you and hate to be in your situation. Hope your land lord gets a reality check knock into his head.
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I know I can count on you!  Do you even believe this is happening again!
Problem with emailing you is that your usually sleeping when the noise is going on! And it's quiet now when your up! I guess I could always vent at the time though. I just don't want ya to always hear me harping about something!
BTW, I love your symbol on your post! I am an animal fanatic! I'm the person who catches bugs and lets them out the window instead of swatting them! But bigger type animals are by far my favorites...all animals are such innocent lives that man has tended to abuse over the years.
Another bad point about living in this lousy apartment...my stupid landlord will only allow me to have a fish as a pet. One tiny fish in a bowl. I'd rather have something to cuddle with, thank you very much!
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~ Beth
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I blasted my radio while I scrubbed the kitchen floor and got rid of some of my anger energy (and got a clean floor out of too).
I don't think it made a difference to him though. He probably didn't even hear it over his their noise! But, it made me feel better for the time. He was here all day! I finallly couldn't take it anymore and left to do some errands.
So, another wasted Saturday stolen by an inconsiderate landlord. There was so much I wanted to get done in the apartment...including just watching a little tv.
Anyhow, thanks for the advice! And for listening to me...that's what I really needed! 
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~ Beth
Constipation, pain prodominent,cramps, spasms and bloat!
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When I am bothered by a noise, it just becomes so much louder!
I doubt the landlord is capable of getting a clue. When he saw me getting into my car to leave the noise, he just smiled and waved, like everything was just fine. He is clueless. Does he not remember his promise? More Grrrrrrrrrrrrs!
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~ Beth
Constipation, pain prodominent,cramps, spasms and bloat!
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Just shows you a typical male is clueless about other people's feelings. I don't understand it - MEN!!! 
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I doubt the landlord is capable of getting a clue. When he saw me getting into my car to leave the noise, he just smiled and waved, like everything was just fine. He is clueless. Does he not remember his promise?
It's very possible he doesn't. To you it's desperately important -- to him, it's not, so it could have completely slipped his mind. It's also very possible that he does, but he doesn't care. I'm guessing the latter, just 'cause most landlords tend to be, if not the spawn of Satan, at least some kind of distant relative.
I read your original post earlier in the day but didn't have any advice to add to what Melissa already gave you. I sympathize -- it's been awhile since I've been in an apartment, but in our last one we lived next door to someone who played country music really loud. I HATE COUNTRY MUSIC. Having to hear that, especially when I was trying to sleep, drove me absolutely up the wall. I was ready to commit senseless acts of violence, or at the very least grind my teeth until they were nubs.
Do you know when the remodeling will be done? Maybe if you can see a light at the end of the tunnel it won't be quite as bad. Have you tried earplugs? Do you have the hypno CDs? If you do, try listening to those on headphones with the sound turned up really loud. Are any of your other neighbors bothered by the noise? Maybe if you could get others to come with you to complain en masse he might pay attention.
I will keep my fingers crossed that he doesn't decide to work tomorrow. Sorry I couldn't be of more help.
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jen
"It's one of the most serious things that can possibly happen to one in a battle -- to get one's head cut off." -- LC
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