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thank you!! Oh, he also got me ballet lessons which I was talking about for a while, so it wasn't the only gift.
I just feel really alone right now because I just came back from London where I have sooo many amazing friends and my family and brother and I feel so depressed right now :-( I want to snap out of it, but there is noone to snap out of it with :-(
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Aww, Dalia...
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I don't have any good input on this one that hasn't already been said, but I wanted to sympathize a little. Not quite the same situation, but my birthday this past year (the big 3-0!) really sucked... misguided gifts... fought with Adam all that day... no birthday sex to even make up for it, haha... it was a real bummer. So I know how you feel in that regard, anyway.
But I'm gonna say it anyway: Happy birthday!!!
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thanks sweetie. you hit the nail on the head. I have NEVER said it would be fun to dress up - I prefer more subtle stuff and I find it sooo cliched. SO NOT ME!!
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Thanks darling. Sorry your 30th couldn't have been more fun. Sigh. MEN!
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Yeah, I can't see myself doing that either. I think I would find it too... absurd. Maybe it's because I'm in the theatre and costumes have VERY little glamor for me (as does acting, for that matter. I'd have to worry about my overriding objective, and my action... and I'd get very distracted.)
To tell you the truth, my favorite piece of lingerie ever was a gift from my best friend, not my husband. She gave it to me as a birthday present when I was complaining about all the good food I couldn't eat because of my IBS. It was a sort of, "well, at least you still have sex" gift.
Maybe it's just a gender difference?
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I say put it on and be waiting for him when he gets home.
BTW ..this advice is coming from a 57 year old "old maid".
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nós somos o que nós somos e o descanso é merda
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Oh Sweetie, why is he being such a jerk about it? If he knew this isn't your thing, why would he give it to you in the first place? At least he did give you something you wanted, the dance lessons.
I guess in his defense, I can understand him wanting to try something different but when you obviously didn't like it, he shouldn't be mad at YOU! Its awful that he is ruining your birthday and I think its ok to tell him so! I wished I lived closer, I'd take you out to lunch and we could do something silly like paint our toes or something! I don't have many friends close by either and it is hard. I'm so sorry. I hope your birthday gets better sweetie! Big, birthday hugs!!
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Normally, I would agree with this but if it truely makes you uncomfortable, than don't. But, have you ever tried it?   After a year and half of having to time sex, you start to find all sorts of ways to keep it fun!
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There is nothing wrong with having a healthy sex life...I don't think that I would appreciate a "Brittany Spears" outfit either. I am with you on this one.
I would encourage you to perhaps suggest to hubby that you call "start over"...I don't want your birthday to totally go out the window!
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Hey -- Re the husband thing - some guys have a hard time getting over themselves in situations like this, especially when he probably put himself out there by buying the outfit. I'd just give him a couple of days. Once he realizes that it's not a total disaster that he feels embarrased about (which takes some people time) you'll be good to go. In the short-term though, it might be better just to let it go until he's ready to deal with it.
- Vincent
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