How did your husband propose?
#196526 - 07/17/05 08:12 AM
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jen1013
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Just thought about this because first Melissa and now Lyndsey are engaged! I know this thread has come up in the past, but there are a lot of new people here now. Also I'm curious -- how many of you were truly taken by surprise at being proposed to?
We'd been shopping for rings for months, so being proposed to wasn't a complete surprise. (I'm old-fashioned and I would've liked to be surprised ... but he wanted to propose with THE ring, and he wanted me to pick it out first.)
It was around 9:00 one night and I was pretty tired. We'd spent some time cleaning out our front porch (which is enclosed/insulated and used like any other room), and he had gone out there several minutes ago. I thought he was doing more cleaning. He asked me to come in there for a minute. I didn't want to because I just KNEW he was going to ask me to help him start moving furniture or something and I was TIRED!! So I dragged myself in there, and he got down on one knee, held out the ring, and said, "Will you marry me?"
I said yes, of course. But, later on, when the moment was no longer quite so touching, I pointed out that it would have been more romantic if he had picked a spot that wasn't six inches away from the cats' litter boxes. 
So that's my story! What's yours?
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Congrats to the newly engaged!
I was very surprised. We had talked about marriage, but I figured he wouldn't propose until we had been dating for at least a year.
My story: It was two years ago on July 6 on our 8th month dating anniversary. It was very warm out and because of a severe storm the morning before, about half the city was without electricity. I was one of the lucky ones who never lost power. Mich was not one of the lucky ones. Mich is perpetually 15 minutes late, and he was early that evening. (I suppose that should have tipped me off, but I figured he was early because my air conditioning still worked.  ) He comes in and gives me a rose (he does that just because about once a month), and he tells me it has "I love you" stamped on it somewhere. So, standing in my kitchen, I'm looking all over the flower to see the writing and not finding it. He is getting a little perturbed at this point, and I laughed at him because I didn't know why he was bothered. As I laughed, I took the wrapping off the rose and tied to the stem was his great grandmother's engagement ring. Then he got down on one knee and proposed. I thought about it for a nanosecond before I said yes. Then I called my parents and asked if they would like a son-in-law. 
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Well, I don't have a husband, but I will share this story with you.
My boyfriend was not doing too well medically and had to go into a nursing home. Because of two strokes he had years ago he had very limited speech and problems with his memory. His sister and I went to visit him and I had on a simple gold band with some tiny diamonds in it that I bought a few years ago. He looked at it kind of funny and his sister said "He thinks its a wedding ring". I looked at him and said "What's the matter .... don't you remember we got married a few weeks ago?" He looked puzzled, then shrugged and said "Oh". So that is as close as I got to a verbal committment. Before I left that day I kissed him and said "I love you" and for the first time he said out loud "I love you."
The next day my Richie died suddenly.
That was a month ago, so I still miss him a lot, but somehow that day filled me with something that had been missing all my life and I can go on and smile when I think of him.
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nós somos o que nós somos e o descanso é merda
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It's kind of a silly story, so I thought I'd share anyway.
Last April I was visiting my mom - alone - Adam was back home. We called each other every night, but not wanting to rack up the phone bill, we mostly chatted on AOL.
So we were chatting, and wasting time on ebay, and we found THE PERFECT RING. I mean, I just fell in love with it... I've never been fond of big rings, and this was just such a cute, petite, vintage diamond ring. He asked me if I really liked it, and I said yes. He replied, "Refresh the auction." Yep, he'd bought me the ring!
Well, I was so darn excited, I was practically squeaking. He bought me a ring! Naturally, because I knew about it, it wasn't exactly a surprise, but of course I was thinking... well, would he propose when it got here? Hang onto it and propose later? Hmm...
When the ring got here, I was surprised all right: he tossed me the box like it was nothing. Erm... ok... well, we don't have the most mushy-romantic relationship in the world, so I just kind of shrugged and put the ring on.
It wasn't until a conversation almost a month later that I realized that he has absolutely no clue what an engagement ring is. Seriously. He's somehow avoided all the diamond-marketing brainwashing* and the whole 9 yards and he had no idea what he was buying me, so to speak. LOL!!
It's a darn good thing I didn't get all excited and tell everyone we were engaged! Haha.
So no, he still hasn't proposed, and I don't wear the ring all the time anymore, because I got tired of people seeing it and assuming we were planning the wedding!
* Nothing against the advertising and popular tradition and all that, but the fact that he's so clueless about that kind of thing is just one of the many reasons I adore him so much. 
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We were on vacation in our favorite spot in the world - the gulf coast - and we had gone out to dinner to celebrate our anniversary (which was the week before). He wanted to go by the beach at night, which we'd been talking about since the last time we'd been there and hadn't been able to go. So we were out walking and talking and we started talking about his sister, whom I didn't think approved of our relationship much and I started crying! He got all flustered and upset and kept trying to cheer me up, which I thought was odd since he'd never been so insistant I be happy about his sister before. Then after a bit when I'd cheered up, we were teasing each other, saying: "I love you more" and "NO, I love YOU more." And finally he said: "I love you more because I bought you this" and pulled out the box and opened it. It was really dark on the beach, so I couldn't see what was in the box and didn't want to scream "YES!" if it was a pair of earrings, so I asked what it was. And then he said: "Will you marry me?" And I knew. I started crying and screaming and hugging him at the same time. It was fantastic. 
And then a couple hours later, back at the hotel, I caught a virus and starting throwing up. Fortunately, I was better the next day, but he jokingly says my reaction to his proposal was to throw up.
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We were at the Brookfield Zoo, and that day it was raining all day! Actually, the best time to go to the zoo, because who cares if you get wet, and there were NO other people there. I had forgotten that it's where we had our first date many many years before. We were actually in the "Swamp" area, which has a bench and is very secluded. But because it was raining, there wasn't any wildlife outside, so I kept saying "Let's go!" and he kept saying "Wait a while". For one 1/2 second I considered he might be about to ask but as soon as I considered it, it was gone from my mind, cause I had been waiting FOREVER and had only recently accepted that I'd just have to wait more. Anyway, finally he got down on one knee and asked me. I think I said "Don't kid around with me!" It was a good day.
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There is a song by Allison Krauss that really makes me think of your situation... I will try to find my CD and let you know the name of it... it was about the guy and his sister. Great song, I get chills every time I listen to it!
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My daughter is getting married in less than 3 wks and I'm scared to DEATH of my IBS!! I can just see it hitting me right before I'm escorted down the aisle, or as the groom's mom and I go to light the candles. Arrrgghhhh!~ 
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It was Christmas time and I thought for sure we were going to get engaged as we had been talking about it alot.
My DH is a procrastinator when it comes to Christmas shopping so Christmas EVE he heades out the MY PRESENT! He is out for about an hour...then he returns and says "Well honey I know what i want to get you, but I don't know what size you are. Can I tell you what it is?" I blurt out "No way don't tell me - I'm a size six!!!"
So off he goes and comes back home - wraps a big box and sets it under the tree. Of course, I am postive it's a ring and he's trying to trick me!
So Christmas morning I burst out of bed and announce "Time to open gift honey - wake up wake up!"
So he gives me my gift and I open it to find the beautiful dress jacket I had my eye on!! The clincher....It's in a size 6 (I am a size 12 in clothes) so now I have a jacket that is too small and a ring that doesn't fit!!!!
I start bawling!!! He is so disappointed that I am disappointed that we got engaged on New Years. Bwhahah - which was actually just him handing me a ring and me saying YES!! I wanted the surprise but I just couldn't be patient enough so I ruined it for myself!!! LOL
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We worked in the same building, and he wrote me a long letter and dropped it off at my desk... we'd only been dating a few weeks. I read it that evening as soon as I could, and knew that he was at church that night, so wrote a long letter back to him... everything was so sweet! I drove to his church and put the letter in his car and went back home. When the phone rang about an hour later I about passed out, and he said he was coming over. It wasn't actually a proposal, just an agreement... we both knew. Since then, we have definitely realized that we didn't give it enough time before we took the step... perhaps we are really NOT for each other, but have withstood the many storms and are determined to make it work. 17 yrs plus now. Work at it everyday. ~K~
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This story is so funny! Thanks for sharing!
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He's not my husband yet, but will be in 5 days!! Our engagement isn't overly exciting. We had talked about getting married many times before. On this occasion it was a Sunday morning and we were lying in bed. He said that he thought it was time to get married and we went ring shopping later that day! The fun part of the story was when we were talking about writing our own vows. I found out that he knew he wanted to marry me after a bowling night where when he met my entire family for the first time. We had only been dating for 4 weeks! He's too cute!
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Oh Casey! Tell him what it means! Have you two talked about getting married.
I'll talk to Adam...
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Oh Carol your story sure pulled on my heart stings...{{big hugs}}
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mine is as romantic as yours!! my husband bought my ring- also, that i had picked out- when he finally bought it a few weeks later- well, he woke up one night thinking about- couldn't wait, woke me up in the middle of the night- and asked- I said yes and rolled back over to sleep- I think I thought it was a dream!!
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ROFL!!
#196874 - 07/18/05 01:55 PM
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atomic rose
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I DID tell him what it means... the two of us had a good laugh about the whole thing. And yeah, we've talked about getting married... we know we'll do it SOMEDAY, we just don't know when. (Well, ok, we're kind of disagreeing slightly on "when" - he's cool with waiting a lotta more years, whereas I wanted to get married a year ago, haha. But we'll work it out.)
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Mine too!
#196876 - 07/18/05 01:57 PM
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atomic rose
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*hugs*
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Personally, I think the fact that you've weathered so many storms is proof that you're meant for each other after all... it takes 2, cooperating and working together, to make any relationship work. It's when 1 of the partners can't or won't do that that you know it wasn't meant to be.
Here's to 17 more and then some!
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Of course, you know that the ring is still on my finger and will stay there.
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Carol
nós somos o que nós somos e o descanso é merda
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You guys are so full of encouragement of all sorts... I'm glad I entered this living room!! Actually, if anyone were to give up, it would probably be me. Not happy, actually, and I just don't see that it's right to live my life unhappy or to keep him from his full potential, either. BUT... God is good, and He has given me a faithful husband, and for that I am truly grateful. He's not a bad guy, not at all... just VERY different from me... all we have in common is that we both love the Lord (his faith is MUCH stronger than mine, though), and we both enjoy a nearby university's sports program (this is something I worked on so that we WOULD have something in common... now it's a passion!). AND... last but not least, he adopted my daughter 6 months and one day after we were married (she was 3 1/2 yrs old), which was the soonest the law allowed. So, again, not a bad guy at all... but a bit strange at times, and just not at all compatible with me. Not to say that I don't have my quirks, too... but I seriously think that if people who know both of us were asked, they would say that he is odd, and I'm more the norm. In truth, it was just after we married that I developed the IBS... within just a couple of weeks. Just a consequence??? I think it was the immediate stress of knowing I may have made a serious mistake. However, once again, thank you for the encouragement, and I do believe that if we both live long enough, we WILL have another 17 yrs.  ~K~
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I think my proposal went something like "Well, let's get married because the Navy with pay for the delivery"  That was 35 yrs ago and still counting!! 
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Oh Adam!
#197497 - 07/19/05 07:20 PM
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Augie
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Bet he was so surprised when he found out! You guys are the perfect couple! Too cute! You just gave me a chuckle Casey!
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One morning in Dec. we woke up and hubby said How would you feel about getting married. I was so excited of course I said yes right away. Immediately after he said let's not tell anyone just yet. I guess he wasn't quit read for the total committment. Ten months later we were married but it was just kind of decided without any really big earth shattering decision if that makes sense.
We have been together now 23 years so how he proposed doesn't really matter as much as the fact that he has been a wonderful, loving husband for so many years. He can be a pretty romantic guy which is the interesting part. When our kids ask now how he proposed he doesn't want to tell them.
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Oh, Carol
#197594 - 07/20/05 06:19 AM
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BL
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I'm so sorry for your loss. But that is the sweetest story. I'm so happy for you that you have that precious memory.
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