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Here in AL we have churchschool laws, and the number of parents turning to this educational choice is amazing! The Church we teach under represents more than 120 families and has extensive sports, academic, fine arts extracurricular activities as well. This is a unique opportunity for us, and one we take seriously. It is worth any sacrifice.
But realistically....5th and 6th grade coming at us in three weeks! Oh, this is going to be a tough combination!! I'm nervous!
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I don't know you well enough to know if this would work, but have you considered continuing to work full time and having DH stay home with the kids? You'll have more money, and your child won't be in daycare. Just a thought.
Another thing, if you do decide to stay home ... You broke into the field you are in when you were 21, I'm guessing? Surely that wasn't the day they invented technology. You learned the current technology and mastered it. So, when you re-enter, of course you'll have some catching up to do, but not as much as when you first started! In a field like that, you'd be constantly learning new things, even if you worked continuously. You seem like you're smart enough to jump right in wherever. I know 7 years is a long time in the tech world, but you'll catch up. Plus, like Cara, your hubby is in the same feild and can keep you up-to-date.
Good luck.
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but thats just my opinion. I've never had a "high position" career or anything. I've always worked in dr's offices. I'm not good at math but relatively smart. If and hopefully when, my hubby's business makes enough money, I will not work outside the house. My hubby just started his own business about 2 years ago and we still need my income right now. Its my dream that when I finally have a baby (hopefully very soon) that I won't have to go back to my office job and can stay at home and help Will in his business. That way, I'd still be there all the time for my child.
Worse case scenario for me is that we will still need my income but I work for a very small office and have 2 full days when the dr isn't in and its pretty quiet most of the time, so on those two days, I'd bring baby to work with me. There are several other small business in the plaza I work in and a lot of the women do this. I'm hoping Will could watch baby one day during the week, although that would mean he would have to work a little more on the weekends. But that way, baby would only have to go to day care one or two days a week.
I think if you find the right place, it can be a good expierence. As I mentioned before, I don't have family close by or friends with kids so I feel a day or two a week would be good for the baby to get out and learn social skills and interact with others.
I guess only you can know whats best. Would you end up resenting a child if you had to give up a career? Would you be happy being home all day, some women would go stir crazy. Personally, if money wasn't an issue, I'd stay home but you have to do whats right for you and your family. If your husband makes enough to support the family, than I wouldn't worry too much about your job later, those things have a way of working themselves out!
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And different for each person, I think. I would hate to give up my career. I did 4 years undergrad and 4 years grad (so far) so that some day I can be a professor. Obviously I think kids are important, but not just my kids. All of the hundreds of students I have taught and will teach matter very much to me too.
And I would be absolutely stir crazy staying at home every day!
Ah well, I hope you get to stay home because you want to Michelle, and that I don't have to stay home because I don't want to! 
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You are in a position to teach and hopefully help mold someones future, that is very important and we need good people to do it! I don't find my job overly rewarding or get that kind of satisfaction from it or I may feel differently too!!! Thats why I said, only you can truely know whats best for you and your family!
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I'm nervous enough about 1st grade and kindy at same time - and the kindy is reading WAY beyond the 1st grader so it makes things pretty confusing! 
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Michelle
...the greatest of these is LOVE. (I Cor 13)
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Yes it is a tricky issue. I wasn't going to respond as it seemed that everyone that responded all had desires to stay home but me. Made me feel like maybe I was a bad person, however, I don't regret that I do work. I don't have a "professional backround" with any college degrees. I've worked since I was 16 and got accustomed to buying whatever I wanted since I worked hard for it. We have a nice house, nice cars and don't struggle, however, we need two incomes and if I would have decided to stay home we would have struggled and I would not have been happy staying home. I guess you could say that we created this lives for ourselves and we like it. Neither one of us make enough to carry the other. I was fortunate though to have my aunt watch both of my boys. The second one did go to daycare at age 3 and he made out fine. I think some daycare's get bad raps. Not all are bad. Many people need to work simply for the health insurance and must place their kids in daycare. Some make their money and most of it goes to pay daycare.
Me not wanting to stay home does not mean that I love my children less. In fact, I hear other stay at home moms complain often that they need their own "free" time away from the kids. That is what I get for 8hrs when I go to work. I think they are being raised fine by my husband and fortunaltely now that they are older they only go to daycare after school.
Just my two cents. Hope not to offend anyone but I felt I needed to stick up for us who do work and show that it is ok to put children in daycare if need be.
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Just FYI, it DOES feel overwhelming when you add that second child in a "real" grade level. Don't get discouraged! You are in for a challenging treat!!
We're an A Beka family, and their curriculum is pretty advanced - expecially the math - and that's my weak spot. I guess that's why I'm so nervous! And plus hubby is going to be taking two classes this coming semester in his master's program, so I am getting ready for a whirlwind and a half!
But oh, I wouldn't trade it for anything!!! Enjoy!
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I think this is something every family needs to decide for themselves, and not every situation is right for every family. Among my friends (20s to early 30s), I'd say it's about half want to stay home and half want to work. I think you just have to know what's right for you. I think staying home full time might make me nutty. (I've also worked since I was 16), but I think working full time might make me crazy too. So I'm hoping to go part-time, and balance it out.
My parents both worked and my brothers and I came out just fine and never felt neglected. They just couldn't afford any other way.
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Your post made me feel better.
Idealy, yes, I'd love to work part time. That would give me time with adults and time with children. It would help tremendously with the running around that we do with baseball games and CCD on Wednesday's during the school year. I'd have much better dinners prepared and my house would definitly be cleaner. Part time right now is not an option for me. Someday maybe, but I doubt it. Now if my dad hits the lottery some day, then maybe I'll work part time.
I do love my job and would never trade it for another. They are like family to me. There are three for us that have worked together for over 17 years. Someday though, they will retire and it will be lil ol me  Until then......my life will be filled with craziness!!!!
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