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      #18945 - 08/28/03 09:10 PM
TessLouise

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Okay, I never thought I'd be on here asking anyone to pray for me, but I'm dealing with some majorly stressful life situations right now...I'm having some health problems (I'll post more on the Eating for IBS board), tomorrow I'm having an ultrasound to check for gallbladder and ovarian problems, my supervisor thinks I'm a hypochondriac, which is causing some major work tension, and the job is stressful anyway...and did I mention that the boyfriend is having some personal problems himself? Anyway, after spending more than four hours at the urgent care clinic, I'm pretty beat and am headed for bed. Please keep me in your thoughts tomorrow. I've been in a lot of pain lately and could use some relief!

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Re: need prayers new
      #18948 - 08/28/03 09:49 PM
Trish

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TessLouise,
I will be praying for you. I hope the ultrasound goes ok and please keep us posted.

Trish

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Re: need prayers new
      #18952 - 08/29/03 04:05 AM
Morven

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Am so sorry to hear that your feeling so poorley,and i hope things start to get better for you and your boyfriend soon.
Am thinking of you

Big hugs

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Re: need prayers new
      #18960 - 08/29/03 05:52 AM
BL

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I'll be thinking of you and praying for you!
Hugs *****

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Re: need prayers new
      #19018 - 08/29/03 12:27 PM
Yoda (formerly Hans)

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Hang in there kiddo. I will pray for you. BTW - you are teaching this year, yes? What are the details? Is your principal supportive or does he not understand? Anything I can do to help - let me know. Love Han

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Re: need prayers new
      #19069 - 08/29/03 09:07 PM
TessLouise

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Gosh darn it all, I just lost my message somehow! Grr!

Officially I'm doing early intervention, but the classroom in which I'm working only has one baby with a disability (and one I'm suspicious about, but that's another story). The other six range in age from 3 to 10 months. (And when the 10-month-old turns one and moves up, we're getting a 6-week-old!) I have one assistant teacher, and we work very well together. But....

We REALLY need a third pair of hands in my room. We can't even leave to use the restroom or get C.'s medicine from the lockbox in the fridge without calling the office for help.

The "floater" (teacher who covers all four rooms as needed) comes in so my assistant and I can take our lunch breaks, but he has a physical disability that causes him to be very awkward with the babies, to the point of being a danger to them...he has fallen in our room, and he has dropped or nearly dropped babies. Luckily I haven't had to mention this to my supervisor, because she has seen it herself...but she hasn't done anything about it.

On Wednesday when I asked to leave work early because I felt so terrible (I've been getting dreadfully nauseated after I eat), my supervisor accused me of having a panic attack because I couldn't handle the babies crying! We were actually having a good day, but whatever. Then on Thursday morning, she said, "If you were so worried yesterday, why didn't you go to the doctor last night?" Well, a) I went home and slept for four hours, and b) I didn't feel like spending the entire evening at the urgent care. Then last night of course I did go to the urgent care, and what did it get me? Four hours sitting there being bored, two prescriptions, a referral for abdominal and pelvic ultrasounds, and NO ANSWERS.

We've had one REALLY BAD day since the kids started three weeks ago. I mean, out of this world, I think I'd quit if I had another day like that, bad. And my supervisor was out of the building all day. But she heard from a set of parents that they had "some concerns"--never specified--about my classroom. Well, these parents were in the room because it was their 6 1/2-month-old's first day. And she had NEVER, I repeat NEVER, been away from Mom and Dad before. So as you might imagine, she did not have a good day! We wound up having to call Mom when the girl screamed hysterically for more than two hours--she didn't calm down even after Mom arrived, but did fall asleep in Mom's arms. Did I do the right thing? I don't know. But at least I was there to make the call--my supervisor wasn't in the building, not all day, so how can she judge how the day went, for heaven's sake? And let me mention that we had FOURTEEN strange adults in and out of my classroom that day!!! I wanted to bar the door!

And last but not least, I am SUPPOSED to have planning time each week, from 1-1:30 every day in the classroom, and from 3:30-4:30 twice a week outside the classroom. In this time I could organize kids' files, plan lessons, etc. Ha! The childcare coordinator used to cover the 1-1:30 slot...sometimes...when she showed up...but I sure never tried to get planning done--I was too busy being grateful for the extra hands! And now she's been hired as the assistant teacher down the hall, so.... And in three weeks, I've gotten the 3:30-4:30 slot ONCE, when I put my foot down and told the assistant director that, gosh darn it, I needed to plan! And the director (AKA my supervisor) covered my room. But short of throwing a tantrum again, I don't know how to establish my right to the same planning time as everyone else. And not having it has had embarrassing consequences--the new girl, I didn't even get her file till halfway through her first day anyway, but I didn't know how to spell her name, and we didn't know her birthday till we looked it up today....

Those are the major problems I'm having. I'm worried that something's wrong with my health, but I've taken almost 11 hours of sick leave when I only had 8 to take. So all I can see is more tension to come....

I know my first year of teaching is supposed to be difficult, but this is absurd!

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      #19070 - 08/29/03 09:10 PM
TessLouise

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The ultrasound went fine, and I should find out the results on Monday--I'll let y'all know! <fingers crossed>

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Re: need prayers new
      #19081 - 08/30/03 03:31 AM
ecmmbm

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I could've sworn I posted a reply in this thread?? Well anyway, so glad the ultrasound went well, praying they find some explanation for you.

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Michelle
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Re: need prayers new
      #19085 - 08/30/03 05:45 AM
BarbaraS

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OMG Tess you don't need that kind of stress and those poor babies don't need it. Dropping babies or close to it and the Supervisor gives you a hard time for being sick. I'm sorry for being upset.
You are in my thoughts and prayers this weekend.
Barbara

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Re: need prayers new
      #19676 - 09/04/03 08:58 PM
Yoda (formerly Hans)

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Sorry it took so long to reply. Been busy with newborn and hubby decided take this computer and play games on it for days. Anyhoo, sweetie, the alarm bells are a ringing here. I'm really concerned about this job.
1. Supervisor sounds like a butthead
2. Sounds like it's completely understaffed - which can lead to serious problems/accidents. You don't want to be held accountable for something that it not within the realm of human expectations.
3. I don't know what it's like in the states, but here in ONtario, teachers MUST be allowed their allotted plan time or the board can get in serious trouble. Check into your rights - are you unionized or what?
4. It sounds way too stressful for anyone to be able to manage. I can't handle my one month old alone and you two are looking after 7 babies?
5. I start using lists numbered when I get upset about something.
6. You were right about the 6 month old - the parents should have tried to leave her before dumping her off - how thoughtless and irresponsible. I mean what did they THINK would happen??? Duh!?
7. Your first year of teaching should be tough, but what you're going through is nothing short of ludicrous and unacceptable. You should not be able to manage and thrive and be happy in an enviroument like that.
Type back - I'm really worried about you.
Finally - a word of advice - document EVERYTHING - your prep time down to when supervisor comes in, to supervisor's COMMENTS - WRITE THEM DOWN. If there is ever a problem - you'll need written backup. Also, I would also consider writing your concerns down IN WRITING and submit them to your supervisor - (keep a copy) - that way it will CYA - cover your as$.

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I agree with Han new
      #19695 - 09/05/03 06:23 AM
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I agree with Han, DOCUMENT EVERYTHING! This is very important. That way no matter what issues come up, you are prepared and can defend yourself if necessary. You won't be left standing there stammering when your mind goes blank. Journaling events clarifies things in your mind and can help you be more objective. Make sure you include interactions with parents that you feel may be important. Even if you never have to use these documents, it can be very theraputic. It helps you "get things off your chest" instead of replaying them in your mind.
I also hope your medical issues get resolved. Lot's of us are thinking of you! Best of luck. artist(Kathleen)

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Re: I agree with Han too!----nt---- new
      #19697 - 09/05/03 06:37 AM
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Re: need prayers new
      #20264 - 09/10/03 09:51 PM
TessLouise

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HanSolo,

Thanks for your concern. I just wanted to let you know that things have calmed down somewhat. The assistant director is back from vacation, and while she's after me to get a lesson plan to her already, she is also aware that 1)I need my planning time and 2)I need a different lunch break--about 6 out of the 7 babies eat between 11 a.m. and noon WHILE I'M AT LUNCH, which creates quite a bit of chaos. Anyway, we'll see what she can do.

The center I work for is private so planning time and lunch breaks are up to our supervisors. I'm a lead teacher, so I'm salaried (assistant teachers are paid hourly), but NONE of us has a contract--we can be let go at any time with no recourse. In other words, I have no safety net.

We have extra hands in our room--director, assistant director, CEO of the entire organization, some of her friends, babies' grandmas, etc.--but none on a regular, predictable schedule. In other words, in times of chaos, we may be alone; then when we don't need help, we'll have three or more extra adults in the room.

Right now I'm just staying out of my supervisor's way as much as possible and being very firm with the more-approachable assistant director. I didn't write a lesson plan tonight, but I'll do it tomorrow night if I don't get my planning time tomorrow (I didn't get it today). I'd write them willingly if I were teaching toddlers or preschoolers, who need a daily schedule and planned activities, but I can see absolutely no point in writing a lesson plan for babies, so I'm not motivated to spend my evening writing one! I figure keeping the kids fed, changed, comforted, and entertained is enough to keep track of . <sigh>

Anyway, I guess I'll keep you posted if anything changes. I hope you're thoroughly enjoying *your* little one!

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Glad to know things are better! ---nt- new
      #20271 - 09/11/03 04:52 AM
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my crazy supervisor new
      #20402 - 09/11/03 04:43 PM
TessLouise

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Okay, I just HAD to share this: my supervisor comes in my room Tuesday and we're talking about stressful jobs (my mom didn't want me to go into teaching or social work, her two professions, because they're high-stress and low-pay). And my supervisor says, "Teaching isn't stressful! Oh, maybe in a public school setting, with all that bureaucracy, but not at a program like this!" And I'm just staring at her like, Huh? Are we living on the same planet? (I think the answer to that one is NO!)

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