Next phase in the potty training saga.....
#187746 - 06/21/05 08:42 AM
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OK. I went onto some web boards and I got this idea. Liam is still having 5 - 6 accidents a day. Some days, he stays dry all day, and the next day, nothing but accidents. He's pooping again in his pants, when he was happily pooping in the potty for a while. So, we went to the dollar store. He picked a whole bunch of prizes. We got home, opened them all up, and put them in a box. I printed off a potty training chart off a website. We have checkpoints at lunch, suppertime and bedtime. Everytime he stays dry by the checkpoints he gets a star to put on the chart. And everytime he gets two stars, he gets to pick a prize from the box. I let both him and Quinlan pick a prize from the box when we got home. Let's hope this works, because nothing else has! I'm tired of being the Maytag Queen!
We tried getting him to scheduled potty visits, and when he refused, he had an accident. Then he refused, just as a power struggle. Now, I said that it's totally up to him. I told him he can go whenever he wants, and if he stays dry, he gets the rewards. Cheer for me, I need the encouragement. I'm so frustrated. We started this in FEBRUARY and he STILL hasn't gotten this! He starts school in September and I'm terrified he'll be teased if he isn't potty trained by then! Help! Any suggestions?
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That sounds really frustrating! How old is he? I know it's supposedly harder with boys. My brother used to have "accidents" way after he was trained though, kind of a way of acting out when things were hectic or stressful (my dad worked on wall street and was kind of a loose cannon back then -- not abusive, just grumpy and loud). Anyway I know my mom potty trained me over a summer, by telling me that I simply could not wear a diaper in the pool. I knew enough not to pee or poop in the pool, so it just kind of carried over to when I wasn't in a bathing suit. You might try that with him, maybe. I think the idea of it being "up to him" whether he gets a star or not is a good idea, assuming he actually has the physical control. Sounds like he does, since he has accident-free days.
Good luck!
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Amanda
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Oh boy Alicia, it sounds like a struggle! As you know, I don't have any personal expierence in this but the new "system" you started sounds like a good one! Now, you just have to STICK TO IT!! Hang in there! Big Hugs!
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Michelle
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so clever!
#187888 - 06/21/05 01:28 PM
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cailin
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sounds great Han, its bound to work, there's nothing like bribery and encouragement to get kiddies to behave 
I saw a lovely book in a bookstore (where else?) lately called " I need to pee" I searched on amazon but couldn't find it, it was about needing to pee and what to do "like a big kid" and there was a chart in it like you are describing.
good luck!
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I think it sounds like a great idea. I may have to steal it if I need the help with my little guy!
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That totally worked for me. If I recall correctly, at the completion of potty training I got a small plastic grocery shopping cart (why did I want that? I do not know.) My parents were always super big on the reward approach- with grades and everything!
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Wow! When all else fails bribe then LOL - That's what my girlfriend finally did with her daughter and it worked like a charm.
I will keep my fingers crossed that it works now!
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Yeah, my dad is in advertising and he was always big on the incentive plans. It totally worked though- especially the importance of school and grades. My sister and I are both getting PhDs!
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My brother just finished his PhD in the fall of 2003. Couldn't be prouder. Me, I just did the double bachelors. Always sort of think what if? I had gone ahead with a master's degree. Would have done it in conducting I think. (Honours Bachelor degree in Music, Bachelor of Education)There's always the road not taken, isn't there?
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Oh yeah! I often ponder what life would be like if I had gotten a real job... with a salary... and sick days... and insurance... and maternity leave... ah well.
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Hang in there with the potty training. Some kids are harder than others and who knows why.
A friend of mine son, who is 21/2 decided last week no more diapers and is using the toilet. Her 5 year old daughter was another story and was over 3 before potty training.
My boys potty trained around 21/2. My aunt told me to buy cloth diapers and the plastic pants to go over them. That will allow Liam to feel when he has to go potty and protect his clothes. My younger ones potty trained in TX and they ran butt naked in the back yard. We had a 6 foot fence, so we had all the privacy we needed.
The funny thing my boys like to do was aim at the fire ant piles. The fire ants actually moved and didn't have too many to worry about our backyard.
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Thanks. I'm just panicking because he's almost 4 and goes to JK in September. He just doesn't GET the wet sensation signal. He just wets himself completely. He doesn't seem to be able to stop it in time to run to the potty. I'm so frustrated over this whole thing. Wish me luck - I really need it.
Today I gave him a star and not two minutes after he wet his pants. Sigh.
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Alicia don't panick - your son will get it. He may be embrass when he sees his peers wearing big boy underwear and he is still wearing pull ups.
Hang in tight - this is another parent milestone to have to survive. You had to survive much worse.
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