Need to talk and would like prayers as well, please
#15128 - 07/27/03 10:36 PM
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Trish
Reged: 01/29/03
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Loc: Australia
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I am a single parent with three teenagers, only one lives with me right now. Luke has been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome last year, Luke is 17. It was a late diagnosis as we were going down the wrong track looking at behavioural issues.
I am finding it extremely difficult to cope at the moment. My other son, Dan comes over every second weekend and I love having him, but Luke is very jealous of Dan and we have these massive screaming fits over the weekend. I am exhausted by the end of it and then have to cope going back to work (I work full time) on Monday - I feel like I have had no rest. It is virtually impossible to reason with Luke because of the Aspergers. He sees it how he sees it and that is all there is to it according to Luke! Dan and I don't have much fun those weekends, which is really sad cos I love him and only get to see him rarely. I am also trying to find a good Christian psychiatrist who knows all about Aspergers and can get through to Luke.
Please pray for this situation.
Trish
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Trish,
It seems you have a lot to deal with right now. Firstly, any single mum should be praised for the hard job they are doing alone.
I don't know what it is like to parent an Asperger's child but I do know what it is like to teach them. I feel physically and emotionally exhausted at the end of the day so you must be beyond exhausted!
At least now that you have a diagnosis you can make inroads to help Luke.
I was just wondering whether you belong to a support group for Parents of Asperger's kids? If not maybe you could consider it. Some of the parents I am in contact with say they find it a lifesaver.
Has the school been supportive? I hope so.
I'll be thinking of you,
Kerrie
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Trish,
I am thinking of you and praying for you. I have just given up my job working with children with special needs,and although very rewarding it can be earth-shatteringly exhausting, I can imagine doubly so when it is your own child. Also the older they get, the harder it is physically to deal with them during tantrums etc. Although there's not much practical advice I can give you, I am sure there are organisations who can help.
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Ohmygosh! You poor thing! ((((hugs))))
I don't even know what to say  It sounds like you're dealing with a lot--as is your fam! I give you a lot of credit working full time on top of your fam. situation! 
I hope that you and your family should find the RIGHT psychiatrist to guide you! Please let us know how things go. You're in our thoughts!
Love,
Ruchie
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Hugs to you Trish,
I don't really know much about Aspergers Syndrome so I don't really know what you are going through but I will pray for you:
Father God, I pray for Trish and her family. They are coping with a lot now, Father, but I know with your help Trish will get through this. We don't understand why you do what you do but we know that you never give us more than we can handle. So Father, I pray that you put your hand on Trish and give her a peace so she knows you are there with her. Uplift her, Lord, and ease her burden. I pray Father for Luke, that you will heal him and help him Father. Please Father, help this family in dealing with this disorder. I pray for everyone who is confronted with this. Keep your hand on this family Lord and comfort them and guide them to solutions, healing and comfort. In Jesus name, Amen.
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Trish -
My church has an intercessory prayer ministry, would you like for me to enter a card for you? It is a 24 hour prayer ministry and bless your heart that is so much to have to deal with on top of IBS. It sounds like the situation will only make your condition worse. Will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Trish, I will definitely pray for you and Luke. I did a time as a single parent when my kids were both babies. I know it's hard, and neither of them had special needs. I also taught kids with special needs for 15 years and have some experience with Aspergers. The mom of the student I worked with was exhausted in every way. If you can find a support group... other parents of kids with autism/ aspergers, or other disabilities.. I'm sure that would help- if you've not already. You are on the right road looking into help from a Christian therapist. The student we worked with was on many different behavioral charts and programs... some worked, some didn't. Some worked for a while, and then we had to find somethng else. I will pray for you in this matter right now!
Valerie
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Trish,
I have two teenage boys so I can relate. I have told my doctor many times that if I can just make it until I get these boys to college, maybe I could relax a little! My mother laughs at that though, saying you never quit worrying about your children, no matter how old they are. No wonder we have problems with our gut!
I know this must be extremely hard on you, especially since you are a single mom. I hope you can find the support of family members, friends, a church and a good doctor that can help you deal with these issues. I will put you on my prayer list!
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Thanks for the support and prayers, made me cry when I read it. BLU - yes please put me on the intecessory prayer list! I need all the prayers I can get  I am looking into support groups for Aspergers, only problem is they are all over the other side of town from me, which is a problem as Melbourne is a big place and working full time cuts it down a bit, but I will look into it again.
Thanks again, I really appreciate your support,
Trish
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Hi, Trish -
What a heavy load you carry! I'll add your family's needs to my church's prayer list (we have a neat prayer room and a small but mighty prayer team - mighty in Spirit!). Also, we have an autism support group (I know there's some controversy about where Asperger's "fits") at church - a couple of our members have children with varying degrees of autism - one young man is an adult now - very gifted; I'll pass your needs on to the group so they, too, can lift you before the Father. As for Christian psychiatrists who work with Asperger's, this may be a very, very, very longshot - but, have you ever heard of New Life Live radio program, or read any of the books by Henry Cloud, John Townsend, Stephen Arterburn or Dr. Paul Meier? They're Christian psychologists with a call-in radio program. Dr. Meier, who is actually a psychiatrist, isn't on the program anymore, but he has a clinic in Richardson, Texas. I have NO idea if he has a referral list in Australia, but.... Dr. Meier's website is: www.meierclinics.com ... I'll pray they can help.
Blessings from your sis in Christ,
Kaybee C
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Thanks, I just looked up the site and sent an email asking if they knew of any Christian Psychs here in Australia. I am overwhelmed by all your love and support!
Trish
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Trish I will add you my prayer list too.
How is your day going now? Are you feeling any better?
You have so much to deal with, but with a group of people praying for you God will comfort you. I always have to put hope in the scripture verse that talks about how God doesn't give us more than we can handle.
God knows what you can handle, even though you may not agree with Him.
Just know we are here to read when you need to vent.
Blessings,
Barbara
Check this website out. It was helpful for me recently. I've been feeling God has been silent and this article deals with God's silence.
http://www.christianitytoday.com/tcw/2003/002/2.44.html
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Trish-
You strike me as a strong woman. I am sure that your kids are good people because of the attention and love you have given them. Take a moment and give yourself credit for that.
Have you searched online for a support group similiar to our's here that other parents of children with Aspergers post on.? Maybe Dan could do this research with you and become another support system for you with Luke (I love that name)and on his weekend visits the two of them might spend one on one time together, alleviating both the jealousy and give you some down time for yourself.
I am in the middle of taking two finals this week, but would be happy to help you with online searches if you haven't time to play around with the computer. Please let me know if I could do that for you as I would love to take a little weight off your shoulders!
Although I usually keep my faith quietly to myself, I want to share with you what my late grandmother passed to my mom who passed to me, "Let go and let God". Give Him some of you worries and burdens. His shoulders are wide He wants to help those who seek Him. Maybe through this you will go from student to teacher and then be able to be a support for someone down the road. May God be with you and your family.
Johanna
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Thank you so much! I would appreciate any help I can get with looking up online support. You are a gem.
Trish
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Trish,
You are in my prayers...Georgia
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So, you know the saying "His mysterious ways", well, let me tell you, I did a google search for Asperger's support and the first 20 sites were all based in Australia! I would have assumed that the US would have popped up first, but Someone knew what I was looking for!
So here are links to various sites, some with in-person support groups, some with the best links to try and still others with general info. I have no idea what part of Australia you are in, so some of these may be far from you...
www.asperger.asn.au (I think this might be the best place to start.), link 2,link 3, link 4, link 5
I know at least 3 of these are in Australia, but they may all be. Hope this helps you find a litle peace and a shoulder to lean on. As it is here, it always nice to have people on your side who know what you are going through. Hope this helps!
Johanna
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Wow, I will certainly keep you in prayer and it will be pretty easy to remember because MY Luke also has Asperger's, he is only 4 but still, you can see where it will be fresh on my mind. I think Asperger's is an especially trying condition for the parent, because the kids are so bright, it can easily come off as though we parents have just "spoiled" them somehow, people can't always understand what is really going on in their little heads that makes them react the way they do. For me, that can make life a little lonely. I'll pray for you and Luke!
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Take care,
Michelle
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Josie,
I had a quick look at those sites, thanks for your help. I will look into them in more depth later today. It is always amazing and humbling to see God at work!
In Him
Trish
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Trish, I was just wondering how you're doing? Have you been able to find a Christian psychiatrist for your son? Just wanted to let you know that we're still praying....
.....this Scripture is beautiful and it's full of hope:
Psalm 138:8 - "The LORD will fulfill His purpose for me."
Praying that the gifts and talents the Lord has given Luke will manifest and that he will have peace, in Jesus' name.
Blessings,
Kaybee C
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I have found a psychologist - we start tomorrow night (Thursday). I am not sure if he is a Christian but we had a long talk on the phone and he seems just right for us! Praise God!
Trish
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