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I say "If it ain't broke - don't fix it" If you are ok with your arrangement and it isn't causing you any harm then don't worry about it. DH and I always make sure to eat supper together and then after that it's everyone for themselves LOL
If you find you really "miss" him or seem to be fighting to spend time with him, then I suggest the date night. Just once a week (chose the same day to keep it easy for the guy to remember) and go for supper, movie or rent movies and have popcorn on the couch!
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Lana_Marie
Proud Mommy to Bentley Taylor
Born May 12, 2004 9lbs, 3oz
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a couple answers...
a) when we worked the same hours we made date nights- sometimes dinner and a movie or tv, etc.. othr times juyst dinner and talk or to do something together around the house or out (even grocery shop)...
b) we have terrific conversations on long road trips, so tend to plan a few a year for major discussion time!\
c) when we work opposite shifts (sorta like now) we make dates to see each other and actually spend more time together during the week that is quality then we do when we work the same hours.. instead of dinner and a movie we'll spend my entire lunch hour at a restaurant where he has pre-ordered food talking and catching up with each other one day a week and on another he'll cook me breakfast. My lunch is at 9 AM and thats what we do on weekends! we also still try to get oen evening in just us.. and on Fri nights we have open guest night- when there are new stargate episodes we plan the evening around them... and many of our friends come for dinner and to watch.... if not- Dh ad his friends go down and watch anime and the women will stay upstairs and talk after dinner or watch a movie (some of my male friends prefer the latter group too...not as into anime!)
Dh is also a computer geek and sometimes stays up all night playing games or has people over to play computer games, but I tend to stay seperate from that because of my work schedule.. we sleep in 1 bed, but I go to bed by 9 PM at the latest and get up at 4, and he is more like 11 get up at 7... so we don't see each other around bed other then my going in his office on my way to bed or finding him in the TV room to kiss him good night.
Amie
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Dietetics Student (anticipating RD exam in Aug 2010)
IBS - A
Dairy Allergic
Fructose and MSG intollerant
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My husband and I have been married almost 19 years but we have never needed constant conversation or anything like that. Often as he is on his computer, I will take a book and read or watch TV. We are in the same room and that is good enough for us.
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LOL! We're wireless too. We actually don't pay for service cos we have 4 other computer geeks in the building and the one next to ours, so we've hooked up a wireless network spanning 4 apartments and 2 buildings. Only one guy pays, and it's in exchange for computer work the other 3 do.
BF wrote the incryption on the firewall we're all using, which is funny cos the school across the street is so hackable, he's been tempted to change all the file names to the name of their rival school as a joke. I talked him out of it. I hope I did anyway. 
~nelly~
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My husband and I have been together 11 years and married 6 years. This year our son came along in Jan. We have always spent time together but now it is harder. We try to plan a date night at least once a month. My son goes to be at 8 so we try to catch up then. Sometimes just sitting on the couch together watching the same program is nice. It really is an effort but in a marriage it is important. Don't worry to much about having separate intersts just make sure to sneak in a bit of together time once in while.! 
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My girlfriend and I aren't married but we spend a lot of time together. I think the key word here is compromise. For example in the summer I love spending time on my boat. Well...my girlfriend doesn't like my boat very much but she is willing to spend some time on the lake and I don't push her. I make an effort to do things she enjoys too. The key is to find that balance between suffocating and ignoring and above all communicate how you feel and listen to how he feels also. I find that if we occasionally have a good honest look at our relationship from time to time, there are fewer arguments or misunderstandings.
Just my 2 cents. Take care...Brian
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I am on the computer writing all night and hub watches TV til bedtime (which for him is 8). So I can't help much.  
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IBS-A for 20 years with terrible bloating and gas. On the diet since April 2004. Remember this from Heather's information pages:
"You absolutely must eat insoluble fiber foods, and as much as safely possible, but within the IBS dietary guidelines. Treat insoluble fiber foods with suitable caution, and you'll be able to enjoy a wide variety of them, in very healthy quantities, without problem." Please eat IF foods!
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