Social gatherings that iclude food make me uncomfortable. Does anyone else feel this way?
#119763 - 11/07/04 06:02 PM
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Casper
Reged: 10/16/04
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Loc: Memphis, TN
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Hi. I'm new to this forum, but I've been chatting on the IBS board for a few weeks. Today I went to the movies with my family and i felt like a complete loser because while my kids and hubby munched on chocolates and soda pop I had my pathetic bag of cereal and a water bottle.  Does anyone else feel out of place when going out with friends and family. Our kids' school had a steak dinner last week and all I ate were the rolls they passed out at the beginning of the meal.  ALL MY FRIENDS know about my diet, because I'm not shy about it, but I still feel like the odd one out at social gatherings that include eating.
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Oh yeah...
#119769 - 11/07/04 06:48 PM
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atomic rose
Reged: 06/01/04
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Loc: Maine (IBS-A stable since July '05!)
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I've been actively avoiding social gatherings that include eating for the past 7 or 8 months now. Restaurant food - even stuff that's "safe" - is such a trigger for me, and other people's cooking makes me so paranoid, that I literally haven't eaten food outside my own house since April.
I don't have good advice, I'm just commiserating. With the holidays fast approaching, I'm going to have to buck up and figure out some way to deal with this, because while it's been pretty easy to weasel out of dinner invitations at my boyfriend's father's place, getting out of Thanksgiving or Christmas at his mother's is never going to happen. 
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this is, for me, the worst part of having ibs. for sure. its a real attention seeker and I don't enjoy having the attention of me (I blush easily ). I am still struggling with it, but getting better. It lead me to having social anxiety disorder for a while around a dinner table...its getting better. Its best to be open about it from the beginning. My biggest problem was a lot of women making up that I was anorexic etc...that was hard...I am naturally petite (5'4 and 105 pounds)...it hurt and I am not very tough. But it has taught me to be sensitive to others.
The most important thing is to put health first and by you sticking to your diet...it will inspire your children to take care of themselves too, in anything life sends them...
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Don't we all!
#119777 - 11/07/04 07:17 PM
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peaches
Reged: 09/28/03
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Loc: Fort Wayne, Indiana
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I understand completely. I'm like Casey - I rarely eat out at places (and I work in a steakhouse, so I feel ya on the steak issue!  ) If I ever do, like at a family get-together or something, I'll bring some of my own food from home so I won't feel too left out.
The good thing about Thanksgiving is that its main food is turkey! At least we know that's safe (as long as your host doesn't drown it in something crazy  ) ! And there's potatoes and stuff, too, so hopefully this holiday won't be a complete bummer for you? What are your plans? I hope this helped in any way....I feel liek this was more of a venting post more than anything!
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On the plus side, in expalining to everyone my unusual eating habits, I have made two more people aware of Heather's diet that needed to know about it. It's amazing, but I had no idea until recently that some of my friends had IBS too.
Chany
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My parents-in-law took us out for dinner for my husband's birthday. When the waitress asked what I wanted I turned every color of the rainbow as I explained that I could not eat anything on the menu but the chicken soup (which they were out of) and could she please just bring me some fresh bread.
By the way, commiseration is sometimes just as good as advice.
Chany
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I'm so frustrated about this social eating thing. We've had so many things going on that we could not avoid and I feel like the whole world knows about my "crazy diet".
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I'm a college student, so there's eating out a lot. I usually either eat beforehand if I can, and just enjoy the company, or I manage to order the one thing possible on the menu I can eat. I work in the theatre sometimes, and they'll order pizza or something, I just make sure I bring my own food. As to my family, I've only been home twice in the past year. I ate nothing but homemade French bread that I'd brought with me last Christmas (I was in pretty bad shape IBS wise), and when I was home in March, I was working a robotics competition and was hardly home. My mom and my youngest brother have been diagnosed with IBS though in the past year, so Christmas shouldn't be too bad this year.
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Friendship is thicker than blood. ~Rent
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Crazy diet!
#119815 - 11/08/04 06:47 AM
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Nelly
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I hear you on having a crazy diet. It's especially stressful when people try to keep score of what you can and can't eat.
Isn't it just human nature, though, that the more interested you are at finding out something, the more boring the answer will be once you find it??
I don't eat out unless I can choose the place. Funny enough, I always volunteer to order the food for office parties and get-togethers as a result -- I think people are getting the idea I'm more social than I really am!! But it's easier when *I'm* the one picking the food!!
~nelly~
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I hate dealing with trying to explain things.. actually though its worked out for the best.. we host a lot of the social gatherings so I know I can eat at those.. and when we go out.. DH gets actively involved in organizing things to ensure that we go places where I can eat something on the menu... so I dont' feel too left out except when the office does food related stuff- I have never been able to eat a thing here!!!!
I just pack my own food.. and my MIL and her hubby let me bring and prep my own stuff.. she's on a different wierd diet, so they can understand.. and DFIL always goes out with us to red lobster- I can order a few things there and make a fuss about being allergic to dairy, which saves me from the fish being cooked in butter...
my folks go for sushi with us- easy enough for me to eat at safely.. and moms diet isn't that far from mine otherwise.. though she does dairy free, red meat free, low fat, and low carb!!! I can't imagine eating that way...
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