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#208612 - 08/25/05 06:15 PM
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Hi guys! 
I don't know whats wrong with me! I need advice, I have somehow gained alot of weight over the past year. I cannot fit into hardly any of my old clothes!!!
I have a good ten pounds of flab that hang over all my skirts and pants. I've started buying new clothes that fit me now, so i dont' need to lose a trillion pounds, but enough that I can wear both sizes successfully.
This is seriously depressing me. I eat NOTHING different now. If anything I eat a heck of alot healthier than I did a year ago. I mean on this diet how bad can you really be ( I avoid fried, fatty, cheesey everything more often than not).
I mean is there a secret switch that turns on when you are 23 that sends your metabolism to nothing. (I'm 24 now, but this began happening a year ago).
I need help, I need motivation, beacuse I am really not happy with my body right now. I mean I have belly flab!!! and its not just bloat, its straight up, hang over my cute cute skirts and pants belly flab, back fat, and bit arms and thighs   
I will admit my gym visits have been slacking, but the first time I've ever stepped foot in a gym was when I was 23 and a half so its not like I used to work out.
All of my clothes are 2, and 4's. I've given up on the 2's forever, and I've bought a bunch of 6's to wear in the meantime, but I'd like to get down in the 4-6 range instead of even 6's being tight lately. I'm trying to forget about the two's because honestly I'm sure it will never happen for me again considering I already eat healthy now, and can't seem to keep off the weight.
Whats even sadder is that my aunt is always like remember when you were skinnier, you looked so cute. remember when you were erinn's (my sister) size, look how amazing she looks
and then at my grams funeral.. I remember seeing you in the fashion show Ashley when you were skinny.
seriously what is wrong with people! i'm a 6 and people tell me they can remember when I used to be skinny. Peoples minds are screwed up, beacuse I IN NO WAY think that I am even remotely large, but I just want to fit in my clothes.
I need help. I feel really yucky.
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Hey Ashley,
Your metabolism does slow down as you get older and it gets harder to lose weight. I wish I could tell you what to do to lose some pounds, because I'm in the same boat. I know cardio does temporarily boost your metabolism, and weight training does in the long term.
The fact is that you're in the lovely baby making years, and your body is storing fat for that process, whether you want it to or not.
And people who tell you a size six is fat are just jerks.
Maybe someone else will have more helpful advice than me.
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Hey Ashley, sorry you're feeling so down Ugh, family can be terrible sometimes, can't they?! I'm sure they mean well (most of the time) but they sure know how to make yourself feel like crap when they start, don't they... rrg
Anyway, yeah. Can't give you a total answer here or anything obviously - we gain weight for about a million different reasons. Age is one, but at 23/24 it's not a huge factor - still a factor though as your metabolism does start to slow down a bit in your mid 20s. Less physical activity is a factor too probably. Stress can be a big one. Etc etc etc...
Whatever the cause though, I think your best bet is to just focus on being more physically active in all aspects of your life. Try to get back to the gym as much as possible yes but also walk more places, take the stairs, park further away etc. That'll speed up your metabolism. Make sure you're eating small meals often too. AND give yourself a big pat on the back for eating healthier! 
Hope that's even a little bit helpful, probably not telling you anything you didn't already know  Don't stress too much about it - I'm sure you still look amazing as always and that once you focus on taking some of the weight off it will start to come off. Best of luck! 
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I know size six is small! I think they can recognize that, but they do all think that I look much better smaller than a size six apparently.
I kinda agree.. the only thing I like better now is the fact that my boobs are noticeably bigger. Last time my mom saw me she accused me of a boob job.
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thanks for the info!
its really so sad, because I feel like at this rate i'll weigh three times my size by the time I hit thirty.
I've progressively started putting on weight over the last two years. Coincidently I quit smoking two years ago about when the weight gain started, but it hasn't stopped.. so I dunno if I can really attribute it to that.
I'm trying to be more active, but its hard to find the motivation. All winter I worked out and did cardio three times a week,strength training 2 times a week and I ended up looking larger than I did before I started.
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Congrats for quitting smoking anyway!!
I did hit a point in life where I gained more easily, for me that was about 25-26. Same as you, I was eating better, exercising more, but no difference!! Even now I know if I really want to lose a bit, I've got to work for it. It sucks huh? And I'd love to keep far from 6s too....I've got a few, and it's fine, but when you have a lot of 4s you just want to wear those and keep the 6s for the bloated days!!
But there's hope!! I know you were going to increase your cardio with running and other stuff, believe me, that will help. Don't get too discouraged! Give yourself a few weeks of serious working out and see where that gets you!
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I can kinda relate as I've gained weight too and none of my clothes are fitting right. It sucks
As for your questions, I know when I turned 25 I definitey gained some extra weight.
As Casey said in a response to my post about agining weight, being stable can come at a small price=weight gain.
I always gain weight in the summer, maybe you do too? Try not to feel too yucky as a size 6 is a very healthy size!
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thanks tina..
In the past i've always lost weight in the summer, but that is most certainly not the case this summer, or last summer.
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Have you ever seen the movie Pretty Woman? I loved that movie..anyhow, when Julia Roberts goes shopping for some new clothes, the saleswoman says "you're a size six, right"...and Julia says "yes, how'd you know"?
Point is, if someone as beautiful as Julia Roberts wears a size six, that ain't bad!
I know it's just a silly movie...but I will aways remember that line...as I am a recovered and still trying to gain, anorexic. If I ever felt too big...I remembered that line and I felt better. Silly, but it really helped me. Don't laugh! 
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~ Beth
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Can I roar too? A 6 is like a UK 10, isn't it? That's TINY. Ohmigod, I've given up on my small 12s forever! I guess I'm a 10 US.
The only thing with this diet is that it can be easy to eat more cals than you realise just b/c it all seems so healthy. Try fitday.com to get an accurate picture of what you ARE eating.
ROOOOOAAAARRRRR!
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I know.. I tried doing fitday but then I just gave up.
Maybe my problem is portion size, but to be honest, I'm not sure what normal portions even look like?
I'm not sure what a six is in the UK, and I definitly dont' feel overweight, but i'm just sad that I can't seem to fit in ANY of my clothes and the weight is slowly and steadily adding on and on and on, without much change in diet etc.. and I'm afraid at this rate it won't stop!
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Hey Ashley, I think we are really close to the same age! I just turned 24 on Aug 17th. My metabolism kind of stopped within the last year or two, so I do have to actually pay attention to my weight rather than doing whatever I wanted and still being able to fit into my clothes. I just have to make sure I watch what I eat and I do fine. If my weight starts creeping up, I cut out the desserts and maybe scale back portions a little bit and make sure I'm drinking lots and lots of water.
There are a lot of threads popping up lately about how people feel like the rest of the world thinks that a size 4 or 6 is fat! I guess I have sort of a different perspective of this than others. I am 5'5" (and a half!) and I like to stay between 110-115 lbs. I'm not obsessed about it, and if it creeps up a little higher, that's fine, but I have a whole wardrobe of clothes that fit and I'll be damned if I shell out more cash for clothes because I can't make myself lose weight. The heaviest I've been is 125, and you could definitely tell I had extra flesh. I do think that everybody has a point where, at a certain weight, they've got extra flesh to spare, though obviously this doesn't mean they're "fat". The important thing is if you care or not. I am perfectly happy at my current weight. I know my thighs could definitely be thinner, but, well, so what? I've got more important things to worry about than measuring my thighs.
Clothing sizes are really deceptive, too. I buy the majority of my clothes in the junior's department -- bottoms 3/5 or S, tops S/M. But, if I go to the women's department and put on a size 5 or 6, there is room for an extra person in there with me. I hate buying clothes because the women's stuff is all too big and the juniors' stuff is too slutty. I want pants that cover up my butt, thanks! (another place that could be thinner...)
Anyway -- did I have a point? Oh, yeah. It's all about self-image. I sometimes feel like it's self-destructive to weigh yourself. Go by how you look and how your clothes fit. And you know what? I think it's OK to feel bad for gaining weight. It's just like feeling bad when you look in the mirror and see that Mt. St. Helens has erupted in the middle of your forehead. I don't think that it means you're giving in to society's ills for wishing you were a bit thinner. At the same time, being a size six is nothing to stress about, but you need to be happy with being a size six. Yeah, so maybe you don't weigh what you did two years ago. So what? Is that the problem, or is the problem what other people are saying about you?
I'm not of much help, I know, but I saw the pic from when you and Amanda were hanging out in NY and you looked fabulous. I bet that anyone who didn't know you two years ago would NEVER in a million years dream of saying something crazy like "when you were thinner"!
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"It's one of the most serious things that can possibly happen to one in a battle -- to get one's head cut off." -- LC
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awww thanks! you're really sweet.
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#209270 - 08/28/05 02:06 PM
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Stephie
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Hi Ashley,
I don't have any great advice to offer, but I just wanted to say I know exactly what you are going through. Your post reminded me so much of me, except that rather from going from a size 4 to a 6, I went from a 4 to a 12!!  But I feel the same frustration, like I am eating less and healthier and exercising more and I just feel like I'm not even the same person!
And yeah, my family make similar comments. How I look pregnant, bloated, unhealthy.. yada yada yada.
I guess age must have something to do with it, especially when the other changes should make a positive difference.
So weird, so frustrating.
Anyway, good luck! I really hope you can figure out a good way to get to where you feel most comfortable.
*hugs*
Cheers!
--Steph
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