Are your friends and family giving you the support you need?
#178579 - 05/12/05 04:04 PM
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Are your friends and family giving you the support you need?
Often when a person is being careful about what they eat those
around them are not. This can make for a difficult situation.
Have you ever been with someone that was drinking a lot more
alcohol than you and kept egging you on to drink more yourself?
They were being selfish. They wanted you to drink more because they
felt uncomfortable indulging so much more than you. The same thing
happens with food.
We need to respect the choices others make, and to surround
ourselves with people who respect our choices. What we eat not only
affects our appearance, but is a matter of life and death. Being
overweight may not kill us tomorrow, but it will certainly affect
how long we live and how much we enjoy life.
I'm not suggesting that we dump our friends and family. I am
suggesting that we ask for their support and understanding. But if
we find that they are not willing to support us, we need to
consider whether they are truly our friends and just how much time
we should be spending with them.
As an active volunteer for Red Cross Disaster Services, I am often
reminded that we must look after ourselves first. If we don't, we
can be of little help to others.
Peter Christensen
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http://www.caloriesperhour.com/
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IMO it takes longer to re-train those around us, than it does to re-train ourselves into new habits. After all, we suffer the consequences, so it's easier to be mindful.
It took a while for my DH and DD to get used to the idea that while it's polite to offer someone else a treat if you're having one, maybe it's not such a good idea to offer it to me! After the last 6 months or so, they're both very good about whatever they can do to help me be happy and healthy, both IBS-wise and with my weight loss.
As for my friends, I just have to be strong enough to say no! I don't think I need to get rid of them if they like to drink, just because I don't. I'm not going to avoid them because they like food I can't eat. I just have to be firm enough to do what's right for me. Sounds easy, but I think it takes a while to get to that point.
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