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Mags,
Thanks SO MUCH for responding!
My friend does know I missed her wedding because of the colonoscopy. I told her though that I would be there last night and then just couldn't get myself out of the house. I used to have so much life and energy--I used to feel so free--now I feel so restricted!  I guess I will have to explain all of this to my friend--but I still feel awful for not being there for her!
Wow! Sorry you had to go through that at the fam. event! I give you a LOT of credit! I just don't have the guts right now. I'm too anxious. I feel so bloated and yech--plus the gas is out of control! I go to work--but anything social is just too much of an ordeal at this point. I hope I can overcome this--I'm not used to being cooped up and depressed!
Thakns so much for listening! I'm glad you have the support of your mom--that's great! My husband and I talked last night--and we came to an understanding! I think he finally is beginning to understand what I'm going through--and that's a BIG help! Having someone you love support you is CRUCIAL, I feel, to getting better!  We talked about ordering Michael Mahoney's IBS Hypnotherapy Audio Program--and I ordered them last night!  They should arrive sometime next week. Until then I guess I just have to hang in there--and I know they won't work overnigh--but I have to keep hoping things will get better! I'll let you know how the tapes go for me.
Thakns again Mags!!!!!! Hope all is well with you!
Ruchie
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Highsmith,
Thanks for responding! Heather's books are WONDERFUL! I think I'm just in a rut right now. I've had IBS for years but it was dormant for a long time--just recently it came back with a vengence. I'm not used to all these restrictions (not saying anyone is...), and I'm not sure how to deal with all this yet! I was just officially diagnosed two days ago...it's a lot to take in. I just feel so bloated and ugly (especially when I'm gassy--it's the WORST! So embarassing!) People have given me excellent suggestions so far on how to deal with all this--I guess it just takes time to work up your resolve, and to learn a new way of life. I guess I'll just have to be patient with myself--but it's SO HARD TO DO! We live in a society of quick fixes and instant food--instant everything! We just want an instant fix. I'm on zelnorm--my doc tried to convince me that if it works for me, it will be a quick fix. I don't believe in quick fixes! I believe in getting to the root of the problem. Hopefully Michael Mahoney's hypnotherapy for IBS tapes wil help me do just that!
Sorry for going on and on...and thanks for listening!
Ruchie
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Or, fake eat. Sounds stupid I know, but sometimes you just walk around with a plate and never touch it. People see you with food and then just keep moving they will never know. I don't think this would work if you are at a sit down meal though. Actually I usually don't go many places without my kids so I can use them as an excuse, I'll eat when these guys are set and then oh yeah I ate. And running one of them to the bathroom helps too.
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Ruchie - when you get yourself "normalized", you'll be plenty social and then some. Just don't give up. Remember, FAILURE IS NEVER FATAL...IT'S COURAGE THAT COUNTS!
I love that saying. When I had a REAL job, it used to hang in my cubicle. And, another one I like is: A DAY WITHOUT LAUGHTER IS LIKE A DAYY WITHOUT SUNSHINE. Remember what Reader's Digest used to say...Laughter's the best medicine.
So much for Mello's Words of Wisdom!
Just keep a stiff upper lip, toots, and everything will work out just fine. It does take time, tho.
I still have to go thru my colonoscopy but I put it off a few months back because the hospital that my husband had his done at sent us a letter saying that they found that their colonoscopy/endoscopy equipment wasn't being cleaned properly...DING, DING, DING...boy the bells went off in my head. And, I guess I'm still hesitant even tho I talked with the hospital and they assured me everything was being done properly now. So, soon I'm going to need everybody on this board to cheer me on to get it done. I guess I haven't suffered enough yet to get the lead out! (Boy, what would I do without "sayings" to help me say things???) 
Sharon
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Sharon
"Anything Chocolate"...that is all!
Edited by SharonMello (03/21/03 08:47 AM)
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I find my husband and parents are huge advicates for me. At Christmas I wanted to cry because even though we tried to make things I can eat there wasn't alot i could eat and I miss eating the foods they had. They made baked potatoes and I ate three of them and a little salad and that was it. My parents explained to my aunt and uncle why I wasn't eating and they were really interested and that was so nice. My sister always makes sure she has pretzels at her kids birthday party so I can eat and I help her pass out cake and ice cream so I am busy not thinking about not eating the ice cream. I love the fact that they care so much and I love that my husband is willing to fight and defend my situation. He even tells everyone how great the food we eat now is. Now if only my mother-in-law could remember what I can eat. My husband laughs at her because she will buy something and say to him, Heidi should be able to eat this and he will say what is in it, no she can't because ... It is pretty funny.
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Heidi - could you possibly send your mother-in-law something in writing re the ingredients you can have? That way she could put it on her fridge and have it. Or the next time you visit, you could bring it and ask her to put it on the fridge so she'll always have it handy. Or something like that. The words aren't coming to me today...duuuuhhhhh!
It sounds obvious that she cares about what you can eat if she asks about what you can have.
Sharon
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"Anything Chocolate"...that is all!
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We were talking about doing that. I did that for my sister and I have shared some recipes with her and she loves them.
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My step mom was really helpful for me too. She actually went out and bought a whole bunch of food that I can eat and she keeps them in her freezer for when we come visit because the first few times I brought my own little cooler. (Which didn't even bother me - but she is such a hostess and she hated that she wasn't cooking for me - gotta love her)
My husband is excellent too - when I am not feeling well - he doesn't order in because he knows that I will not be able to withstand the ordering in mode LOL. Also - he knows that I should have a snack and reminds me.
My mother in law however, not so great. For our wedding they gave us a gift certificate for 5 years worth of beef. Good idea at the time, but not helpful now. Anyways - the other night she called and asked us if we want a half of beef. My husband said "Mom, that's too much because Lana can't eat that anymore, maybe you could give us half of that and then buy us some chicken breasts and fish." She said, "We don't buy any of that stuff so we can only use the coupon for beef."
Gotta love inlaws. If it was her baby boy who couldn't have the beef - you could guarantee she would find some fish and chicken for him.
I just repeat - I love my mother in law, I love my mother in law.
Lana_Marie
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My mother has been friends with my mother-in-law since before my husband even dated. We still wonder how the heck we ended up together. Our friends were just as suprised as we were. Anyways, I am so lucky. I love her, she is like another friend. We sometimes call each other to vent. Of course, she loves me because I married her son and gave her grandaughters, LOL. Now if only I could give her a grandson I would probable be her favorite person. Just kidding. My husband has an older brother and sister and they are not married.
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I know my mother in law likes me - but she just is stuck doing things HER way. They don't understand that I cannot eat somethings and there is nothing we can do about that.
My sister in law is wonderful. She is the only one I can vent about my mother in law to because my husband just gets hurt. She is a wonderful person to have around. Actually she's coming to visit me in a couple weeks - maybe I can bring up the meat thing with her - she's really good at helping me out with her mom!
Lana_Marie
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Proud Mommy to Bentley Taylor
Born May 12, 2004 9lbs, 3oz
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