I Don't Think Hubby Can Eat Another Piece of Chicken or Fish - HELP!
#326915 - 03/20/08 01:04 PM
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Susie2
Reged: 08/07/06
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Loc: Pomona California
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My DH has been really wonderful in supporting me and my IBS. He doesn't complain about what I cook, but I know he is getting sick of chicken and fish. Right now I am exhausted from taking care of my daughter and trying to eat what I need to eat. I usually cook because I get sick from most restaurant or take out food. These last two days I simply ran out of energy - had no left over safe food to bring with me or eat when I came home (I've been cooking whatever my daughter feels like at her house and she refuses to eat anymore chicken or fish) and I ate so poorly that I am paying the price today. Also think i"m stressed out. I can barely think of going to the market and making one dinner tonight, something nice, nourishing and IBS safe (plus I am diabetic) let alone cooking him something nice. What do you girls do? Do you cook separately for hubby and kids?
Don't you sometimes wish you could you could eat a juicy grilled steak, salad with blue cheese dressing, creamed spinach, and a yummy piece of cheese cake for dessert? And have someone else prepare it. And not be sick afterward.
Susie
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I can't help on this, but I am very curious to see what people say. My fiance eats no veggies/likes fast food, pizza, etc...and he is tired of ground turkey that I cook! You are not alone Susie.
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I tend to be of the "if you don't like it, fix your own dinner" school of thought.
That being said, my husband is pretty tolerant so long as I don't feed him fish too often. He now actually likes ground turkey more than hamburger!
Say, what about doing foil dinners? You could put chicken in yours and a pork chop in your husbands. There's directions over on the recipe board.
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Fortunately my hubby hasn't complained yet. He still goes out for fast food for lunch occasionally or has pizza at work on pizza days. We've gone over to friends' places for dinner a few times and then he has whatever they prepare (usually BBQ'd steak) while they are kind enough to make chicken for me. Plus I try to keep as much variety in our menu as possible - for the first month or so on the diet I was making the same old things over and over, but now I make lots of different things.
Try some different IBS-safe marinades and seasonings for chicken and fish. Try different fish or seafood - I like salmon (prepared several different ways), the breaded Highliner Healthy Bake frozen fillets, shrimp/prawns, scallops, etc. Use ground turkey to make your favourite ground beef dishes - meatballs, meatloaf, shephard's pie, etc. Try vegetarian substitutes - the Yves Veggie Cuisine Veggie burgers are quite good - even hubby likes them.
If all else fails, throw a steak on the barby for hubby and grill something safe for yourself!
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IBS-A since age 12, and fructose sensitive; with the exception of my pregnancy, have been following Heather's diet since Nov. 19, 2007.
Taking 12g of Acacia per day. Relatively stable since March 2008!
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Oh Susie I sympathize with you!! I have to cook 2 protein sources most of the time at my house.
Here's what I do, and it may help you.
On the weekend I make a couple big meals - 1 with chicken (I don't handle fish well) and 1 pork or beef, specifically for the DH. Then, as there is enough meat cooked for 2 or 3 meals, we don't have to cook meat for a couple days. I'll eat leftover chicken breast in salad or wraps for lunch or reheat it with some sides for dinner. This way the hubby can have his red meat and pork fixes and I'm still safe. I would never even consider eating a piece of beef or pork now. I've been off of it over 15 years now, there's no turning back!
So, the rest of the week I'll make something we can share - ie stir fry and rice, spaghetti and sauce made with ground chicken, chicken chili, minnestrone soup (homemade of course). I have one huge advantage that my DH is not fussy when it comes to food.
He'll ask for meatloaf or sheppards pie and I'll buy him one from M&M Meats because I don't even know how to make them. He gets burgers in the summer and I have chicken burgers (not breaded), but a lot of the time he'll snag the second chicken burger I make as an extra and put a regular hamburger in the fridge as leftovers. In the winter I make him pizza every second Friday and it lasts him 2 to 3 meals too. I usually just have something else on Friday - leftovers if there's any left, or soup and toast. Even though my tummy's fussy, I don't consider myself a fussy eater. The only food I won't eat (ever!) is corn.
It is tough always planning 2 meals, but it's very doable for us. After 10 years together it's just habit to run to the freezer and fetch 2 meals out. This way I stick to the diet and he's not squawking because all we eat is chicken!
Best of luck to you.
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Cassandra
Live like there's no tomorrow. Love like you've never loved before.
IBS A 20+ years, Chronic Migraines, Chiari Malformation (decompressed June 22, 2010), Brachial Neuritis, and ??? the list just keeps growing, but I'm still shiny side up! 
Edited by Toady (03/20/08 03:23 PM)
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Typically my husband and I eat around the same thing. Every once and a while I will make teriyaki chicken, carrots and rice and instead of the carrots and rice for my husband I will make french fries for him. Also on Fridays he buys Chipotle (oh how I miss Chipotle) for lunch and on the other days I make him a ham sandwich for lunch. He is trying to lose weight so it was his choice to eat what I eat. But some weeks it only lasts till Weds! I buy him Kilbasa a lot of times at the grocery store or some thin pork chops or steaks and just cook two meals. Cooking two meals isnt bad, its usually just a different meat. I dont really miss red meat cause I never used to eat much of it. I do however really miss cheesecake like you said. Oh how I miss cheesecake! My husband says that one night I should just stay at home eat Chipotle for dinner with real chips and salsa, drink a margarita and eat a nice big piece of White Chocolate Raspberry cheesecake from the Cheesecake Factory and just sit in the bathroom and wait for it all to hit. Oh my poor innocent husband has no idea what IBS is really like!! 
Stef
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I got creative with ground turkey! I make enchiladas and tacos and use that instead of ground beef. I also make a penne pasta bake and use crumbled turkey sausage instead of the beef. Jennie-O has a turkey loin (my fiancee swore it was pork)! Delicious!
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My husband is very easy when it comes to food, I make sure to keep salsa and regular cheese in stock and he's a happy camper. He's recently started eating baked Tostitos instead of fried chips. For the past 3 months he's been working nights so he's normally home for breakfast only (cereal, oatmeal, toast, bagels), unless it's his day off. Since I'm the only one home for most dinners I tend to make something simple for myself or eat leftovers from the day before. When I cook I tend to make extra for lunches or for dinner the next day. When I'm too tired to cook and he's home (he's a full time student as well) I'll make up some grilled "cheese" sandwiches, using soy sliced cheese and smart balance light for myself, while making his with regular butter and sliced American cheese. We also make grilled chicken sandwiches, or just regular chicken breast basted with different flavors. Twice a month I do the grocery shopping and buy a whole chicken to season with taco seasoning and we have chicken tacos, with only two of us it'll last a few meals. I also have a lot of regular snack items around for my husband since he is away from home for 2 meals almost every day. He does not want to eat out so he takes snack items that do not require heating. (Kashi Bars, raisins, trail mix (low salt), natural peanut butter, low fat crackers, fruits, veggies, and homemade oatmeal bars we put together once a week). My husband was never much of a red meat eater but he does enjoy a burger every now and then. I tell him he's welcome to have it or pizza, anything he enjoys that I can't eat. We always have homemade bread in the house, so sandwiches are perfect for when you're too tired or don't have a lot of time to put something together. You may want to look at the recipe index and see if you can find something new or different to try. I visit it a couple of times a week and always find something else I want to try.
-Samantha
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IBS-D - Diagnosed August 2002 (No D since October 07!)
Pain (No pain since October 07!), Gas/Bloating (Better)
Mild Ulcerative Colitis - Diagnosed August 2007
Acid Reflux - Diagnosed 1997
Medicine: Acacia (24 grams), Prilosec [Reflux] (20mg), Lialda [UC](2.5mg).
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Can't believe I haven't thought of tacos to use ground turkey for! Thanks jhuggs! 
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IBS-A since age 12, and fructose sensitive; with the exception of my pregnancy, have been following Heather's diet since Nov. 19, 2007.
Taking 12g of Acacia per day. Relatively stable since March 2008!
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I have been on the diet since June 2007. At first I fed my husband what I ate. It took about 2 weeks before he told me that he wasn't eating chicken and fish all the time. Now I plan two protein sources for most meals--I literally never feed him chicken or fish intentionally--if he choses to eat what I eat then fine. I use the crock pot, I make foil dinners with different meat, I make oven fries (that I can eat too) and grill separate meat, etc. It takes a little extra planning since I work full time but it is doable. This morning my husband told me that he hoped I could eventually eat "normal" food because I was too skinny!!! Now if that doesn't take the cake. I don't think I am skinny and I definitely am not--I just weigh about 20 lbs less than I did 18 months ago and I am well within normal range. I guess he got used to a little middle age padding. I still weigh more than I did when we got married!! Good luck to you Susie. I know you are having a time of it with your daughter and all. One thing I have determined is that I can eat the chicken fajita meat at two of my local mexican places (in TX there is one on every corner). Also there is small cafe near my home that sells the best chicken noodle soup and it doesn't bother me. Also, one of the mexican restaurants has a snapper cooked in a foil pouch that makes the most wonderful fish tacos with corn tortillas and a little avocado & salsa. I order what I can eat and let hubby get his beef!!
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Barbara50
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You are an amazing bunch. Cooking two meals so you can eat safely and hubby is happy. Seems like we are also a lucky bunch that we have understanding hubbies. In fact, mine called last night and suggested we go out to dinner as he knew how burnt out I was. Trouble is he doesn't get home until after 7 and it would be almost 8 by the time we ate at a restaurant.As it is we sometimes don't eat dinner until 7:30.
With your encouragement I did make him one of his fav dinners. Grilled lamb chops, cauliflower with cheese sauce and spinach salad. He LOVED it and there is plenty for him for tonight. I think I will pick up Halibut for myself for tonight. It is the wild caught and is on sale at sprouts. a mini semi healthy store. We don't have Whole Foods or any really good markets where I live. We do have a Trader Joe though.
On to the turkey. I know Heather recommends white meat chicken and turkey. Do you gals use ground white meat turkey or just plain ground turkey? Spaghetti and meatballs sounds so good. I made some for my daughter and her kids and she said it came out amazing. She wanted it made with beef. Again, thanks for all the suggestions.
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I understand too. My hubby has been very supportive for the past 3 years of my IBS change. I don't usually make two meals for him and I. I use ground turkey for meatloaf, chili, spaghetti, egg rolls and other ground meat recipes. I make two small lasagna's one from here for me and the other for him and the kids. It is the same amount of work. Every once in a while I will eat a 1/2 of a very lean pork chop while making them for him. If we have ham. I buy regular ham slices for him and I take a turkey ham cut it into slices and freeze them individually. There is a really good and safe recipe on here for scalloped potaotes that I also make. Hubby loves it. On pizza nights he makes his frozen pizza and I make an Amy's soy cheese one or if we order out I get a cheese less one from our local pizzeria. As far a hamburgers and hot dogs. I buy Ball Park turkey dogs and regular ones for him, and frozen hamburgers and Jenni O frozen turkey burgers. Plus Alexia or Cascade Farms makes great low fat frozen fries. I don't have the luxury of making alot of homemade things because I work full time and have two little ones. But I do alot of improvising to help me through. Hope that helps you a bit!!
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I second a lot of the suggestions already given: try ground turkey (I use breast or all white meat) to make hamburgers (Kree's Peking burgers are fabulous), meatloaf (Shell's meatloaf recipe is yummy), spaghetti sauce, chili, Maid-Rites, sloppy joes (Yoda's recipe is wonderful), and so on. Do try different types of seafood - there are a number of shrimp recipes, including a bunch of different scampi ones (I like mine best but I think they're all pretty darn good). Also, try scallops or mussels (I posted a Rachel Ray mussel recipe that's wonderful). Some types of fish - like swordfish - are not as fish-like as, say, salmon so maybe you can sneak some of that in.
Also, don't forget about frozen entrees and meals for your husband. They're often high in fat so they may not make good everyday choices but they could be just the thing when he can't stand another piece of fish or chicken. Stouffer's makes good lasagna, stuffed peppers, and spinach souffle; Marie Callender makes some full meals; and there's always frozen pizza. That way you're only really "cooking" one dinner - yours.
HTH.
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I don't always eat the same thing as my family. If I'm tired and we pick up fast food, I make oatmeal. Not exciting but safe.
If you have Costco, they have turkey burgers in a big stack like hamburgers. I make them on my George Forman grill. My kids and dh love them too! We actually eat very little red meat here and it's been that way since before I ever had IBS.
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Laura
DX IBS 12/07
Following IBS Diet with Weight Watchers
Also GERD
Former cast iron stomach
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Ground white meat only for me.
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Barbara50
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Update
#327095 - 03/23/08 10:32 PM
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Susie2
Reged: 08/07/06
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Loc: Pomona California
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Thank you all so very much. I finally figured out how to use the recipe exchange index (duh) and I am so jazzed now. So many new things to try. I will make DH a couple special meat dishes that can freeze well in portions, but I am going to try a lot of ground turkey or chicken breast recipes for stuffed peppers and meatballs and stuff. those Peking chicken burgers sound delish. DH loves shrimp and scallops and I can get pretty good frozen ones at Trader Joe. Plus I do buy him bologna (yuk - but it's Boars Head so I don't feel like I am killing him) and hot dogs which he loves (again Boar's Head). I guess I had just hit the stress wall.  I've managed to recovery this weekend and will be going back to my daughter's tomorrow. She is doing better (3 weeks post surgery) and I think after this week she won't need so much help. She has great markets near her - Gelson's and Whole Foods. Where I live we don't have all that good stuff, so maybe I can get fresh mussels and try one of Sand's recommendations.
So, once again, thank you, thank you, thank you!  
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Sounds like things are lookin up for you and I am so thankful!!!!
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Barbara50
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Re: Update
#327105 - 03/24/08 07:23 AM
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Sand
Reged: 12/13/04
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Loc: West Orange, NJ (IBS-D)
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I'm so glad you're jazzed about recipes again - it seems to go in cycles for me. And I'm really glad your daughter is doing better.
I hope you enjoy the mussels. (I actually bought mine at Shop-Rite which is about the furthest thing from a "health" grocery store I can imagine.)
Take care.
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Re: Update
#327109 - 03/24/08 08:38 AM
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Toady
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I'm glad you're doing better and your DH is happier eating!! I remember when Thomas and I first started living together - I forgot he ate "meat". So the first 6 or 7 months all we had was chicken and fish! One day he asked to go grocery shopping with me - to buy meat! I felt so bad - here's this heavy equipment operator of mine sustaining himself on chicken and veggies! Not that it wasn't good for him, but he needed more sustanence.
Hope your tum stays good and your kitchen a happy place!!
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Cassandra
Live like there's no tomorrow. Love like you've never loved before.
IBS A 20+ years, Chronic Migraines, Chiari Malformation (decompressed June 22, 2010), Brachial Neuritis, and ??? the list just keeps growing, but I'm still shiny side up!
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I always looking for new recipes please post what you try!
thanks
emmasmom
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