How do I convince my husband I am not crazy???! *DELETED*
#326783 - 03/18/08 03:50 PM
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cdc6800
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Has your DH ever been around when you're having an attack? (Are you C or D?) If he's there on the other side of the bathroom door while you're cursing in pain, screaming or biting your tongue, then he might understand more. Better yet, if you're anything like me after an attack, I'm wiped and need a nap (once everything settles down) and I drag myself around the house. Has he ever had to carry you from the bathroom because you were too weak or your legs were asleep? Then they start to understand the physical strain put on your body.
And yes, tell him your ibs is all in your head! You know it in your head if you eat dairy you'll have trouble with your tum, so you chose not to subject your body to it. Grrr... I hate people who say it is all in your head! It's very frustrating because they have never been through what we deal with daily!
You can tell him you chose to eat they way you do because you feel better this way. If he choses to eat what he wants, why can't you!
Probably wasn't much help for you, but good luck anyways!!
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Cassandra
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IBS A 20+ years, Chronic Migraines, Chiari Malformation (decompressed June 22, 2010), Brachial Neuritis, and ??? the list just keeps growing, but I'm still shiny side up! 
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Ask him to go to an IBS/gut specialist or Dr appointment with you where you discuss specifically the IBS.
And tell him to wake up. He's meant to love you not judge you. I'd leave someone who treated me like that. Don't be a doormat.
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I think that for the last 3 years I have been able to eat anything I want and then now all of a sudden I have this pain and all these symtoms, and its hard to believe that it can come along just like that, but it did! So its hard for him to understand that, I think.
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I have always had stomach "issues" but end of 2006, early 2007 my father was dying and my stress at work was elevated to a whole new level. I was drinking more coffee than ever and eating fast food a lot. The result was IBS. By the time I got back home after my Dad's service, I had completely quit eating. My husband was ready to have me committed. He even talked to me about seeing a psychiatrist! Instead I made an appointment with my internist which led to my gastro guy and about 4 months later I got the diagnosis of IBS and within 2 months I was on this diet after finding the website in a moment of pure despair. At first my husband was very skeptical and even made me promise that if I did not get better I would see the shrink. I was very determined and stuck to this diet like glue. I take the acacia and am eating 4 or 5 small meals per day of the permitted foods. It took about two months to get fairly stable but now I am really stable and my husband has become a believer. We have been married for nearly 40 years so he knows me better than anyone. What gave him concern was the absolute phobia I had developed with regard to being away from a readily available bathroom and he was right. I am happy to say that I (at least for now) have gotten past that phobia although I don't purposely put myself in that position. Hang in there with your hubby. He will grow to understand and believe as you get better.
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I totally sympathise becasue my BF thinks that it's all in my head too although he is sympathetic when i am having a particuarly bad day.
However, what hope do we have convincing loved ones that it's not all in our heads when this is exactly what a doctor told me once - "It's all in your head and if you think you are going to be sick you will be."
Be patient with him and stick to the diet. If your will-power crashes and you give into temptation it is confusing for him that sometimes you will eat certain foods and other times you won't- reinforcing the suggestion that it is all in your head.
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I'm sorry that your husband doesn't understand that it's not all in your head & I don't have any advice for you - sorry. I just wanted to say that I can relate to how IBS can just come on. I have D mostly, & it started less than 2 years ago. Bam! When I would get my period I'd have to run to the bathroom all day. After a couple of months I was diagnosed with IBS & endometriosis. I am amazed how it just hit me one day, no warning signs. I am doing the hypnosis CD's I think they are helping & the last CD is about talking to people about IBS (which I haven't gotten to yet). Good Luck, I hope your hubby will come around soon!
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